Everyone Over 30 in the Dating Game is already BURNT OUT.

[O.T.I.S.]

Yeah there's a bitterness in a lot of women (likely men too) over 30. People used to ask why I gravitated towards the younger women and it was 100% because they were more bright eyed and optimistic when it came to dating and a lot more fun. They weren't overly skeptical or didn't have the energy like they were just waiting on the other shoe to drop.

Nah nothing is worse than that look in men's eyes who have settled. Those that hate going home or find excuses to be out of the house just to get away from the wife or kids. Those dudes that are so beat down by their wife's nagging or constantly bugging them over nothing that they act like they got PTSD every time their phone rings.

This too

Saw it a lot during Covid. You could tell who was miserable at home… they were miserable during covid.

Complaining about masks, distancing, people not being in the office, etc.,

Usually the dudes making the most money too. Hated being home…

 

[Belize King]

Been over relationships. As a woman this is what men want:

1. They want to be admired yet have nothing about them that's admirable

2. Want to "lead" yet have no track record if good leadership and a history of poor decisions

3. Want you to submit but never have a plan outside of just telling you what to do

4. Want children but don't even support proper natal health care and don't expect to actually help with the children

5. Want you do vast amounts of free labor while also contributing half the bills

6. Expect you to look good as they grow a fat belly

7. Want you to be happy with the ED

8. Don't want you to have success that doesn't benefit

9. Constantly need their ego stroked

10. Have to walk on egg shells constantly because they are so easily offended

11. Expect you to have no boundaries and constantly testing yours

12. Want your to put aside your needs to cater to them.

13. Want you to take an interest in the things they like but won't exchange the favor

14. Want you to their emotional dumpster but can't give you the same in return

15. Want to be sexist then expect you play mommy

16. Want to be stingy even when they have money

17. Expect you to tolerate their bad behavior for life because they did one thing for you.

Etc etc etc

And in exchange you get...what? Half the bills pays and maybe some dikk that's only decent less than 50% of the time.

The juice just isn't worth the squeeze.

Friendships are way more fulfilling at this point.

Relationships are basically a really shytty job that have little to no benefits.

It’s sad. Of those 17 points, if a person has more than 5…

People are generally shytty. Our parents didn’t give us the tools to prepare us to become good people. They had to feed, clothe and shelter us. Those were the only priorities. Church as well.

We become adults without proper guidance and have to figure it out ourselves. Interpersonal shyt be damned.

Ego is the biggest downfall of people, followed by accountability. If you can find a person with no ego, can receive criticism, be self aware and can be accountable, that’s the start of a person you could entertain.

How many people in your inner circle can has those four traits? That’s the sad part about people, we don’t have those things.

 

[Digital Omen]

I hate hearing shyt like this becauss the one variable yall conveniently leave out is that people change. You can go years in a relationship from 22 to 30 and all of a sudden your partner is adopting different beliefs and values and changing with yall growing apart. Imagine if your partner became a staunch Trump supporter or a super devout fundamentalist evangelical? How would you stay in that relationship?

It depends on where you went to college!

Don't have to imagine it, I lived it with my ex-wife
When we started off she wasn't into church at all, just a regular every day woman
She met someone from the evangelical church at work and that was it
gradually, little by little, church on Sunday became bible study group on Wednesday, then volunteering on Friday, then more church on Saturday
Before I knew it she was in church 4-5x/week
I've read enough to make the conscious choice to not be christian, which of course goes against the evangelical teachings (being married to a non-christian is unequal yoke- I agree actually).
So then the beefing and problems started when I didn't want to go to church, boom boom boom about 2 years later I filed for divorce.
She refused to cooperate in any way because divorce is also against evangelical teaching (at least her church was)
Never mind the unequal yoke part
It is what it is

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

The same mafukkas that constantly always have conflict and unhappiness always mad and arguing in threads like this!


Some of you mafukkas literally be posting about having daily conflicts at work and with family year in and out!


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Some of you mafukkas was in other threads talking big shyt but I see ya life done fell off a cliff cause I see you been miserable and on some red pill, woman hater shyt now!


Guess the hoes rejecting you!


I cant relate!


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Yall just weak hearted and effeminate.

I should quote some of the main shyt talkers on here who now on some crybaby shyt.
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Some of the mafukkas be giving advice and haven't been in a relationship in over 10 years and some of you Never been in 1 as an adult!

Some of you are EXTREMELY damaged mentally and so psychologically weak you don't even date at all and just be lonely and mad at all men and women that are out enjoying each other.

 

[Braman]

Why do we… us… men… equate finding a good partner with settling?

Finding someone =/= settling

It’s literally called settling down.

By choosing marriage/family/kids you are either settling or sacrificing.

If you have options and decide to throw in your jersey, you are sacrificing. Bc you want a legacy and family etc, you are sacrificing these hoes, a more fun life, more freedom, etc, all for the greater good.

If you don’t necessarily have options, you cash out at the most opportune time bc there is no guarantee you will find that mythical ‘better’. So you settle in.

 

[Belize King]

Y'all got me ready to post this conversation lol

I have flaws, no doubt. I'm just running across mad damaged people.

And it's not to say I'm expecting perfection or I'm not willing to work with someone, but there has to be the willingness to work. Unless they just see me as a placeholder. And that's all fair in love and war, because most of the women I been dating were placeholders so it comes full circle. Just sucks when you do put yourself out there and it unravels and you don't think you did anything egregiously wrong.

I’m not talking about you directly, it’s about her not wanting to talk about whenever threw her off. Like you said, you might have missed opening a door once. She could have spoke to you about it. Why throw away a whole person over something like that.

I was never an open the door type dude. Women are our equals and chivalry is dead. My Wife explained to me it’s important to her. I adjusted because I understood its importance to her. If I didn’t want to adjust, I could have left her alone.

Hopefully she explains herself like an adult and yall can continue to rock with each other.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Last January and agreed, that's why I literally told shorty I'm falling back. I realize she got some unresolved shyt and was projecting it on me. The actual text conversation is even wilder than I'm letting on and I've been there done that before. I can't go back to that dysfunction, but it was a cool interaction for the 6-7 weeks we talked. It just surprised me how quickly AND trivially the shyt fell apart.

Yep

Exactly why I fell back from a chick recently.

That unresolved energy was being directly aimed at me and I started seeing it gradually as it happened.

Their was all this pride and arrogance yet insecurity and damage that I felt I started to become the recipient of and becoming a punching bag for her problems instead of her addressing her issues directly herself.


It was like I was expecting it almost. I could see her arrogance and knew that eventually I was going to check her and it would blow up

Exactly what happened

 

[Wig Twistin Season]

It’s literally called settling down.

By choosing marriage/family/kids you are either settling or sacrificing.

If you have options and decide to throw in your jersey, you are sacrificing. Bc you want a legacy and family etc, you are sacrificing these hoes, a more fun life, more freedom, etc, all for the greater good.

If you don’t necessarily have options, you cash out at the most opportune time bc there is no guarantee you will find that mythical ‘better’. So you settle in.

A quick Google search:

"Settle down" generally means to become calm, quiet, or orderly, or to start living a routine and stable life. It can also mean to make someone or something quiet or calm.”

Settle: accept or agree to (something that one considers to be less than satisfactory).

Definitely not the same.

 

[#BOTHSIDES]

Just get a foreign or nerdy/science introvert who isn't into the TikTok thottery....It is hard but possible...

Big facts! There are women who don’t be on IG shaking it all day. Some girls really like reading books and geeking out on things other than pop culture

Breh when you gonna make a thread on ya wisdom

 

[Apollo Creed]

Yep

Exactly why I fell back from a chick recently.

That unresolved energy was being directly aimed at me and I started seeing it gradually as it happened.

Their was all this pride and arrogance yet insecurity and damage that I felt I started to become the recipient of and becoming a punching bag for her problems instead of her addressing her issues directly herself.


It was like I was expecting it almost. I could see her arrogance and knew that eventually I was going to check her and it would blow up

Exactly what happened

its the thing of "paying for the sins of others" that plagues us. When it comes to Men a woman pay pay for the sins of another woman by a Man just simply saying fukk that commitment shyt lol, when it comes to Men paying for the sins of other men its usually the shyt you are talking about. Not saying one is better than the other but I can damn sure say at least us men aint on no annoying shyt

 

[Belize King]

We were simps when we said get married bruhs.

Now you wish you'd simped n went and got married bruh.

My Wife’s 19 year old niece called me a simp when we took family pictures during Easter weekend.

How are you 20 and already fried?

 

[Apollo Creed]

My Wife’s 19 year old niece called me a simp when we took family pictures during Easter weekend.

How are you 20 and already fried?

these folks are friend as soon as they enter puberty. Lot of folks of all ages are fukking hermits now. They don't have real life experience thus shape their views off the world from bullshyt they read with no nuance or anything. You have 13 yr olds giving Color Purple Stories of why they feminist.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

And nikkas are afraid of settling?


I think nikkas are afraid of settling and being miserable more than settling.

I don’t mind settling down. Most men aren’t trying to hang around out here in the streets like that after a certain point. But it’s about what you are willing to live with.

I almost settled down multiple times with chicks who was not my first anything, some with kids, prego belly scars, etc., and as soon as I am about to, she does something that makes me want to fall allllll the way back. I take it as signs of whats to come if I do choose her to be my last anything.

Whether it is disrespect after I go out of my way (and comfortability) to do something for them, some kind of physical altercation, entertaining other men, etc..

So the willingness to settle down isn't the issue imo. I know I don’t expect any woman to be perfect because I’m not perfect either, but we can be perfect for each other with work and understanding. It’s the finding a person you are willing to risk settling with that is our issue and I’m sorry but learning someone new takes time… at least for me.

 

[Ducktales]

I used to be more judgemental with the age thing. Been married since early 20s and always preferred older women. But I get it for y’all over 30. Big percentage of the women you meet got kids or been married maybe. I wouldn’t be looking to deal with that either. I get it .

 

[Cryptocurrency Scarface]

The real problem is that the people who want life partners are matching with people who want short term fun

Some people’s idea of life time partners might be looking at them for short term fun.