Growing up fatherless is depressing as fukk

BrokePhiBroke

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:heh: but adults post here. Not saying get over it, but people need to learn to deal with shyt. Being fatherless isn't the worst thing in the world to be. Play the hand you were dealt.
Ok and. They clearly bringing up stories from being kids.

It may not be the worst thing in the world but it's still a "thing" that has horrific affects long after "childhood". If you don't understand that's one thing but like most things if it hasn't been dealt with it can reach adulthood as well.
 

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It's a 70/30 split.. my mother had her faults but my father could of still came around or called on the phone.. im kinda going through this with my daughters mother (some key differences though) .. im trying to make the most of my time til she gets older enough to understand the situation she was born into.. there's a chance this all crashes and burns and she resents me til I'm dead but it's not like I don't understand why she would feel like that

It's one hella vicious cycle. Thass why I fear having kids of my own:mjcry:
 

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Ok and. They clearly bringing up stories from being kids.

It may not be the worst thing in the world but it's still a "thing" that has horrific affects long after "childhood". If you don't understand that's one thing but like most things if it hasn't been dealt with it can reach adulthood as well.

I get what you're saying and maybe in close friendships someone can expect the line not to be crossed, but on a message board? No one is going to tip-toe around their feelings.
 

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Most men's ties to their children are tied to the woman he made them with. That goes for married and unmarried men. I think some men have such a shyt idea of what it means to be a good father and it's disheartening.
I said this yesterday.

I know men (not by association) who will literally let their seed starve bc of the mother. Go get with a women who has 3 kids that isn't his and take care of them like it's his own.
 

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It's a 70/30 split.. my mother had her faults but my father could of still came around or called on the phone.. im kinda going through this with my daughters mother (some key differences though) .. im trying to make the most of my time til she gets older enough to understand the situation she was born into.. there's a chance this all crashes and burns and she resents me til I'm dead but it's not like I don't understand why she would feel like that

Are you allowed to see your daughter?
 

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Not having kids no way after the shyt I done seen in this world would rather not drag another person through this bullshyt and my dad only came around like 10 times from the ages of 3-5 after that I didn't see him until I was 16 and I haven't seen him since. It sucks when you think about it but you learn to accept it especially when he a lying ass nikka giving promises he know he can't live up to ex: I'ma give you some money this week
 

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Take it from a guy who's Pop is a Piece of shyt......Having a Dad is a lil overrated breh....I mean if you luck up and get Cliff Huxtable or some shyt...lucky you....
 

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What percentage would you say out in the total amount of men you know? :ooh:
I can't lie alotta people dusty where I live.

BUT...

Alotta men also try as well and get shut down from the courts and child's mother.

I don't have a percentage for you because I said not by association. These are stories I know. But if it helps my Dad would be one of those people.
 

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If anyone saw the miniseries "The Corner" on HBO, essentially Gary in many ways was like my Father, though I can't reveal all that he did publicly, but the damage he did, I feel nothing until this day. Since I can't feel emotions (but I can imitate them), it is difficult to make friends and stay in touch with family. He can still never get over the fact that what he did was wrong and never take accountability. The level of dysfunction I've endured is beyond belief and unfortunately it has led me down a very dark path in parts of my life. I present well, but on the inside it is pretty empty....
 
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