Female Friends and Bounderies...

[8====D]

Never saw the point of having a female friend.

 

[Elle Driver]

She fukking all 3, even the one she doesn't know? lol

I’m just talking shyt.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I’m just talking shyt.

I know. I'm just teasing.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Thread subject brings up some troubling memories for me..good God.

Do share

 

[Torrential]

Having female friends

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

BPE..

For me, I am in a space where I learned that I have to watch how I speak to people. If I had a home girl who was wild and had a tendency to cock block the homies who is trying to get at other women, then I would simply tell her to stall me out (jokingly) and tell the woman I am trying to get at to not pay the home girl no mind because she is just clowning or something to that effect.

In most situations, I would respond to a man differently than I would respond to a woman, given your scenario.

On some really real shyt, I would not fukk with anybody who would outright disrespect me, especially in public and/or around private circles. I am too old to associate with people who lack social decorum.

I can understand you being turned off by a man who doesn’t stand up to fukkery. That makes sense. Thinking about it, if a man can’t stand up to the wild girl you spoke on, then how is he going to stand up for you against a man or someone else if shyt really goes down in the town or even if he isn’t going to stand up to you, should you act a fool? In the latter sense, you would run all over him and dog him the fukk out til the casket drops!

But, at the same token, sometimes, one isn’t in the mood to get into it with people who run around acting wild. I honestly don’t know how I would react, if I had a home girl who is wild, but I just couldn’t see myself associating with women like that.

Women like that and me don’t mix! My personality type wouldn’t even attract those type of women in my life. We naturally live segregated lifestyles. Perhaps, that is why I can’t relate to the scenario you shared. I just know that for me, I am very selective on the company I keep, especially at this stage in my life.

If a woman fukk with me, then she will respect me! If she doesn’t, then she gotta go somewhere else and stay over there on that side of the land!

Fair enough.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Lol! I've seen this happen. A girl usually does it to a guy she has in her hoe account b/c she has intentions towards him down the road if she doesn't find someone better.

To her he is too good to give up completely but not good enough to want something real from.

Here's the spooky part...I've seen this from married chicks. Imagine wanting to control a male friend's love life but you all the way boo'd up in a whole entire marriage.

Gotta pick a struggle.

 

[Commish]

Fair enough.

Thanks for the civil discussion. Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

 

[Strapped]

Emotions & boundaries = nonsense

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

Why to some of ya'll let your female friends run wild?

I swear there is nothing more unattractive than a man with a female friend that doesn't know her place.

Went to a dinner party last night and saw one chick sabotage 3 dudes in one swoop.

The first she totally ruined dude's chance at getting a chick who was interested by being affectionate with him and then turns around to say she wouldn't be interested in a guy if she were in the other woman's shoes. lol

Then she cocked blocked another chick from a dude she didn't want or know because she doesn't like the girl.

Then she tried to "help" another guy out by trying to pull me for him which of course didn't go over well because the guy never asked her to do that and because we're not in junior high. shyt was so awkward and she was aggressive too. lol

On one hand I kinda wanna say something to the last guy about reigning her in. But on the other hand the fukkery was pretty entertaining to watch and the engagement would be rather dull without it.

It's not uncommon to meet guys with pushy or overly involved female friends. IDK why some of ya'll allow that. It's dating suicide.

I had female friends like that who would hate on certain girls I brought around. It never really stopped me, once I caught the vibes I would hang out with said girl without them around.. One of my female friends admitted to making up rumors years later about a girl I was dating because she hated her. I was kinda bent because she had me believing the shyt for a long time.

Nowadays that shyt is rare EXCEPT when I'm around younger women with my female friends. But the worst was when one of them brought her younger sister around and she was flirting with me. I had a whole squad of women ready to kill me like I did something, I wasn't even on her at all. I'm still mad about that. I been tryna find that girl ever since.. Just so I can fukk her, that's the only reason I follow her older sister on I.G.

On the flipside having attractive female friends has gotten me a lot of play. Girls take notice.

 

[NaijaProdigy Redux]

It only happens when said female friend is actually really in to you -- or sees you as a backup option ("rainy day fund")

It's generally why I only have a few that I've known for years. A lot of you all will be on some bullshyt, especially when liquor is involved.

Nothing worse than a woman who unnecessarily hates on the looks of a woman clearly more attractive than her

 

[SheWantTheD]

Naw.. them nikkas are just weak simps.

If the girl really interested you go over there and tell her that ol' shorty just a friend and has always been a friend.

Ya see.. that young lady likes to have those guys around as male orbiters that she uses for attention.

If I'm gonna have a female friend, it's gonna be purely platonic (at least in my mind) even if I find her attractive or not.

And she better respect my boundaries and not try and cock block me from other women.

 

[Black Nate Grey]

This is well known. In general Male friends >>> female friends. I’ve heard some women say the same thing, probably because they get preferential treatment.

Whenever there was a time I had an all male friend group and one female joined, I’d go to the VIP box and watch the ensuing chaos.

When it’s more than one woman in the group than things are wonderful for some reason. A solitary woman though? shyt gets hectic.

I don’t know why.

 

[Jsully]

I have 1 female friend and the whole squad smashed her at varying points of our friendship.
We all know who was the last to hit cause they start by being extra playful. Then leaving within 15 minutes of each other. To then showing up places together. Finally 3 weeks later they not speakin to each other. Then after acouple months shyts normal again. Then random smash sessions here and there

 

[ThrobbingHood]

“Female friends.” If ever there were an oxymoron.