Why are you positioning this issue as it's only the fault of the woman.
Sure, I do agree some ADOS women choose bad. They look past everything most here berate other women for not doing.
Such as:
- already has a child
- in JCO, undergrad or grad school
- may be in-between jobs or trying to start a biz.
- dated IR but want to come back to Black women for whatever personal reason
- may be out of shape, bad skin, teeth- but she sees potential.
And a host of other reasons.
Therefore, that woman gave that man a chance, then they end up pregnant then they break up - now she's a single or co-parenting mom. When she only gave that man a chance and had his baby cause she thought it would lead to married.
I have seen it over and over again.
I personally think childless women should date childless men. And do everything you can to plan your children - if you want them. I also think women should properly vet the men they date - and date more than one person at a time - until you are ready to be exclusive.