Is It Worth It To Still Try To Date/Find Love After 40?

[Ahadi]

Interracial dating breh, it will make you feel better trust me. You gonna feel a way looking at your own knowing you couldn’t do what other dudes could.

interracial dating will make you feel better, find a conservative spot and visit once in a blue moon.

very important for older dudes. Half my team met middle aged non black womenswear and wife’s them up. We were broke for years when we were young and no one wants the older black women especially if you couldn’t get the fine youngin.

Was it harder for them to get younger black women?

 

[Blankthawtz]

if you're 35+ with no kids and no s/o you're gonna die alone and no one will remember you or your existence.....

 

[Mtt]

https://www.thecoli.com/threads/who-thot-ass-aunt-is-this-update-we-got-more.509380/page-59

 

[Scott Larock]

Was it harder for them to get younger black women?

we in south Florida so it’s not like other areas, image is everything and classism is pretty high. These are basic dudes so yeah in a sense they got a few but couldn’t seal the deal. Women change they go from wanting to experiment sexually to mature god fearing women looking for a love quickly. Do a lot of dudes got left out in the cold.

as I said all those girls old now and most are alone cuz the dudes out there slot of them are loving their life they ain’t trying to take care of another dudes kids like that nor do they believe them.

I wasn’t trying to troll with the interracial stuff but for some dudes it helps mentally it’s just real talk. A man gotta feel he worth something, we play this democratic game of gender wars and disrespect then you crying at 40 alone, fat, with kids and all you got is a blog to rant on.

just real talk.

 

[Deflatedhoopdreams]

if you're 35+ with no kids and no s/o you're gonna die alone and no one will remember you or your existence.....

Why will no one in your immediate family remember you??

 

[the bossman]

usually all it takes is the right person to get that energy going again.

That's all it takes. The right person comes along giving them some attention and all of a sudden they nose wide open with butterflies in their stomach

 

[Blankthawtz]

Why will no one in your immediate family remember you??

cuz you're officially the family loser....it'll be fukk You!....

 

[Rawtid]

we in south Florida so it’s not like other areas, image is everything and classism is pretty high. These are basic dudes so yeah in a sense they got a few but couldn’t seal the deal. Women change they go from wanting to experiment sexually to mature god fearing women looking for a love quickly. Do a lot of dudes got left out in the cold.

as I said all those girls old now and most are alone cuz the dudes out there slot of them are loving their life they ain’t trying to take care of another dudes kids like that nor do they believe them.

I wasn’t trying to troll with the interracial stuff but for some dudes it helps mentally it’s just real talk. A man gotta feel he worth something, we play this democratic game of gender wars and disrespect then you crying at 40 alone, fat, with kids and all you got is a blog to rant on.

just real talk.

These are similar reasons black women say they date out; to feel worthy as women and not work as hard to make relationships work/progress. Same issues with one another, just different perspectives.

 

[JoseLuisGotcha]

As long as you got your shyt together, some bread and own crib 40 is still suitable gotta tap into early 30 brehettes that know their clock is ticking

 

[Ahadi]

we in south Florida so it’s not like other areas, image is everything and classism is pretty high. These are basic dudes so yeah in a sense they got a few but couldn’t seal the deal. Women change they go from wanting to experiment sexually to mature god fearing women looking for a love quickly. Do a lot of dudes got left out in the cold.

as I said all those girls old now and most are alone cuz the dudes out there slot of them are loving their life they ain’t trying to take care of another dudes kids like that nor do they believe them.

I wasn’t trying to troll with the interracial stuff but for some dudes it helps mentally it’s just real talk. A man gotta feel he worth something, we play this democratic game of gender wars and disrespect then you crying at 40 alone, fat, with kids and all you got is a blog to rant on.

just real talk.

I get that.

Get it how you can. You only got 1 life and no one is trying to be alone.

 

[Scott Larock]

These are similar reasons black women say they date out; to feel worthy as women and not work as hard to make relationships work/progress. Same issues with one another, just different perspectives.

I get negged for it but I just feel that game of gender and expectations is one usually that will lead to failure of course some dudes go they grind right and will overcome but a lot of us we gotta be real we ain’t built for a phd or 6 years of college, then you got nafta, trade agreements, immigration, and all that which is design to leave some folks behind.

just in terms of black men I just feel as someone who’s been at the bottom it’s not something I wanna see happen to people.

you gotta find value regardless of age, status or whatever. Get it how you can cuz you lose the mind you lose everything.

 

[Alvin]

Bro that shyt crazy. And it's never that serious.

HOW DO YOU HANDLE IT? JUST OET HER VENT?

I literally stop thinking about work the second I leave the office.

They really don't know how to "move in a room full of vultures"

My girl beefs with a 50 year old and a late 30 year old over literally nothing...it's so trivial.

I can't take it. Like...she's going to turn into those same old bitter bytches if she don't learn how to manage in this corporate world.

I'm going for my masters in IT or cyber security since it'll compliment my current experience...I need an exit plan

You think you need a master's in IT when there are certs?

 

[Elim Garak]

I don't understand why you would put an age limit on it if it is something you want?

 

[Rawtid]

I get negged for it but I just feel that game of gender and expectations is one usually that will lead to failure of course some dudes go they grind right and will overcome but a lot of us we gotta be real we ain’t built for a phd or 6 years of college, then you got nafta, trade agreements, immigration, and all that which is design to leave some folks behind.

just in terms of black men I just feel as someone who’s been at the bottom it’s not something I wanna see happen to people.

you gotta find value regardless of age, status or whatever. Get it how you can cuz you lose the mind you lose everything.

Wholeheartedly agree with you. I'm a single mother that has to perform a lot of "male designated" roles as part of running my household, but I never feel like a man or on that whole "strong, independent woman" stuff either. It's what needs to be done.

I say this a lot, but I like to operate in the concept of strengths and weaknesses, not gender roles. If I'm filling in where you're weak and you're doing the same for me, we operate in a position of strength as a unit every time.

 

[Rawtid]

I don't understand why you would put an age limit on it if it is something you want?

For people without children, age matters.