"I'm not a step father, im THE FATHER that stepped up"

[010101]

cats be terrible human beings

it's more simpish to be with a female with a child & treat the child bad while trying to hold on to a piece of puzzy

if you hate children cut her free deal with a seedless joint

if a dude decides to stay & be a solid example of what a man is for a child salute him in his decision

all jokes aside

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[Bushmaster]

You can parse language and terminology but ultimately he did this because the woman he wanted to be with had kids. He didn’t marry her as some sort of social do-good for the kid.

nobody is claiming that it was an act of charity. Still doesn't negate the fact that he stepped up though. "Stepping up" = assuming a responsibility when you don't have to.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

I see where both sides are coming from.

There’s one side looking at the symptom and the other looking at the cause.

The latter feels that t-shirt enables reckless behaviour from women having children with ain’t shyt men, and therefore expecting “simps” to pick up where the dead beat dad left.

However, not every woman is in that situation; divorce, the father dying, abusive relationships can lead to a woman becoming a single mother.

I understand the frustration because that shirt almost seems like it’s enabling the whole baby dad culture. But on the same hand, we shouldn’t shyt on men who want to raise these children in a two parent household.

 

[The ADD]

nobody is claiming that it was an act of charity. Still doesn't negate the fact that he stepped up though. "Stepping up" = assuming a responsibility when you don't have to.

Is it stepping up when you assume a responsibility to get something you wanted?

Me thinks not.

 

[Rawtid]

Invest time and raise kids that might not respect you brehs.

Love these kids and when you try to educate them hear your not my real father brehs.

Yeah because all kids respect their natural born parents.

 

[010101]

on the real one of my uncle first wife had a son when he married her & if my uncle wasn't solid my bros life would have been fukked

to this day me & bro is like blood

he tells me all the time how my uncle changed his life when he ain't have to that shyte really means a lot

& now it comes full circle cause his bro got locked who had a baby that the mother died he stepped up & has been raising lil homie

lil nikka is bright top percentile testing & we finna make sure he wins as his ogs

y'all quit joking & keep it g

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[Bushmaster]

I see where both sides are coming from.

There’s one side looking at the symptom and the other looking at the cause.

The latter feels that t-shirt enables reckless behaviour from women having children with ain’t shyt men, and therefore expecting “simps” to pick up where the dead beat dad left.

However, not everyone woman is in that situation; divorce, the father dying, abusive relationships can lead to a woman becoming a single mother.

I understand the frustration because that shirt almost seems like it’s enabling the whole baby dad culture. But on the same hand, we shouldn’t shyt on men who want to raise these children in a two parent household.

Dudes are just too extreme. Everything has to be black and white. They know nothing about this breh or the woman that he's with. They don't know her history or why she is a single mother. They simply concluded that she's some reformed thot and that breh is a simp who is trying to save her, thereby enabling the reckless baby dad culture as you said.

And like you said, there are plenty ways in which a woman can become a single mother. Abusive husband. Dead husband. Maybe her marriage simply didn't work out etc.. why do they automatically assume that any black single mom is a thot?

Here's the kicker tho breh: these are the exact same cats who high five nikkas like @skeetsinternal for putting babies inside these same women and creating more dysfunction.

If they were truly against the dysfunction they wouldn't be enabling it by endorsing such reckless behavior

 

[Bushmaster]

on the real one of my uncle first wife had a son when he married her & if my uncle wasn't solid my bros life would have been fukked

to this day me & bro is like blood

he tells me all the time how my uncle changed his life when he ain't have to that shyte really means a lot

& now it comes full circle cause his bro got locked who had a baby that the mother died he stepped up & has been raising lil homie

lil nikka is bright top percentile testing & we finna make sure he wins as his ogs

y'all quit joking & keep it g

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Most these nikkas grew up fatherless themselves. Even if they had fathers, they probably weren't really there for them.

Now they are #HOH. But take them back to when they were 10 or 12 and they'll tell you how much they craved for a true father figure.

Fatherhood is extremely important and fatherlessness is the source of a lot of dysfunction and misery in society. If you come from a community where a large percentage of males are already locked up or dead, you can't be out here shaming other men for filling that void and trying to fix that situation. Not if you really care about your community.

It's not even up for debate.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Dudes are just too extreme. Everything has to be black and white. They know nothing about this breh or the woman that he's with. They don't know her history or why she is a single mother. They simply concluded that she's some reformed thot and that breh is a simp who is trying to save her, thereby enabling the reckless baby dad culture as you said.

And like you said, there are plenty ways in which a woman can become a single mother. Abusive husband. Dead husband. Maybe her marriage simply didn't work out etc.. why do they automatically assume that any black single mom is a thot?

Here's the kicker tho breh: these are the exact same cats who high five nikkas like @skeetsinternal for putting babies inside these same women and creating more dysfunction.

If they were truly against the dysfunction they wouldn't be enabling it by endorsing such reckless behavior

I’ve accepted hypocrisy on here is the norm. I said straight up that skeets ain’t shyt (if his stories isn’t Ducktales) for bragging about what he does. I guess a lot of guys on here live vicariously through him.

I would never shyt on the next man if he wants to take on someone else’s kids. Would I do it personally? No but how can I be mad if there’s someone trying to stop the dysfunction?

It’s crazy on here.

 

[Benjamin Sisko]

the same ho wouldn’t even look at him if she had no kids

 

[EdJo]

Some of you are clowns, always trying to appeal to the emotions of the readers...Smh

That's why women of other races who are single mothers, see black men as some type of salvation. Because of you clowns who happen to be black, but still have zero respect for black men and expect them to just accept any condition, no matter what.

The non-dysfunctional black man is asked to abandon the dream of having a kid of his own or raising a kid of his own, his own seed, because pathetic black males and pathetic black females, who were not ready to have kids, slept together.

FOH, if black boys have no fathers, it is not because of the guys without kids, guys who married the women they got pregnant, or the guys who are not with the moms but still take care of their kids.

You guys know very well, that the blame falls on the immature women who allowed immature men to get them pregnant. These 2, are the only ones to blame.

 

[peppe]

Dont get why people are saying that we are clowning these people that do take on the job as a step dad. Like there arent fatherless kids in white pr asian communities

If you want to wife someone with that kind of baggage then do you BUT there are enough single hot females that dont have that baggage.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

Id be like damn my step daddy corny

 

[Makavalli]

I hate this shyt with a passion.

He didn’t step up. The women he wanted came with kids. He had to accept them as part of the transaction. Good for him but you don’t need a shirt or a parade fam.

Exactly simps need to stop this shyt. Now if the man and woman are both single parents cool because they share that responsibility and time schedule so they most likely on the same page.

a breh with no kids tho?? Thats like bragging about copping a used 2010 740 with 3 previous owners

 

[Guess Who]

Fake Black power site the coli continues to expose itself

Calls black people fatherless in every other thread but shyts on marriage,single mothers or the dudes who are willing to be a stepfathers.

Man this site, and this section in particular, has become delusional.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

Some guys have "no choice" but to be the guy that stepped up in order to get an attractive single woman . I know of a couple decently attractive woman that had dudes begging too be with them..both are recently single moms before the baby was even born, one is a 2X single mom....time for dudes like him to "step up" and get them at a discounted rate lol.