Everyone Over 30 in the Dating Game is already BURNT OUT.

[threattonature]

I hate hearing shyt like this becauss the one variable yall conveniently leave out is that people change. You can go years in a relationship from 22 to 30 and all of a sudden your partner is adopting different beliefs and values and changing with yall growing apart. Imagine if your partner became a staunch Trump supporter or a super devout fundamentalist evangelical? How would you stay in that relationship?

It depends on where you went to college!

Part of the problem to is that people judge relationships by the public face the couple puts on. Especially with social media where people lie their ass off. I've had friends that met that criteria of meeting in college, getting married young with both having good jobs who seem like they are living the dream life going off their social media. Yet I've talked to them in private and they talk about how much they hate their partner or how they've outgrown their partners, or even a bunch who missed out on living it up so they step out wanting to experience something different.

I had one my best friends in particular who would go on daily for months about how much she hated her husband yet you go on her social media and it's nothing but "I have the best husband, he's so sweet" type posts.

 

[Brandsdale]

you nikkas be saying any damn thing

lol I guess men are to blame once again!

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Yeah they definitely steer the convo away from the subject and take their anger and frustrations of their interactions with women out on you. But the longer I've been on here the more I've come to understand that a lot of these people live through the internet instead of actually engaging with the real world. So even you trolling they take it personal because their persona they've built on this site matters to them as much as who they are in the real world and we know these HOH generals can't let a woman get the best of them especially "PEARL!!"

And then the same ones will be in my PM asking to get a a whiff of my panties.

You can't make this shyt up.

Imma call my new podcast "Pearl Pissed You Off"

 

[Brandsdale]

Before men were the problem and now men are still the problem. I hate this life

 

[Scaaar]

Part of the problem to is that people judge relationships by the public face the couple puts on. Especially with social media where people lie their ass off. I've had friends that met that criteria of meeting in college, getting married young with both having good jobs who seem like they are living the dream life going off their social media. Yet I've talked to them in private and they talk about how much they hate their partner or how they've outgrown their partners, or even a bunch who missed out on living it up so they step out wanting to experience something different.

I had one my best friends in particular who would go on daily for months about how much she hated her husband yet you go on her social media and it's nothing but "I have the best husband, he's so sweet" type posts.

That's what I mean. People are dating each other for the look or aesthetic of it instead of actually getting to know each other and dating who they truly want. It's some good friends of mine who date the quote "perfect" woman on paper but he cheated on her quite a bit for the wild type that he actually wants. But he never cuffed that type because he was worried about outside perception and it led him to good old "boring" church type that doesn't really stir that fire in him. It happens on the women side as well too. People aren't genuinely dating with good intentions.

 

[Apollo Creed]

lol I guess men are to blame once again!

The way these nikkas talk the stats show Black America is the shining fukking light for family creation and strong marriages.

 

[cyndaquil]

Yeah there's a bitterness in a lot of women (likely men too) over 30. People used to ask why I gravitated towards the younger women and it was 100% because they were more bright eyed and optimistic when it came to dating and a lot more fun. They weren't overly skeptical or didn't have the energy like they were just waiting on the other shoe to drop.

Nah nothing is worse than that look in men's eyes who have settled. Those that hate going home or find excuses to be out of the house just to get away from the wife or kids. Those dudes that are so beat down by their wife's nagging or constantly bugging them over nothing that they act like they got PTSD every time their phone rings.

Brother this is so true. I went on a date with two 31 year olds one this weekend and one yesterday. Each one of them talked about how shytty dating is and how weird dudes are. How they delete the apps then get back on etc. The one from yesterday told me she refused to settle which I feel her to an extent but she's fighting the hill. Each one of them were fighting the hill. Each of them mentions how much they go to the gym 6 days a week yet their physiques weren't impressive.

They acknowledged and mentioned how social media was a problem with dating. A first date should be exiciting. In life first impressions are everything. I show up looking fly and cologne on smelling great but I can see the work isn't being put in by these chicks. Both of them want to see me again.

I can see they have low expectations and the optimism isn't there but then they see me and their eyes light up smh. Having gotten out of a long term relationship I was in for most of the second half of my 20s I realized I missed out (thankfully) on a significant portion of this stuff that made people jaded.

 

[Shadow King]

OP said everyone and somehow this thread became almost solely about women.

We aren't dating men.

 

[Belize King]

there is one solution that many folks are taking part of nowadays

get your passport brother

 

[threattonature]

That's what I mean. People are dating each other for the look or aesthetic of it instead of actually getting to know each other and dating who they truly want. It's some good friends of mine who date the quote "perfect" woman on paper but he cheated on her quite a bit for the wild type that he actually wants. But he never cuffed that type because he was worried about outside perception and it led him to good old "boring" church type that doesn't really stir that fire in him. It happens on the women side as well too. People aren't genuinely dating with good intentions.

Yup I hear it all the time about some of my exes. They were really pretty and fun and outgoing so everyone thought they were amazing. But behind closed doors they had qualities that I knew I'd never be happy with long term. They were reckless with money, bad with communication, really bad tempers, irresponsible or extremely selfish. Yet even after telling people the reasons I left them it's ignored and met with "I couldn't have let that go". People wonder why so many relationships fail, in my belief it's because people date based off how things will look from the outside and ignore what is really compatible with what they want out of a relationship.

 

[Belize King]

Just think about what a 35 year old has been up to these past 20s years?

All the flings and different men, all the highs and lows, the emotions roller-coaster. Being a baller's light night jump off. Getting the shytted fukked out of them by a unemployed freak. Getting cheated on. Sadly a lot of women's trust has been broken forever.

I have two daughters. Wifey and I will educate them to the best of our abilities about the game to avoid all of that.

Who knows what the dating scene for black Gen B people in 2040 will look like.

 

[Belize King]

Men and women aren’t ready to have an honest conversation about mental health in the dating scene. A lot of head cases running from relationship to relationship without taking the time to heal from said relationships. Having an honest conversation with themselves. Self reflection. Seeking to improve for the next person.

Instead, women out here chasing a high. The dopamine hit. And fellas out here doing the same but to a lesser degree. As a man you are brainwashed into believing women are a certain way, until you find out the hard way that they are the complete opposite

People are broken because we are not meant to have all of these emotional experiences and attachments WITHOUT properly moving on and healing before beginning the next one.

Rep!

 

[Devil Plisken…CMS]

What was wrong with the 32 year old breh

Nothing wrong with it if you live it

 

[Shadow King]

I have two daughters. Wifey and I will educate them to the best of our abilities about the game to avoid all of that.

Who knows what the dating scene for black Gen B people in 2040 will look like.

I've said this in multiple threads. 2010 is 15 years ago and you can see the clear difference. Another 15 years it's a wrap.

When half the Coli isn't getting the grandchildren they want then they'll understand.

 

[Scaaar]

Yup I hear it all the time about some of my exes. They were really pretty and fun and outgoing so everyone thought they were amazing. But behind closed doors they had qualities that I knew I'd never be happy with long term. They were reckless with money, bad with communication, really bad tempers, irresponsible or extremely selfish. Yet even after telling people the reasons I left them it's ignored and met with "I couldn't have let that go". People wonder why so many relationships fail, in my belief it's because people date based off how things will look from the outside and ignore what is really compatible with what they want out of a relationship.

I've heard it as well too. My pops and stepmom try to hook me up with women they think would be "good" for me all the time. It doesn't bother me and usually have a convo with them or go out on a date to engage and pick their brain and see how they are. A few convos and watching how they move and it's easy for me to identify that we're not compatible. They're usually fine and have good careers but under the surface you see the ego, people pleasing, and chasing external validation and aesthetics. A lot of them are in their early 30s so they feel they have to lock down a husband and wife because of outside perception and try to rush the process for their benefit. But I've already been married, had a kid, and had a divorce in my 20s so I'm more slower paced when it comes to dating and getting to know folks. But that's because when I was married and having convos with my ex afterwards I've come to understand that I married her because I felt that was the natural progression and my grandma and folks pressing me about it then realized when were were together that we wasn't truly compatible. We were just good roommates that occasionally had sex.