Hard On H0ES Movement. i need advice

[Killer Instinct]

 

[NerdBird]

So let me get this straight...empathizing with both sides means I need to calm down? Seriously? More people need to empathize. Brehs stay keeping unreasonable standards for women when they are faulty themselves. But, let's go ahead and let the breh OP toss this one in the bushes....forget about their chemistry. Forget that he really likes her. Now, let's see his odds for feeling same connection again with another woman within the next five years.

Are you batshyt insane? You know a man can get over a woman he onced liked. And by knowing my self worth and value I can probably meet a wiman who's worth my time.

 

[Mook]

The most pathetic thread I have ever read.

Three red flags in one post and this fakkit STILL trying to simp.

If I was your father id disown you cause you disgust me :sgust:

 

[Turk]

If that bytch cheated on her nikka that bytch will do the same to you. Smash and kick her to the rocks

 

[JamilALAmin]

Shoulda smashed when she came over at 3 am drunk. She clearly wanted the D. If she throws it at you take it. No excuses for that one OP. I feel you on respecting women and what not. But when it comes to puss sometimes you gotta drag a female on some dog shyt and then build her back up if you really do like her

At the end of the day the D has all the power. Lay it down right and you can worry about respecting her later.

 

[Gold]

So These last 3 weeks I have been dating someone... and I today I just stopped and really thought about everything in perspective. About 2 months ago we were at a party. We met through mutual friends and we got off on the right foot. She started drinking and started going on about how she wanna marry her then ex boyfriend and have his kids. I was like cool I respect that... You must really have feelings for him. She's really into hip hop, so a convo started about the topic.... next thing you know she's on my lap and flirting with me. Me being the fool that I am, didn't make a move on her. I wanted to respect her THEN relationship.

So a few weeks pass by. I'm hanging out with my brother on the weekend and she calls me up at around 2 or 3 in the morning asking me if its cool if she could spend the night with me. Now we all I know at these hours this is booty calls galore... but me... having the lil crush i have on her... Tell her yes and bring her over. Long story short we just cuddled and kissed. She was dumb drunk too.. Again i didn't make no advances because she was still with her man... but at that point i didnt think HMMM she got a man but she laying next to another guy in bed on a saturday night? Stupid of me to not see her for what she is...

A couple weeks pass by and we begin to start dating. She fresh out of a 3 year relationship and is telling me to take it slow before she is ready for a relationship. Thing is... me and this chick vibe real hard.. Great chemistry with each other... And if anyine is into horoscope.. I am a Saggitarius and she is a Libra.

My coli fam I ask you... What should I do? Should I be a simp and wait for her to be emotionally and mentally ready for a new relationship? Or do I just hit it and quit...

Don't get into serious relationships with people who are not serious... I keep saying this.

You vibe and she likes hip-hop... cool. But from what you've posted, absolutely nothing says that this chick is relationship material. Why would you wait for another human being to become ready for you? 7 billion people in the world and you are waiting for this 1 chick to turn into something that she may never ever become??

I'm going to tell you what you already know. You are already a simp with this girl, and she picked that up from the jump. The question is now, are you going to toss her in the bushes today... or 4 years from now?

 

[Wiles]

@NerdBird

You will wife and simp and she will play you like a fiddle, she isn't worthy of it bruh.. Your goin to get burned and you will have too much pride to admit nikkas like me that we are correct in the situation. No you will just listen to drake to justify your simp actions....

And your goin to ignore all advice and wife cuz your and idiot...

 

[Ghanaian Armor]

Wasting time on chicks who are used goods. Beat it up then charge it to the game.

 

[satireprod]

@NerdBird you gotta take the advice and call it a day homie.

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

So These last 3 weeks I have been dating someone... and I today I just stopped and really thought about everything in perspective. About 2 months ago we were at a party. We met through mutual friends and we got off on the right foot. She started drinking and started going on about how she wanna marry her then ex boyfriend and have his kids. I was like cool I respect that... You must really have feelings for him. She's really into hip hop, so a convo started about the topic.... next thing you know she's on my lap and flirting with me. Me being the fool that I am, didn't make a move on her. I wanted to respect her THEN relationship.

So a few weeks pass by. I'm hanging out with my brother on the weekend and she calls me up at around 2 or 3 in the morning asking me if its cool if she could spend the night with me. Now we all I know at these hours this is booty calls galore... but me... having the lil crush i have on her... Tell her yes and bring her over. Long story short we just cuddled and kissed. She was dumb drunk too.. Again i didn't make no advances because she was still with her man... but at that point i didnt think HMMM she got a man but she laying next to another guy in bed on a saturday night? Stupid of me to not see her for what she is...

A couple weeks pass by and we begin to start dating. She fresh out of a 3 year relationship and is telling me to take it slow before she is ready for a relationship. Thing is... me and this chick vibe real hard.. Great chemistry with each other... And if anyine is into horoscope.. I am a Saggitarius and she is a Libra.

My coli fam I ask you... What should I do? Should I be a simp and wait for her to be emotionally and mentally ready for a new relationship? Or do I just hit it and quit...

You are officially her back up plan. You better hit and quit.... Or hit as much as possible.....

Cause the day he hits her with the 3am or 3pm text....... You're getting cheated on

She already told you out her own mouth who she loves. He'll always be able to slide through and fukk up your relationship. Always.

 

[Flay Mayweather]

She slept in your bed & you did nothing?

shyt happens, breh

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

From a FEMALE perspective: Take it slow but don't be hard on her and don't view her as a hoe. Her ex was probably an a$$hole and she was slowly coming to that realization over the past months. That happens to all of us. But, I would take it slow simply because it's never good to be a rebound person. Just give your friendship time to grow. Don't allow her over at 3am anymore. See her out on actual dates but not everytime she asks. Give it time. Give her time to heal but keep the lines open for the friendship between you to bloom. If it's meant to be for the both of you, you will come together strong. Don't fukk her too early because she's open and raw right now and that could end badly. And, plus you like her so you want to make sure she's over the ex and all about you.

Gentlemen. You have just got GPS directions to the friend zone

Pay for dates for someone still in love

Don't let her come fukk you while spending your money to listen to her problems

Don't advance the relationship while 150 other men AND her ex are still trying to get at her

Wait around for one woman when there's another 4 billion on earth who might actually appreciate your time and effort




Brehs

 

[feelosofer]

The most pathetic thread I have ever read.

Three red flags in one post and this fakkit STILL trying to simp.

If I was your father id disown you cause you disgust me :sgust:

This.

She drinks too much, imo and then acts out when she does, she lacks loyalty and she's an emotional vampire.

OP. I'm not gonna come down too hard on you. 22 is young and you're just really starting to delve into some of the intricacies of male/female relationships. But fact remains this girl is more trouble than she is worth. You actually did the right thing not sleeping with her because she seems like a the type to throw that shyt back in her boyfriends face for him choosing not to commit to her. But you really need to let this woman walk into the sunset. You are kind hearted and it clear you're attracted to her but she is too raw from her past relationship and is no good for you.

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

So let me get this straight...empathizing with both sides means I need to calm down? Seriously? More people need to empathize. Brehs stay keeping unreasonable standards for women when they are faulty themselves. But, let's go ahead and let the breh OP toss this one in the bushes....forget about their chemistry. Forget that he really likes her. Now, let's see his odds for feeling same connection again with another woman within the next five years.

Five years

There's 300 million people in America alone. If it takes you another 5 years to find ONE you like and have chemistry with......

You have more problems than that

 

[LadySimone]

From a females perspective my advice is to leave her alone. Don't have sex with her. (Some of these dudes in here will sell their worthless souls for ass).

I wouldn't even communicate heavy with her either.