Found my bio "father's" Facebook (rant)

[Neuromancer]

Idk if reaching out will give you closure. But if you need to go through him to meet your other family then so be it.

 

[TransJenner]

You sound mad as fukk

 

[spaceships]

Story?

I went in on her dad, uncles, aunts, and her grandmother too. I guess I hit a nerve. All my siblings are 30+ my niece is 2 years older than me. fukk them, all my siblings knew I was in a group home and had 17 years to reach out. She sent me an invitation to her wedding last year via instagram, me and one of my cousins went to her house and swiped her tvs, laptops, and a ipad.

 

[Dameon Farrow]

Hey man, on some real talk, if you ever reach out to him, just guard your feelings and your heart for TWO main reasons:
1) You don't wanna come off as an emotional wreck and super-sensitive talking to this dude. Although you may want to, a full on vent might not be the smart move. If this dude don't care about you, its just gonna look like you as a grown man dropping your emotional baggage at his feet on some sucker shyt. Make sure you're in a good place and strong/confident when you share whatever it is you need to share with him.

2) I know a lot of times we don't be wanting to hear this, but you also need to be prepared for and consider the possibility that your mom's hasn't been straight up with you about how the whole scenario played out. Granted, as a man, he has no plausible excuse for denying his flesh and blood, but at the same time, you can't assume that moms has been 100 with you about how everything went down. Not that you should hold it against her, but again, protect your heart homie.

Great post. Some parents, worried their child, who is now their sole companion on this new crazy world, will judge or blame them, will make up stories and narratives and feed them to the child. It doesn't excuse abandonement but ready yourself.

The can of worms could only have a few stragglers in it or it could spill over because it's full as soon as you open it. Be prepared.

 

[Fun Sized Psycho]

I understand your father.... it is what it is.

Real talk, blame ya mom and man up.

So for his sister (that he doesn't know), should she also blame her mother?

I mean at what point does the father get the blame?

 

[BrokePhiBroke]

I went in on her dad, uncles, aunts, and her grandmother too. I guess I hit a nerve. All my siblings are 30+ my niece is 2 years older than me. fukk them, all my siblings knew I was in a group home and had 17 years to reach out. She sent me an invitation to her wedding last year via instagram, me and one of my cousins went to her house and swiped her tvs, laptops, and a ipad.

Sorry to hear you was in a group home when you had an able body Dad who could have taken you in smh.

Wish you and the OP the best,

That long lost daughter comment smh

 

[wickedsm]

Sending good thoughts and prayers for you op.im glad you got it off your chest.

Reach out to your sister and your paternal side of your family if you'd like.

I wouldn't say shyt to your bio dad and I'm speaking from experience. He's nothing but a random man to you.

I am sure you will be an amazing dad.

 

[How Sway?]

I wish you would send him that rant just so he knows how much he fukked up

 

[Geek Nasty]

fukk that dude, but get in contact with your siblings, thats your real family

 

[InDePickWest]

So for his sister (that he doesn't know), should she also blame her mother?

I mean at what point does the father get the blame?

Like somebody already said...that nikka trolling

 

[Umoja]

I went in on her dad, uncles, aunts, and her grandmother too. I guess I hit a nerve. All my siblings are 30+ my niece is 2 years older than me. fukk them, all my siblings knew I was in a group home and had 17 years to reach out. She sent me an invitation to her wedding last year via instagram, me and one of my cousins went to her house and swiped her tvs, laptops, and a ipad.

You're the hard done by one when she offered you an olive branch, invited you into her home, and you turned around and stole from her .

Sounds like you're a piece of shyt looking for excuses.

 

[Another Man]

Sending emotional rants to other men?
Might as well call him daddy

 

[spaceships]

You're the hard done by one when she offered you an olive branch, invited you into her home, and you turned around and stole from her .

Sounds like you're a piece of shyt looking for excuses.

After years of being called a crack baby and being made fun by them.
I feel no regrets. I'm not shyt to them, never want to be. Me and her went to the same high school, she knows what it was.
I've moved on and put my family's bullshyt behind me.

 

[Umoja]

After years of being called a crack baby and being made fun by them.
I feel no regrets. I'm not shyt to them, never want to be. Me and her went to the same high school, she knows what it was.
I've moved on and put my family's bullshyt behind me.

You obviously didn't move on. You went back there and stole from them. If they called you a crack baby, which is fukked up, what do you think you're giving them when you prove yourself to be a low level thief?

 

[Marco Andretti]

Man u gotta sent him that shyt..


Make him feel you b.. nom sayin..