The best thing yall can do is not bring another life in this world under questionable circumstances and repeat the cycle. All that other shyt don't matter.
No offense but take a good strong look at Your Momma as well and determine was she really just the victim? What was her part to play in him not being there?
Having children in the modern era in America is one of the most risk laden decisions one could make. Especially for a Man. It's a competition, every nikka for himself no mercy. Can you raise a successful warrior in this environment? Our parents generation dropped the ball and so did our grandparents by not thinking far enough into the future.
We are hanging on by a thread as a people and that thread ain't strong enough to carry us all. A lot of nikkas will literally fall off and never get out of the hole. Whether emotional, financial or otherwise. We are a weak people because our parents union was weak and flimsy with no foundation.
It may hurt but most of us are essentially the product of an error in judgement and not a premeditated event. But even for those of us like me who were planned there is still sonething lacking. My Father was in my life but one has to examine why my and many of our parents who were married at sone point grew apart. A primary reason was that beginning in the 90s the general idea of divorce became more culturally accepted and prior to the 80s Blacks had a much higher marriage rate. So socially America in the media and entertainment began to become more liberal and promote individualsm over family. These ideas and images penetrated the subconscious of even many level headed Black folk and here we are today. Bull headed obstinate Black Men and Women standing on opposite aisles refusing to modulate their personality and synchronize in harmony with their partner FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILDREN.
I don't know if there's a solution here and the reality is 90% of us are Ill equipped to have kids and raise them to thrive in this environment. Period.
thought some shyt always came up and that was the reason why he never came around.. come to find out a few years later from my sister that id be super sad waiting for him at the door all weekend ... and he only lived 5 mins away
but adults post here. Not saying get over it, but people need to learn to deal with shyt. Being fatherless isn't the worst thing in the world to be. Play the hand you were dealt.
