It Appears Girl Code Is harmful to Women

[threattonature]

That shyt is childish to me. We all adults. If we were just casually dating and never got too serious then I would have no problem is a female wanted to date one of my male friends as long it wasn't on no sneak shyt. If they both came to me and told me the deal I'd give my blessings if I didn't want her. People are too damn selfish and entitled IMO. I had my boy tell me I can't even speak with his ex who I had become good friends with while they were dating.

I think it boils down to who we keep as company. I don't keep close friends that I even think would try to get at my girl on the low so I'd trust that if an ex and them wanted to date that shyt was on the up and up.

Especially as I get older. Everybody says there's so many other good women/men out there but it really ain't. Not that we have true chemistry or vibe with so if an ex of mine and a friend was feeling that energy more power to them.

 

[Lady.Libra.]

You're selfish

You're a liar.

If you & your crew swap/handoff without issues then knock yourself out.

 

[threattonature]

It depends how the break up ends if the ex ends up being your worst enemy I wouldn't want my best friend to be with her for his own mental health and so that she doesn't talk shyt to my best friend about me


If it ended amicably but we decided we weren't right for each other and I moved on and got married I wouldn't care what my friend did with that ex.

Someone like breezy has a an unhealthy claim of ownership to his former significant other karreuche so where dudes who aren't his friends are being told to pull up even though he out there smashing other chicks and the relationship passed several years.

I'm surprised people can't move on if it wasn't meant to be then it wasn't meant to be

shyt I've actually set multiple friends up with women that I had smashed in the past. Me and the girls had remained friends and had become 100% plutonic. I knew they were great girls and my friends were good dudes so if they clicked they'd treat each other right.

I think really what it boils down to is that women don't want to have to face their own bad decisions. They don't want to see their friends get treated right and be reminded that they passed up on a good thing to chase a thug or chase the money or whatever else.

 

[Voice of Reason]

That shyt is childish to me. We all adults. If we were just casually dating and never got too serious then I would have no problem is a female wanted to date one of my male friends as long it wasn't on no sneak shyt. If they both came to me and told me the deal I'd give my blessings if I didn't want her. People are too damn selfish and entitled IMO. I had my boy tell me I can't even speak with his ex who I had become good friends with while they were dating.

I think it boils down to who we keep as company. I don't keep close friends that I even think would try to get at my girl on the low so I'd trust that if an ex and them wanted to date that shyt was on the up and up.

Especially as I get older. Everybody says there's so many other good women/men out there but it really ain't. Not that we have true chemistry or vibe with so if an ex of mine and a friend was feeling that energy more power to them.

Selfish and entitled is an accurate description of most modern women. If they aren't happy(romantically)they don't want their friends to be happy either.

 

[5n0man]

Sounds like ol girl is a selfish POS that wants to get her back broke then circle back to "nice guy" in due time

Some women have a habit of not being interested in a dude until they see that another girl is interested in him.

You see this when a woman will friendzone a dude, then get jealous when he starts seeing another woman.

 

[Guile]

Unless she's going to marry this guy I would advise against it.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Couple months lol. If it was a couple years then that's off limits.

If my guy showed up to a function with my ex from years ago I'd

Your comment is all over the place.

An ex you dated for months or several years?

Or do you mean the last time y'all were together were several months or several years ago?

 

[JackRoss]

Your comment is all over the place.

An ex you dated for months or several years?

Or do you mean the last time y'all were together were several months or several years ago?

Several years. I already said this in another comment

 

[JT-Money]

Ha. Guess he's not such a 'nice guy' guy afterall - dipping in her pool of friends. Friends & Family are off limits.

I wouldn't want anything to do w/a dude who once pursued/was interested in my girlfriend: I would feel insulted.

But you didn't want him???

 

[Neuromancer]

Homegirl is a hater. Why block your friend's happiness when you don't even want the nikka?

Spoken like a woman with options that are of value .

 

[Seoul Gleou]

Why would she even care if she didn't want the dude? She doesn't own him.

he's a back pocket dude. after she's done hoeing and getting hurt, she'll come back to him cause he's stable and treats her right.

her friend knows this too and wants to snatch him up before its too late.

 

[Lady.Libra.]

But you didn't want him???

I've never done this/had it happen to me...

 

[kevm3]

Ol girl wants to keep nice guy in her backup pool... that's why she's blocking her homegirl from scooping him up. If things go wrong with her new bad boy, which they likely will, she wants a guy she can ring up and fall back on.

As far as girl asking, I don't see what's so wrong, given ol girl was only dating this dude for a couple of months and already moved on to a new dude. If it was a guy she was dating for a long term, that would be something completely different.

 

[Consigliere]

I’m not mad at her. Cuz next thing you know he’s creeping with your friend who he used to date and they knew each other first so...

 

[JT-Money]

I've never done this/had it happen to me...

I'm just saying if you're friend really liked a guy you dated in the past. You wouldn't support her because it would make you feel awkward? If you didn't want him what's the problem? You can't be this conceited.