It's true, men and women can't be friends.

[Ms. Elaine]

That's not good.

Teach me, then.

 

[Brandsdale]

I remember a long time ago this weirdo who has trying to unsuccessfully get in my pants at the time was like, "I hope you know ***** wants to fukk you, right? All guys are like this. They are only friends with girls they want to fukk."

I gave him the and told him to .


But years, I couldn't help but wonder if maybe he was right.


1) I've noticed that some guys will straight up act like complete a$$holes to their female friends as soon as they are getting some ass on a consistent basis on some bird get a girlfriend.

2) And actually, I've noticed that most of my "male friends" disappear once they get into serious relationships. Hm.

3) The married ones aren't safe either. I had known this dude for long while and we'd been friends through some long term relationships and we continued to be friends after he got married and had kids (he's a bit older than me). We'd text a lot, mainly about sports and I'd sell him old laptops and iPads of mine that I didn't need. Seemed pretty harmless to me.

Anyway, he ended up coming to my city and he didn't have a place to stay and so I hooked him up. Nothing happened. He took the bed and I took the couch since I was working late that night.

Anyway after he left, he sent me a text like, "Don't post anything on FB about me being there; my wife doesn't know I came to visit." And I was like, .


It was at that moment that I just knew that there was no such thing as a platonic relationship between men and women.

 

[#1 pick]

Teach me, then.

You gotta lot to learn. Being direct has to be tactful or a nikka can easily game you if he's attractive to you.

Understanding men is hard as hell for women like understanding women is for us. Most of us get it with experience and learning but that don't seem to be the case for a number of women and then they realize it when they get older. They get male friends who don't put them on game and their dating life is like going around a race car track. Constant loops and no end game.

My worry with you is bigger. You don't understand men even at a basic level. shyt like this should be elementary. So I would start there. The relationship shyt is scary tho. You might be on them Howard chicks I've dated level where it's like you just need to go back to the drawing board period.

 

[Ms. Elaine]

Didn't read

Still commented.

 

[Ms. Elaine]

You gotta lot to learn. Being direct has to be tactful or a nikka can easily game you if he's attractive to you.

Understanding men is hard as hell for women like understanding women is for us. Most of us get it with experience and learning but that don't seem to be the case for a number of women and then they realize it when they get older. They get male friends who don't put them on game and their dating life is like going around a race car track. Constant loops and no end game.

My worry with you is bigger. You don't understand men even at a basic level. shyt like this should be elementary. So I would start there. The relationship shyt is scary tho. You might be on them Howard chicks I've dated level where it's like you just need to go back to the drawing board period.

The hell.... I haven't talked about my romantic relationships with men at all in this thread or on this board.

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

I guess to protect their girl feelings

Personally I wouldn't let a male friend spend the night .....especially if he has a girl

That is the very classy thing to do.

 

[#1 pick]

The hell.... I haven't talked about my romantic relationships with men at all in this thread or on this board.

You don't have to. It's as obvious as these virgin dudes. You can see a thousand miles away.

 

[Ms. Elaine]

You don't have to. It's as obvious as these virgin dudes. You can see a thousand miles away.

I've never been gamed best believe.

 

[#1 pick]

I've never been gamed best believe.

That still doesn't mean you understand men. It means you haven't been gamed or at least that you are aware of. That's besides the point. Let's start small.

When you look at male interactions, do you care about his words or his actions and do you see the big picture or directly what he says?

 

[Malik1time]

Every male friend a women has....at some point in his life has thought about having sex with them I wonder if women think the same.

 

[Ms. Elaine]

Every male friend a women has....at some point in his life has thought about having sex with them I wonder if women think the same.

No.

 

[Malik1time]

No.

Also another thing dnt generalize all men that all they want is sex.some men genuinely want a relationship




That's my opinion

 

[Pineal Gland]

How would you feel if your man spent the night at another woman's house?

 

[Mind Over Thirst]

No.

Is that you in your profile pic?

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

I remember a long time ago this weirdo who has trying to unsuccessfully get in my pants at the time was like, "I hope you know ***** wants to fukk you, right? All guys are like this. They are only friends with girls they want to fukk."

I gave him the and told him to .


But years, I couldn't help but wonder if maybe he was right.


1) I've noticed that some guys will straight up act like complete a$$holes to their female friends as soon as they are getting some ass on a consistent basis on some bird get a girlfriend.

2) And actually, I've noticed that most of my "male friends" disappear once they get into serious relationships. Hm.

3) The married ones aren't safe either. I had known this dude for long while and we'd been friends through some long term relationships and we continued to be friends after he got married and had kids (he's a bit older than me). We'd text a lot, mainly about sports and I'd sell him old laptops and iPads of mine that I didn't need. Seemed pretty harmless to me.

Anyway, he ended up coming to my city and he didn't have a place to stay and so I hooked him up. Nothing happened. He took the bed and I took the couch since I was working late that night.

Anyway after he left, he sent me a text like, "Don't post anything on FB about me being there; my wife doesn't know I came to visit." And I was like, .


It was at that moment that I just knew that there was no such thing as a platonic relationship between men and women.

You just said he didn't do anything.

He didn't even attempt it.


Him staying there and you being mutual with him doesn't change the fact that what you have is still a friendship.


His wife on the other hand, obviously wouldn't like it because he stayed at a single woman's house, of whom, she probably isn't familiar with.



If there's any issue, it's the idea that his wife wouldn't be kosher with him spending the night at a strange female comrades house.




Your dynamic, unless otherwise happened, doesn't change that fact that you two are still platonic and he prolly appreciates your company. I have plenty of female friends i have no intentions of boning because i have no issue getting women in my everyday life approaching women (the last 5 women i bedded/got into relationships were those i met at bars/lounges/functions/network/work, etc.).


Him coming over and keeping this copasthetic only reassures my notions and disproves yours.


The main reason why his wife doesn't know about you is cuz she's the jelly type. He doesn't want to compromise a good friendship because his wife would tarnish it with her jealousy, to which, you can already attest to him just being a friend cuz obviously he didn't even hint or suggest anything during his stint at your place.



Relax... most people do have platonic relationships with the opposite sex. There's just levels to it and not every guy is trying to fukk every female friend, especially when his options are vast and varied.



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