U gotta have like 5 back up plans..cause this generation is too flaky
Is the "OMG IM SO SORRY I FELL ASLEEP" the most common 'shyt test' given by women
- Thread starter BrothaZay
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Tenchi Ryu
Ashtray B!tch
Even though I agree with your advice it’s bullshyt how when shyt reversed nikkas catch heat for ghosting folks. Get all type of cold a$$hole insults yet women do that shyt like it’s easy
Yeah that’s exactly what I did, I didn’t hype her up at all, she doesn’t know anything about me at all, I mostly know about her, she told me where she lives, where she works, etc.
She knows pretty much nothing about me at all.
I only talked to her when I was trying to get her to come out.
She was responding well and saying she can see me whenever, so it confused me when she flaked like that.
I didn’t compliment her, I didn’t send no weak ass emojis or lols, it was just a phone call or text to confirm shyt and to get to know her a little.
This girl was hitting me fast af too talking about she wanna see me and she can’t wait to, all I literally did was hit her up to find out some info, when she free, the place and time.
That’s why I was so confused, I didn’t validate her at all, so idk what ego boost she got from me besides trying to make me look stupid, which I already told her I make sure I know 100% if she is going to go out before I even think of it.
I’m just mad because I actually was attracted to her more than other girls I was talking to, even though she didn’t look better than some.
Why do girls act like that though? What do they get out of being petty and fickle?
It's not a test. It's a woman being unwilling to drop you from her roster by telling u the following:
"No im not interested in fukking with you after hours. Contact me before 8pm to plan some shyt where we can get to know each other. Otherwise, I don't know you, so get the fukk on. I don't owe you shyt b/c we just met. You think you smart but you not. And the only reason why I didn't tell yo dumb ass this shyt early on is b/c now that I know you ain't about anything serious, imma try to waste as much of your time and money as I can b/c that's what you were trying to do to me. So u can't even be mad playa."
So she is polite and says "Oh baby! Yaaaaaawwwwnnnnn! Geez it's been a rough day..."
Until men and women can learn to communicate honestly, these little games will always be played.
"No im not interested in fukking with you after hours. Contact me before 8pm to plan some shyt where we can get to know each other. Otherwise, I don't know you, so get the fukk on. I don't owe you shyt b/c we just met. You think you smart but you not. And the only reason why I didn't tell yo dumb ass this shyt early on is b/c now that I know you ain't about anything serious, imma try to waste as much of your time and money as I can b/c that's what you were trying to do to me. So u can't even be mad playa."
So she is polite and says "Oh baby! Yaaaaaawwwwnnnnn! Geez it's been a rough day..."
Until men and women can learn to communicate honestly, these little games will always be played.
seabreeze80
All Star
Men catch heat for ghosting women? So what. Block and ignore. Live your life carefree.
Some women are not going to tell you to your face that she isn't interested. Why? Fear of being physically weaker and that at any time the guy will try to harm her. Read in-between the lines. Women and men are not a different species. If someone is into you, they will make the effort. If she isn't making the effort, you are just another notch on her belt or she is using you for attention to fill the void until the one she truly wants finally commits.
Ehhh the more a chick is feeling you/respects you, the less she gonna do to fukk it up. If you dropping the ones who ain't feeling you instead of wasting your energy on them you'll have more time & energy for the ones who will act right.
I heard that recently from a stripper hoe I was suppose to shoot pictures with. I just cut her loose and she had the audacity to try to get dances from me after flaking on me. Still follow each other on IG so I seen when this same hoe had nothing going on.
She thought she was gon have me geeked and spending to shoot pics with her.
Right game, wrong n***a.
FYI: I never got dances from her and never heard will.
Why are yall ruminating the stupid shyt women do? If they dont love like feelings for you their perception changes more than the temperature. Chalk it up to the game tell her to holla back and retain your dignity. You will never convince a bytch to fukk with you after she not into you.
Formerly Black Trash
Philosopher, Connoisseur, Future Legend
Same.
I ain’t been friend zoned since college
I’m glad...shyt just don’t respond to me and I’ll get the hint
That’s where I am right now with this woman I’m talking to. It feels like she’s doing enough to not let me say fukk it and move on. She knows I really dig her too.If plans were made and she pulls that, she really didn't like you. If a woman's feeling you, she'll do her best to make a date. If she's really feeling you she'll also respond to a majority of your texts, and not 24 hours later. If a scenario happens where you're getting flaked on, or she's barely responding to your texts, she's not into you, and she's either using you for an ego boost, entertainment, or out of boredom. Trust me, your one out of many dudes that she's talking to, so she won't care how you feel about her excuses for why she's flaking or slow to respond. Actions speak louder than words. It's easy to pretend like your into a guy, by giving him crumbs--flirty texts, even going so far to say yes to a date yall arrange. But in the end, if she's sending you those flirty messages hours after you send one to her, or she's planning on skipping out on the date she planned with you, she really just ain't fukking with you. Fickle, or lukewarm women only play these shyt games with men they don't care about. Let it be a man that she really wants to fukk, or date--and her behavior will be drastically different. Yall know what I'm talking about, if you've ever had a woman into you, deep down you already know what's up when is playing these games with you. If you continue to proceed, then it's on you.
It’s frustrating. Sigh
...just mind fukk em back and keep it moving..give em ur social media...friend or follow her...flake on her on the first meet up date...post shyt of u doing something cool on the same day...guarantee u won't have that problem..fukks their head up.... With most women u can kinda tell who gone flake on u if u dealt with women long enough...she giving off them vibes thru text or convo act accordingly...kills two birds...establishes dominance and shows her u ain't pressed like that
Because they can. It depends on the breh--they usually get something out of it, whether it's using him, ego boosts, or entertainment when they feel like it. But you got remember that a lot of younger females are immature and are pretty much fickle and indecisive about a lot of things. Until they fully know themselves(which takes time) you can expect these types of wishy washy behaviors. When they grow up (if they do), the games are usually minimal because they know what they want.
I'm not trying to attack you or be negative for daps but these questions seem rooted in "beta-ness". If you want to be successful out here you need to stop trying to understand every single nuance of dating and look in the mirror and make sure you're comfortable with yourself. When you look in the mirror are you happy with what you see?
Once you can say "yes" confidently then you need to proceed with making sure you know how to have conversations without being socially awkward. If you can do that then you have the hardest parts squared away...you're confident and you can talk.
From that point it's all a numbers game dealing with human psychology. You can't sit there and focus on why a bytch ghosted you...it could be you are whack or bummy or ugly or smelly or it could have nothing to do with you at all...something you may have could have reminded her of something her uncle said to her right before he touched her p*ssy in the 3rd grade.
You literally cannot know all the variables but what you CAN know and control is if you're stepping out with your best foot forward. If you're a corny nikka with stanky breath fix that shyt. If you have no fashion sense fix that shyt. Be the best you and find the person that appreciates that "best you". You will lose some that you really liked and you'll also have some loyal ones you can't stand...it's all apart of the game.
I'm not denigrating introspective thought, I'm level setting and telling you that you can't dwell on what you can't control.
That’s where I am right now with this woman I’m talking to. It feels like she’s doing enough to not let me say fukk it and move on. She knows I really dig her too.
It’s frustrating. Sigh
Your an option to her, a back up. There's another breh that she may like more, that hasn't made her his, so she'll keep you around. You should move on, since you know this deep down. Sometimes yall be attracted to women that are fickle and bytchy like this. I don't know why, but it's a real thing. The women that are thirsty for you and throwing it at you are easy and clingy and annoying to some of yall. The ones that are like the women you're describing, be the ones yall want.
Mmhmm... That’s why I don’t trip but sure enough, I foolishly make myself too available. I know my flaws in this game but I will be alright once it concludes.
The song that describes my situation aptly is Bruno Mars “Calling All My Lovelies”.
