I think the reason there is contempt (on both sides), is because we are using white standards to hold each other up to. A good number of us weren't raised in two parent households, so we have "learn" to be wives and husbands, yet we want a ready made spouse. It's less likely that black men will be able to be the sole provider and that's ok. It's less likely a black woman will be submissive and that's ok. We could really get along well if we customized our relationships to work based on the individuals capabilities and not societal expectations.



For the last time.BLACK MEN ARE NOT DEAD WEIGHT. BLACK MEN MAKE MORE MONEY THAN BLACK WOMEN EVEN WITH BLACK WOMEN(AND EVERY OTHER RACE OF WOMEN) BEING MORE EDUCATED THAN THEIR MEN OF THE SAME RACE.