Dont have kids, dont get married

[Wild self]

You coupd have all the wealth in the world and you still would be a man in your current mindstate.

You advocate me arguing back and forth with a angry miserable woman? Thats what your type of men do huh?

I aint a simp and a anti-black woman hater like you. Families are only a blessing if They are planned without irrational expectations

 

[Goat poster]

how y’all feel about this?I know it’s been talked about before but we got some level headed brehs in here.

I wanna see what some y’all say regarding this
Wish it had its own thread to see the responses given

It’s not a conversation most folks are ready to deal with cause society still forces marriage as the “normal” progression in a persons life.

But gender dynamics/ roles changing , waning influence of church, men not succeeding in higher education comparable to women, the economy being shyt, home ownership being out of reach for many, divorce courts and child support not benefiting men , and unlimited options with dating sites and social media are many reasons that marriage will continue to fall out of favour for young people.

there are many things in society that should be reevaluated (jobs, housing, marriage, the environment )

but we don’t want to acknowledge the burning house.

 

[fifth column]

So many more dimensions to this life than running around having fun but you got to be courageous and grow

 

[Chaos]

That is so sad what you are going through OP. Have yall tried marital counseling? Or individual therapy? It sounds like both of you are suffering and need healing. Losing someone you love is one of the hardest thing to go through. I've been there. Find some good support, not this place.

 

[Thegospel]

I aint a simp and a anti-black woman hater like you. Families are only a blessing if They are planned without irrational expectations

Lmao. You strugglin. What are irrational expectations from the black women you supposedly love?

 

[Wild self]

Lmao. You strugglin. What are irrational expectations from the black women you supposedly love?

Struggling? you stay with the white woman-style lies.

I meant from both parties, dumbass. Neither one cannot be irrational and fairytale ish.

Go back to your Asian wife that you gotta sacrifice over 50% of your wealth to.

 

[Orbital-Fetus]

we just spent 5 mns talking about why some nikka aint fix his sons shower head

could not be me, fam fam.
i would've stood up and said "Yall talking about shower heads? Makes sense cause you all washed!"
flipped over a table and got some shyt off my chest. how you gonna sit there and listen to another man tell you about his problems?
taking in all of that negative energy that you will no doubt release upon the ones you love most...

could not be me, family.

 

[Orbital-Fetus]

The coli loves you or hates you but they'll roast your ass and make you mad either way

sig worthy

 

[Mowgli]

I've been married

I agree with the premise

If you found a partner that you absolutely cannot live without them. .. Then definitely marry that person

But anything short of I'll die without you energy

Forget about it. .

Even with that energy it's still 50/50 that you'll be with them 10yrs later


Save yourself

Don't get married if you think you can't live without a woman.

 

[CW_1991]

FALSE

women in they 20s wanna date dudes in they 30s who are in shape and have they shyt together, emotionally and financially

If you in shape, have decent money, are somewhat cultured, you can pull some younger fine hoes relatively easily

Sure, but the guys you're describing really isn't in abundance. They exist, but they're not your average person over 30.

 

[Orbital-Fetus]

at this entire thread.
i actually read most of it and some of yall are really going through it.
all relationships have ups & downs, we have all lived through that unless you've never been in one.
i can only imagine how compounding a serious illness, cheating or death would be on a relationship.
i ain't even gonna try to give advice on how to live your lives or heal your wounds.

Spoiler

anyway, i've been with my girl almost 21 years.
we never wanted to get married or have kids so we didn't.

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[Verbal Kint]

Thank Gawd for the Coli
A nikka can come on hear and vent in his deepest darkest moments and get all that pain out so I can go on bout my business in the real world.
A nikka been hurt. This year damn near killed me. Lost my son, my favorite person in the world, 2 days before his 10th birthday. Lost my father in law, the best man I know and a model for manhood, less than a year later. Then my wife, who I'd believed would be ride or die forever, quit on us. So now I'm dealing with a moody 16 yr old and needy 5 yr old twins by my damn self. Its tough. But I'm a g. Making power moves. Getting my book published, starting a side career, done lost 25 lbs, fighting these thirsty women off with a stick . Closer to Gawd than ever. But sometimes shyt gets dark . So to the real ones on here, not the troll 15 yr olds, live, love, do all that you can. I guarantee you none of you have had your heart destroyed 3 times in 16 months like me, but I'm still living life so ain't no reason to be scared of pain.

 

[African Peasant]

LOL @ theColi turning into a boomer MGTOW bullshyt. A lot of btterness. Being single won't save you.

Good luck.

Find GOD.

 

[Verbal Kint]

So your wife (who I assume was previously solid) experienced back-to-back devastating losses, is out of her mind with sadness + grief and has given up on life, but your main takeaway is fukk marriage and fukk having kids?

Sounds like a lot of unresolved, unaddressed trauma, grief and depression is going on here but your specific situation doesn't feel like a great example of why people should never marry or have kids point blank. And to be clear, I'm very much aware that most marriages can't and don't survive long after the loss of a child, but to take that experience and try to use it as a means to convince other men to never marry or procreate at all is weird as fukk.

nikka I ain't start a podcast or a No Girls Club. I was venting on the internet on a Tuesday night nikkas ain't listening to me on here. Its weird that you felt the need to analyze my trauma and make a value judgement about a Coli post

 

[Thegospel]

Struggling? you stay with the white woman-style lies.

I meant from both parties, dumbass. Neither one cannot be irrational and fairytale ish.

Go back to your Asian wife that you gotta sacrifice over 50% of your wealth to.

Namecalling and smilies and personal attacks. Yeah you strugglin lol. What is irrational and fairytalish you feminine lil dude?

You act just like Nicole. If you act like a single, angry miserable woman but think you're a man.........think again