Ight I'm learning now... Being a Nice Guy is no way to Win

[Suicide King]

I just gave up. On women. On love. On everything...except money.

I'd rather focus on financial security. Everything and everyone else isn't worth the headache. I'm sick and tired of playing games only to lose.

Yep...don't play the game if you hate to lose.

But, I love the game. So I can't leave. I love everything about the game.

 

[MikelArteta]

True. But if a female is really into you that means she already sees you as assertive n all that.

And like i said i can only speak from experience. Being fake with females never got me anywhere in the long term.

I'm the same person always, I'm not even bragging but I've never made the first move on a woman except once. It's just who I am and my demeanour .

Just deal with women who are into you, and all that ish goes out the window.

I'm not going to treat a woman like a piece of crap, or change my whole core for some broad to like me, I'm not a actor auditioning for a role.

If a woman likes you and is into you, what one may consider corny she will find cute or funny.

 

[MikelArteta]

was all the way with you until the fraud part.
can I ask what part you felt said I was only a gentleman to get at her?

Everything else with your posting sounds on the money though.

You were acting like your frustrated because she isn't appreciating your niceness.

 

[MoonGoddess]

You don't have to pretend to be an a$$hole.

Just don't wear your heart on your sleeve. Don't go the extra mile for someone you don't even have a relationship with.

You don't have to be cruel to do that

A sense of humor doesnt' hurt either. I dont know how some girls could like guys that talk to them like shyt, as sensitive and as crazy as i am. Shiitt that nikka would drive me to murder. I was raised to treat people with respect and thats how i like to be treated out of the bedroom. Now no one says you have to be a pushover either. I guess you just have to find a balance. Also if you have to go outside of your character to make someone like you then its not worth it imo. Worse relationship i had was when i was tryna make someone happy and love me while acting like someone other then myself.

 

[MoonGoddess]

is that so?

Spoiler

when a woman is into you really, all that ish goes out the window,

Pretty much.

 

[Suicide King]

was all the way with you until the fraud part.
can I ask what part you felt said I was only a gentleman to get at her?

Everything else with your posting sounds on the money though.

You wasn't being a fraud, you was being yourself.

You expect people to respond to you, if they don't, please do not switch up tactics. Just, switch up broads.

 

[Nomadum]

A woman that is truely into you, will find that amazing.

Why change your core for transient women

Word, and I feel you. as to the question, the answer is because it's obvious that my mannerism's are being seen in the wrong light. either women think I'm too nice and that if they dealt with me I wouldn't give them a challenge or that I'm a player and just utilizing a well crafted skill or some shyt to lower their defenses. shyt fukk's with me because as I've said, that's how I am. there is no gimmick or ulterior motive. I ain't no saint but to brag and beat my chest once, I'm a pretty solid ass dude. type of nikka you can trust and put faith in, this goes for all aspects of my life involving others.

The reason I said be the a$$hole is because it's evident, chivalry is not as admired as it was in past times. it would be almost an act of insanity to continue to be me(a nice guy) and keep wondering why shyt goes south for me. I feel what you're saying 100% but my change of outward display is in attempts to not cancel my potential chances by doing some shyt wrong I didn't even consider to be wrong. lol, I'm not say get disrespectful like the breh's on here, but just not being overly a gentleman fresh out the gate.

 

[Suicide King]

Word, and I feel you. as to the question, the answer is because it's obvious that my mannerism's are being seen in the wrong light. either women think I'm too nice and that if they dealt with me I wouldn't give them a challenge or that I'm a player and just utilizing a well crafted skill or some shyt to lower their defenses. shyt fukk's with me because as I've said, that's how I am. there is no gimmick or ulterior motive. I ain't no saint but to brag and beat my chest once, I'm a pretty solid ass dude. type of nikka you can trust and put faith in, this goes for all aspects of my life involving others.

The reason I said be the a$$hole is because it's evident, chivalry is not as admired as it was in past times. it would be almost an act of insanity to continue to be me(a nice guy) and keep wondering why shyt goes south for me. I feel what you're saying 100% but my change of outward display is in attempts to not cancel my potential chances by doing some shyt wrong I didn't even consider to be wrong. lol, I'm not say get disrespectful like the breh's on here, but just not being overly a gentleman fresh out the gate.

This is a red flag you should not ignore. They are damaged mentally. Avoid them, because your problems won't end there.

That's why these types of women are usually played by men, have had a lot of sex and never get someone to stay with them.

 

[Nomadum]

You were acting like your frustrated because she isn't appreciating your niceness.

If that's how it was taken, then I'm telling you flat out that no, that's not what I meant. does it play into all though (the aspect on my "niceness") yes. I'm not expecting her to do anything because of my "niceness" what I am saying is that it could be that my "niceness" is potentially killing my chances, and not just with her but thinking back on past situations in which my "niceness" was used as a means to reject.

Am I frustrated? hell yea, who isn't frustrated when they don't win the woman over they want? maybe you can be like "fukk ah bytch", but I start over thinking shyt and trying to figure out where the disconnect comes from, is it on my end or hers. so nah, ain't shyt fake about my mannerism's nor am I going to front like I'm cold and can not experience an L. yea I'm a man just like you but I don't front on my emotions or feelings, so take it how you may.

 

[MikelArteta]

Word, and I feel you. as to the question, the answer is because it's obvious that my mannerism's are being seen in the wrong light. either women think I'm too nice and that if they dealt with me I wouldn't give them a challenge or that I'm a player and just utilizing a well crafted skill or some shyt to lower their defenses. shyt fukk's with me because as I've said, that's how I am. there is no gimmick or ulterior motive. I ain't no saint but to brag and beat my chest once, I'm a pretty solid ass dude. type of nikka you can trust and put faith in, this goes for all aspects of my life involving others.

The reason I said be the a$$hole is because it's evident, chivalry is not as admired as it was in past times. it would be almost an act of insanity to continue to be me(a nice guy) and keep wondering why shyt goes south for me. I feel what you're saying 100% but my change of outward display is in attempts to not cancel my potential chances by doing some shyt wrong I didn't even consider to be wrong. lol, I'm not say get disrespectful like the breh's on here, but just not being overly a gentleman fresh out the gate.

Like I said, change your core and then what you get vagina and maybe a few months in the honeymoon period till you can't keep up the act anymore?

Or stop messing with vegan type broads who don't enjoy your steak.

Look no offense but everyone proclaims they are a solid ass dude, a good dude, bla bla, just like every woman proclaims she is loyal honest bla bla. None of that means ish if someone doesn't like you.

Not every woman will like you or what you have to offer regardless of how "great a guy" you are, thing is who cares, there is a surplus of women out there and each likes different things. Some broad right now prob praying out for a gentleman like you, and your going to change who you are because some vegan type chicks didn't like your steak.


THe one thing I'd change if I were you is to realize not everyone will like you and just shrug and move on with life

 

[MikelArteta]

If that's how it was taken, then I'm telling you flat out that no, that's not what I meant. does it play into all though (the aspect on my "niceness") yes. I'm not expecting her to do anything because of my "niceness" what I am saying is that it could be that my "niceness" is potentially killing my chances, and not just with her but thinking back on past situations in which my "niceness" was used as a means to reject.

Am I frustrated? hell yea, who isn't frustrated when they don't win the woman over they want? maybe you can be like "fukk ah bytch", but I start over thinking shyt and trying to figure out where the disconnect comes from, is it on my end or hers. so nah, ain't shyt fake about my mannerism's nor am I going to front like I'm cold and can not experience an L. yea I'm a man just like you but I don't front on my emotions or feelings, so take it how you may.

I don't get frustrated, the way I view life now as I got older. Is if someone wants to be with me, they will. If not they were not meant to be, so why get frustrated angry etc. all of that just affects your mental state. Instead I'm thankful no more time is being wasted.

I don't front on my emotions, I'm just in control of them, once you've experienced a woman liking you dearly for yourself faults and all you realize its not you but its them for women who don't like your taste.

 

[Nomadum]

I don't get frustrated, the way I view life now as I got older. Is if someone wants to be with me, they will. If not they were not meant to be, so why get frustrated angry etc. all of that just affects your mental state. Instead I'm thankful no more time is being wasted.

I don't front on my emotions, I'm just in control of them, once you've experienced a woman liking you dearly for yourself faults and all you realize its not you but its them for women who don't like your taste.

I respect that.
guess we just seeing things on different levels.

 

[Nomadum]

You wasn't being a fraud, you was being yourself.

You expect people to respond to you, if they don't, please do not switch up tactics. Just, switch up broads.

lol word.

 

[Mr.Big Meat McGee]

Kinda true.


its about being assertive. When a dude is assertive its a sign that he has high testosterone and is driven. Thats what females are into.

When a dude is all lovey/dovey, buying her flowers and serenading her its a sign that he either has low test, is a faq, or is completely inexperienced in relationships. So yea women naturally gravitate towards the more impatient or rude dudes.

I dont even do it on purpose to be honest. I just be myself. And rude shyt will slip out or i'll get impatient and do something rude. And females will be like "err mah gawwwwd, you're such a dikk" while giggling and feeling on my chest at the same time.

Assert that dominance.

Yo I dead tested this out in 10th Grade and it worked.

 

[MrFettuccinnePockets]

All in all you gotta do you. Thats when your at your best. Develop a style that goes with your personality.

Im not an a$$hole. shyt im cool, straight up, fun to be around and i eat. I just do me.

I get the "you a player" shyt all the time. Im just smoove tho.