murksiderock
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There's a deficiency in their ability to be ab attractive party. Could be as simple as looks, could be in maturity, could be in a variety of relatability and personality traits. There's something missing in that individual...
Is It Worth It To Still Try To Date/Find Love After 40?
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There's a deficiency in their ability to be ab attractive party. Could be as simple as looks, could be in maturity, could be in a variety of relatability and personality traits. There's something missing in that individual...
UpdateBreh my girl comes home after work and cries every day.
I'm not exaggerating or hyperbolizing.
This adult human cries about her job, which really isn't that bad... Every. Single. Day.
Ladies. If your man came home and cried about his job every day, how long would you really stick it out?
No. Not after 40. What’s the point? After 40- just have friends and enjoy the second part of your life. If you don’t have “love” by 40 then it ain’t happening. Cold hard facts. That’s reality. You’re already set in your ways and be taken state. Unless it’s someone to help take care of you when you’re sick and approach old age. I’m not changing any diapers or bed pans unless it’s a baby. People get grumpy and bitter as they age -I can’t stand old people who constantly complain all the time about their misfortune and missed opportunities. Depressing. I’ll be like, just shut up and let me read my book or watch my movies- I already worked 10 hrs a day- on a job that I actually get paid for, then to go home and have a second job as a counselor to the feeble minded. Nah.. I don’t get paid to listen to complaints. I’m already a mother, I’m not in the mood for being responsible for another person’s emotions that are not related or family, My peace of mind and spirituality is too important to be disturbed by a temporary person that I’ll get annoyed with over the next 4-6 yrs. Gmb-ette is a lifestyle - know when the game is over and you’ll be content.
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It’s true nothing is guaranteed. Your spouse could die before you and your children might not be shyt but you have to give your self a fighting chance to better the odds which we have to do with everything in life. I’ve seen to many old, lonely sad people without family and friends that have died or to busy with their own families to agree with your points
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Nigerianwonder
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Folks will ignore this but its the truth. These old ugly dudes in this thread are more delusional than some old thots. Dudes in here swagless, balding, out of shape, and can't even have sex still thinking they are a good catch and got the nerve to have a checklist for dating women.
If you have no leverage or options and women ghost you then you are dating women above your level. If you weren't pulling chicks in your 20s and 30s nothing will change in your 40s except having less options.. there is a overweight 40 year old woman with 6 kids and 3 baby daddies that will treat them like a king. Thats who they deserve.
Marraige is a business. At 40 just find someone you can build with and trust and call it a day. Love will come later.
Action Mike
All praise..
Did a whole lot of talking about yourself...
I this I that, just say your personally finished and go
ill_will82
What you see, is what you get
When I posted in this thread last year and said I wasn't dealing with any woman w/kid(s) I meant that shyt. Idgaf if I'm pushing 40 or not. On the flip side if I were a parent, I would date women with kid(s). Every guy doesn't want to go from a lifestyle of peace to a life of potential chaos.
Uhhh yeah -who the fuk are you?? My ex??Did a whole lot of talking about yourself...
I this I that, just say your personally finished and go
I’m far from finished as a 30-something adult. I just don’t give a fuk enough to give a shyt about “relationships” in the 2020. Nothing lasts with people in these times of instant gratification. I’m not ho-ing or riding with that dumbass their culture bullshyt- don’t get me wrong, I’m just confident in where I’m at in life and what my priorities are. Dating and “finding love” isn’t one of them. I was more excited about buying my BMW last month than having a boyfriend.
Why are you so personally offended?? I’m not gaming or tricking off anyone. I have a steady career. So it’s Never that- I love black men but I know that I’m not the relationship type and it would not be fair for me to bring someone into a situation that I’m not emotionally ready for and possibly will never be as I get older. It is what it is. My priories are children, career advancement, financial stability, mental growth, spiritual energy, helping my family, and developing good bonds with friends along with being in a position to give back to my community both time and money wise. I meet men everyday b -so it’s not for lack of options or being “ washed” - hitting the wall. No offense - that’s how I feel.
Scott Larock
Its hard leaving thecoli but I gotta find a way...
I mean America is going the introvert route anyways everything is on demand, food, movies, porn, sports... it’s gearing towards more isolated behavior rather than group activities.
so the mentality is going to change, I think loneliness will comes with a lifetime pornhub sucscriptions, Uber ears and and all that.
but I don’t think men, even the ones at the bottom is gonna wake up and marry a woman with a bunch of kids and baggage. Like marriage to a porn star.
I think America is going to accommodate people regardless of how they live.
so the mentality is going to change, I think loneliness will comes with a lifetime pornhub sucscriptions, Uber ears and and all that.
but I don’t think men, even the ones at the bottom is gonna wake up and marry a woman with a bunch of kids and baggage. Like marriage to a porn star.
I think America is going to accommodate people regardless of how they live.
We figured it out. She doesn't cry anymore. We good now.
Good as in worked it out or locked in the basement with food and water until she listens?
In light of this thread, this is nothing new though. I can remember the POF forums, it would be topics like:
Love After 30
Love After 40
Love After 50
I give up.....
Is he/she out there?
Pages and pages of replies. Also don't even mention loveshack forums:
In Search Of...
That "In Search Of" section alone has over 150K posts. At some point in our lives we realize what we will and will not deal with when comes to finding a partner or if we will be content being alone. I know men and women who have personally given up finding someone, usually all it takes is the right person to get that energy going again.
Love After 30
Love After 40
Love After 50
I give up.....
Is he/she out there?
Pages and pages of replies. Also don't even mention loveshack forums:
In Search Of...
That "In Search Of" section alone has over 150K posts. At some point in our lives we realize what we will and will not deal with when comes to finding a partner or if we will be content being alone. I know men and women who have personally given up finding someone, usually all it takes is the right person to get that energy going again.
DatLBCGuy562
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Good as in worked it out or locked in the basement with food and water until she listens?
lol nah she just quit her job that was stressing her out and started a media marketing company with her sisters. She's much happier now.
Attaching an age range at which one should have "achieved and found" love and otherwise it's just over for you is just ridiculous!
If you're one of the lucky ones who are going to make it to their twilight years you still have DECADES of life before you in which you can find love, build something (relationships, experiences, raise a child/grandchildren/nieces & nephews etc, leave a mark)!
If you think 40 overall is old, not in relation to someone decades younger, you don't seem to have much vision for yourself and your life.
Heck, maybe anxiety and depression is getting to some of y'all which affects millions of people so maybe seeking therapy would be helpful?!
You don't need to have a mental illness to seek therapy and have a medical professional bound by provider - patient confidentiality to maybe help you sort some things out.
Some of the happiest people have said that what helped them become more satisfied on the inside is to find something bigger than yourself, something that doesn't necessarily makes you the focus, that you can be a part of that makes you purposeful.
Shifting your attention to others in need in various ways like volunteering, starting initiatives or organizations, having a career in a field that serves specific communities etc. are all ways in which you can be of service. You can extend that to helping/researching animals, conservation, climate change/environmental issues, human rights issues and the list goes on and on....
Being a part of a goal that's bigger than yourself and most likely can't be achieved without lots of work by many people in one lifetime gives you purpose that pretty much makes you feel more whole and fulfilled.
It also forces you to be connected with more people that you've probably never met before so you keep on learning and growing as a person and maybe even find someone you can halfway stand romantically, after all it's a numbers game, right?!
If you're one of the lucky ones who are going to make it to their twilight years you still have DECADES of life before you in which you can find love, build something (relationships, experiences, raise a child/grandchildren/nieces & nephews etc, leave a mark)!
If you think 40 overall is old, not in relation to someone decades younger, you don't seem to have much vision for yourself and your life.
Heck, maybe anxiety and depression is getting to some of y'all which affects millions of people so maybe seeking therapy would be helpful?!
You don't need to have a mental illness to seek therapy and have a medical professional bound by provider - patient confidentiality to maybe help you sort some things out.
Some of the happiest people have said that what helped them become more satisfied on the inside is to find something bigger than yourself, something that doesn't necessarily makes you the focus, that you can be a part of that makes you purposeful.
Shifting your attention to others in need in various ways like volunteering, starting initiatives or organizations, having a career in a field that serves specific communities etc. are all ways in which you can be of service. You can extend that to helping/researching animals, conservation, climate change/environmental issues, human rights issues and the list goes on and on....
Being a part of a goal that's bigger than yourself and most likely can't be achieved without lots of work by many people in one lifetime gives you purpose that pretty much makes you feel more whole and fulfilled.
It also forces you to be connected with more people that you've probably never met before so you keep on learning and growing as a person and maybe even find someone you can halfway stand romantically, after all it's a numbers game, right?!
