I'm terrified of BW.

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  1. Coco Loco

    Coco Loco The Chocolate One with the Gold Cuffs

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    I guarantee if you tried to talk to a chick off an edible (don't eat too goddamn much lol) you'll see how easy it is and how much mental clarity you'll have. Also, don't put them on a pedestal. They're human just like you. They're also probably a little nervous too.

    If you do build up the confidence and get shot down, DO NOT LET IT DISCOURAGE YOU! Try again.
     
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    Real N Quotes East Is In The House OMG

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    :wow:

    IDK know breh. Cop Tariq’s first book :yeshrug:
     
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    Coco Loco The Chocolate One with the Gold Cuffs

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    DP
     
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    Not even manning up. Just be yourself and cater to your market of BW. You might get the anime ones, you might get the dorky ones. You don’t gotta dress trap, change the way you act or have the blinky on you at all times. Some BW out there appreciates your quirks.

    Just be comfortable with being yourself and practice in different arenas. (Not only clubs)

    & travel if you don’t already

    :salute:
     
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    Meh The New Masculinity

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    Even when BW have approached me IRL and have shown interest, I couldn't decipher whether it was real or if it was just small talk. I've had women tell me that I'm standoffish and that they tried to talk to me. The other day, a black woman at work asked me if I was ex military. She said she seen me walk in the hallways many times and noticed how I walked. I asked her if it was a good or bad thing, and she said it could be either/or. Mind you, I've never noticed her. She was very attractive too. I didn't know what to say after that. I wanted to flirt with her, but I didn't know if what she told me was just a general passing statement, or if it was a signal to kinda pursue and shoot my shot. This is all part of me being afraid of getting the wrong signals mixed up. So even if a BW is genrally showing intrest, in that very moment I'll convince myself that she actually isn't interested and that I should just keep it moving. The worst fear for me, is me confusing general small talk with a black woman with "choosing signal". I don't wanna have a convo with a sista and come away from the convo like

    YEAH, She's totally feeling me.

    But in her head she's like

    I hope this nikka doesn't think I'm feeling him..

    That would cripple me.
     
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    Solo999 King of the eXoticals

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    You were meant to join #PAWGset or #PAAGset OP.

    Accept your destiny and stop running from it :mjlit:
     
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    Edibles make.me paranoid. I only wear my glasses if im high
     
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    Every stage actor has pre show jitters,that is exactly what you are,an actor. You have a plan to go out there and perform for those black women,and be who you think they want you to be based on stereotypes. Sounds like your even checking hair and makeup before you go on:snoop:.

    You know how good black women are at sniffing out unauthentic behavior and fakeness,and how they might be bold enough to call you out on certain things. Be yourself sounds so basic if you believe or even know being yourself won't get you the women you are approaching. But being yourself is the only thing that will give you true confidence unless you want to become the embodiment of a character like a wwf wrestler. You could create a persona, and if you can pull it off it probably means you could have been a great actor. But understand that Denzels and Ric Flairs aren't born everyday,and they don't have to keep that up 24/7 like you would have to if you get with a woman long term who likes you for your persona. So being your true self is actually the best advice,just adding upgrades to that. Fix your body language,come with a more upbeat energy and excitement about what interest you and what you like to talk about,energy is infectious. Then after you do that,understand being yourself will more than likely not work for every demographic. If you are a square dude you need to find square females. If you are a religious/spiritual dude,you need to find those type of women. Do a self assesment,if you know you don't have the charisma and ain't slick enough with the tongue to create any converts. Find your demographic and preach to the choir. There are men who can cross all demographics based on looks and or mouthpiece,but most men need to stay in their lane.
     
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    You remind me so much of my younger brother. Its crazy
     
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    AnnoyedWithHoes I love not to know so I can know more... Supporter

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    Ironically, you described the woman I am still a little sprung over. :mjlol:

    I’m such a sucker but it was something about her. :mjcry:
     
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    The amount of fish eye lense they need to try and compete ass wise is hilarious :mjlol: first room looks like a bubble


    Besides that Coli brehettes formed like Voltron to support my breh :wow:
     
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    Stay out the club and try to holla at chicks at small get togethers. It takes the stress of you, you know people there and you’re comfortable in that environment

    Breh, they outnumber us. That means that they’re chasing after us.
     
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    Oh lord lol

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    Sassy I'm delivert!

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    Confidence, my friend, will solve this problem. Although it won't be overnight.

    You're not a bad looking dude at all. So your confidence could use some work. As well as it seems to be anxiety could be at play here. I know because I've been there (although it was nearly with people I don't know very well and sometimes people in general)


    Start off small, start off by saying hi, how are you, etc. And build from there.
     
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    does your fear vary on skin tone? :russ:
    light/redbone 20% fear
    caramel 30%
    mocha brown 50%
    light chocolate 70%
    Dark Chocolate 100% :merchant:


    The coli is crazy man.
     
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