Ladies and gentlemen... The reason why your first convo with a female should be somewhat of a cliff hanger, at which point you leave your number and instruct her to contact you... You then proceed to go about your life like you've never met this female. If you're in a social setting, rinse and repeat at least 5 times.
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It happens breh. I have yet to fully understand women. I met a girl last month and we talked and set up a date went out twice and we had fun and shyt and then we just stopped talking all of a sudden. I just left it alone thinking she was uninterested, she hit me up with that "hey stranger" text asking where I've been. I replied like "I hit u up twice with no response so I figured u found something better to do or didn't wanna talk.". She says something along the lines of "you didn't really pursue outside of texting me so I figured some other girls had your attention". All I could say is, if I text and u don't respond what do u expect. She wanted me to chase herso we texted a little bit more and all she did whenever the opportunity arose was ask about other girls and stuff like that so I eventually returned the favor and stopped responding. Last week I get a text from her saying, "if you wonder why I had reservations about you, this is exactly why, I hope you have fun with whoever has your attention". I never responded back.
I have had instances where girls act brand new after I get the number but mostly they just question me to the point where I get frustrated and say aiight I'll hit u up later and never talk to them again.
You did the right thing. She sound mad needy and annoying. Ole you gotta give 80% effort while I only give 20% ass heffa
ThanksI wouldn't do that to you because ur sexy.
Try this next time...
1. Dont call. If you didnt exchange numbers (meaning you're not saved in her phone), she won't know who it is and likely won't pick up. If she does, you're catching her by surprise and you run the risk of her ending the convo quickly to escape the awkwardness. Alternatively, you may catch her at a bad time which again harms your chances. Save phone calls for girls you're already seeing.
2. Text her and keep it simple and to the point. Here's an example:
"Hi jenny its OP. how are you?"
"im great thanks, how bout you?"
"good good. do you want to hangout this week?"
Focus strictly on logistics. You're not texting her to have a conversation, you're texting her to setup a date. Save rapport building convo for in person meet ups.
3. Take note of timing. It's better to text a girl at 8pm during the middle of the week, than late night Friday or Saturday when she's likely got other plans and people to think about. You can also use timing to guage interest... if it takes her less than 10 minutes to reply to your first text, thats a good sign. If she no replies or it takes days to hear back, she's not that interested.
See if that gets you any further.
when you call, ole girl basically don't wanna talk?
Here's the scenario (happened on 3 diff occasions)
struck up a nice convo with a woman... at the end, I ask for the digits... she's smiling, gives them to me... then when I call a day or so later, I say "hey" she says "who's this" I tell her it's "neotheflyingone" she says "okay, Imma give you a call back"
But I never hear back.Had it happen at least 3 times on 3 different occasions....
I don't get it. Why give me the digits if you don't wanna talk?
Just tell a brotha "no"
I'm a big boy, I can handle it.
Your face game probably ain't poppin' like that...when you call, ole girl basically don't wanna talk?
Here's the scenario (happened on 3 diff occasions)
struck up a nice convo with a woman... at the end, I ask for the digits... she's smiling, gives them to me... then when I call a day or so later, I say "hey" she says "who's this" I tell her it's "neotheflyingone" she says "okay, Imma give you a call back"
But I never hear back.
I don't get it. Why give me the digits if you don't wanna talk?
Just tell a brotha "no"
I'm a big boy, I can handle it.
that's what tariq elite saysNikka why'd you ask. That's why you always give the girl your number. Never ask for a number if you haven't already f*cked or she said yes to going out first. Why ask for a number for a women who hasn't given you a commitment for some one on one time? What are you going to say on the phone that you can't say in person? If you don't value your own time, the women you deal with won't either
