"I want to date Black Men. Why is it so hard?". Why do these women think it's their blackness?
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MoveForward
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READ THIS shyt HERE!
What I noticed is that nearly every Black man’s profile I read mentioned something about “got my own car, house, job” and something about not looking for pay to play, not being interested in “hoes”, requiring that I be a “real” woman (read: cisgender), and that I be up for “building together.” For the non-Black men I did consider, this never showed up in their profiles.
Suddenly, it just dawned on me that these notations, while common, were stupid for a couple of reasons. For one, we’re over 30. Is it truly brag-worthy to announce that you are functioning as a basic adult with employment, transportation access, and shelter? Yes, I know there are many access barriers for Black folks to have these things. Yes, I know that Black men have the odds stacked against them. But still.
Secondly, Black women often not only have all of these things, we’re usually exceeding these “accomplishments” of basic adulthood.
So we get called leeching bums that don't have sh1t everyday but when we announce these things to get that sh1t out of the way up front, we're wrong and childish?
What I noticed is that nearly every Black man’s profile I read mentioned something about “got my own car, house, job” and something about not looking for pay to play, not being interested in “hoes”, requiring that I be a “real” woman (read: cisgender), and that I be up for “building together.” For the non-Black men I did consider, this never showed up in their profiles.
Suddenly, it just dawned on me that these notations, while common, were stupid for a couple of reasons. For one, we’re over 30. Is it truly brag-worthy to announce that you are functioning as a basic adult with employment, transportation access, and shelter? Yes, I know there are many access barriers for Black folks to have these things. Yes, I know that Black men have the odds stacked against them. But still.
Secondly, Black women often not only have all of these things, we’re usually exceeding these “accomplishments” of basic adulthood.
So we get called leeching bums that don't have sh1t everyday but when we announce these things to get that sh1t out of the way up front, we're wrong and childish?
FeloniousMonk
Dont mind me..Im a azzhole
She not attractive to the men she wants..
CreepyMcCreeperson
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Do fat people attempt to date other fat people?
paperbag
Death to the demoness Allegra Geller
Seems like you're the only one who read it. Has nothing to do with her being fat or unattractive and lacking interest from men, she's actually complaining about all of the men she has to reject that try to match with her on tinder.Read part of it. It was stupid. It has nothing to do with her not being able to get a man but some toxic black masculinity bullshyt even though it was just common shyt. She had a problem with men saying they dont want transgenders and arent willing to pair up with hoes
And she was doing mental gymnastics about dudes announcing they were financially stable.
Just pure hoe babble.
HARLEM AL
Your broad loves me.....
nikka, why? Lmfaooo
Fam I wish I didn’t see this fukking shyt because I’m literally crying at my desk.
To be honest, I've come to meet a lot of very attractive and in shape black women who want to date black men but struggle because they're often treated like shyt when in relationships or not wanted in the first place, especially if they're dark skinned
Obviously that doesn't define all of us, but a lot of us clearly have issues with how we treat, value, and respect our women. It's not all on us, often it's on them too, but that doesn't change the fact that many of us have some room for improvement ourselves
Obviously that doesn't define all of us, but a lot of us clearly have issues with how we treat, value, and respect our women. It's not all on us, often it's on them too, but that doesn't change the fact that many of us have some room for improvement ourselves
stopped reading here
CreepyMcCreeperson
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This the first thing they ask, so why not put it out there.
And is she trans? Why are straight women talking about cisgender, and why are they trying to shame men for wanting women with natural born female genitals? Do they really think we're going to suddenly not care about that?
I hear you
But just to make things more interesting, aren't those the same attractive black woman who reject average Urkel nikkas because they are too nice?
So it would be hypocritical to be mad at those type of black man
Attractiveness alone = /= successful relationship
I literally can't unsee the bolded now
Funny thing is. Peter Griffin does have black children.
Nah, one of them I know dated a meh looking dude just because she found him intellectually interesting, enjoyable to talk to, and he treated her well and respected her.
Another is dating a guy definitely below her in attractiveness who has his faults really just for the fact that he treats her really well and is kind to her and she's not used to that in the slightest
That's why I said it's not always on us, it's on them too sometimes. Also not the case at all in the situations I'm speaking of. One chick was just constantly abused and devalued by the men she was with, I know her well enough to know her personality is fine in a relationship. Little-to-nothing wrong with her, but she ended up with guys constantly disrespecting her, cheating on her, etc.
I know another girl who just can't get the attention of a lot of brehs in the first place simply because she's dark skinned so it doesn't even get to the relationship phase even though she's like an 8.5 prolly
