Gen Z breh: I'm 25 and have no friends

[Apprentice]

Was just about to say this...dude really tryna throw a militant reason for being a hermit I get it, some peeps move away, start a new life, or just start moving funny, but to tell every breh to be a loner work towards a stronger community is two different wavelengths altogether

Nobody told nikkas to be loners foh boy

 

[King_Kamala61]

Your work is trash fam. I’m just the one who’s willing to say it

@BlackJesus what you think about this piece that is in the museum?

 

[IIVI]

If they only hit you up on weekends to go out they wack, I talk to some of my boys everyday or every other day.

Some once a month cause they got family

Others maybe once a year and that’s because they live over seas

They hit me up at other times as well, but looking back a lot of that shyt tbh was time wasted.

It was good memories, but ultimately didn't do much to where I am today and wasn't a vital part of my career and success.

Like I said, I still see them every now and then to catch up, but I ain't trying to waste too much time either as it's not a priority of mine and I'm sure they'd rather spend time with their families as well.

A bonus with being so close with family is if my wife and I don't have kids of our own (by choice), we got no problems giving all our money and real-estate to our close families' next generation as the rich aunt/uncle. It still keeps everything within bloodline.

 

[Captain Crunch]

Bro I’m 25 too wit no friends and who give a fukk honestly

Especially is a black Man U not here to make friends u here to have some motion

No man is an island.
It's good to have ppl you can do guy shyt with(physical activities, watch sports with, shoot pool with, etc) and form brotherhoods with.

I ain't saying you gotta be super popular, but find a brother; male cousin, or a dude your age that you have shyt in common with.

 

[ScoopNScore]

Nobody told nikkas to be loners foh boy

Being friendless is the same definition so let's be real...not even trying to force anyone into finding homies but let's not rope in the black experience into your reasoning

 

[Mook]

I’d put u in the dirt OG

U own zero firearms

Bout to show you the true power of friendship

 

[Apprentice]

No man is an island.
It's good to have ppl you can do guy shyt with(physical activities, watch sports with, shoot pool with, etc) and form brotherhoods with.

I ain't saying you gotta be super popular, but find a brother; male cousin, or a dude your age that you have shyt in common with.

Hyperbole

I got 1 person that is my friend and I call him my twin

That’s it fr but I get what u sayin bro, it’s decent having friends but it ain’t my thing

 

[Apprentice]

Being friendless is the same definition so let's be real...not even trying to force anyone into finding homies but let's not rope in the black experience into your reasoning

The black experience is apart of my reasoning

This is why I don’t be wit nikkas, nikkas discount u being black when u disagree wit em what type time is that

 

[Ahadi]

Up until a few years ago I've had a pretty solid/close group of friends.

Basically from that point I realized nobody will have your back unconditionally like family will. My skills and my family are all I really need.

It's funny, but Tyrese actually had a stream about 10 years ago where he pointed out that your friends probably stress you out more than you realize and that you really need to keep your distance or cut them entirely. That you're basically signing up to put up with a bunch of mentally-taxing BS when you meet up with them. Dude wasn't lying.

Even applies to friends you consider A1 or everyone considers "good people".

Some people literally have friends to have friends but it's hurting them more than contributing to them.

Spoiler: Edit: The Tyrese video.

No matter how you feel about him, I applied this advice for nearly the last 10 years and. it's paid off tremendously.


If you really take some extra time to analyze things about your friends you may be surprised how much they're brining you down while boosting themselves up. At the end of the day, a lot of people not going to have much to show for after their friendships because friends were basically in it for themselves.

If I took away all the time I spent with my friends and focused on myself instead that was the realization for me.

First I stopped going out one weekend so I can learn to code, then did it another weekend, then another, etc. Eventually friends stopped calling and I really got to focusing.

Years later: BSCS, great job in tech, about to start a another degree is STEM, etc.

Meanwhile, while my friends aren't doing bad, they never leveled up. I catch up with them every now-and-then and it ain't the same because I'm "out the loop" but I'm much better off for it. Hearing about everything, I'm glad I chose the route I did.

Good post.

I agree, ppl today are overall flaky.

Most people don’t realize it takes work to upkeep these relationships.

 

[BlaccSunrise]

Who gives a fucc about friends?

If you mix the baking soda with it, you can get a Benz.

 

[MikelArteta]

Who gives a fucc about friends?

If you mix the baking soda with it, you can get a Benz.

 

[Fill Collins]

I'm 25 and I got a few actual friends I hangout with IRL; after that it's mostly work friends and people you're just cool with

How do you not at least have someone your own age to talk to from time to time?

I will say this though, you can't use the term friend too lightly, mf's who call just to talk and waste time eating out ain't friends, I was just like Quagmire in this clip with a lot of mf's 'til I cut them off

 

[Frump]

As you get older your social circle gets smaller anyway just because life gets in the way. As a 43 year old I only have so much free time for so many people it’s impossible to be close to 10 plus people like I was as a teenager or early 20’s before life and responsibilities get in the way but you should still have a few close friends who can hold you down when things get tough

While I feel for dude and I get the younger generation is getting socially retarded because of social media I still feel like in a way it should be easier then ever for some socially awkward dudes to make some friends at least

With the internet and social media it’s easier then ever to find your tribe so to speak or like minded people where pre internet/social media socially awkward dudes/nerds only had whoever was in their school or area to try to connect with

 

[The ADD]

As you get older your social circle gets smaller anyway just because life gets in the way. As a 43 year old I only have so much free time for so many people it’s impossible to be close to 10 plus people like I was as a teenager or early 20’s before life and responsibilities get in the way but you should still have a few close friends who can hold you down when things get tough

While I feel for dude and I get the younger generation is getting socially retarded because of social media I still feel like in a way it should be easier then ever for some socially awkward dudes to make some friends at least

With the internet and social media it’s easier then ever to find your tribe so to speak or like minded people where pre internet/social media socially awkward dudes/nerds only had whoever was in their school or area to try to connect with

It makes it easier to connect online but not offline

 

[Double Burger With Cheese]

I got a whole crew, can’t relate