Xtraz2
Superstar
i think being inseparable was a red flag from the jump, nobody should be that involved with their partner, to me thats toxic
Just got divorced after 12 yrs...ama
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Bushmaster69
Superstar
I'm not married but I want at least 2-4 kids. I don't believe in having children out of wedlock. Especially because of the statistics surrounding the Black community and the child's future.
So are you essentialy saying I'm fukked? My chances of having a family with a proper women is almost null
...Say it ain't so..
Lookin at my girl like
while reading this thread.
Parents failed raising daughters to be wives. People can make the argument marriage aint for everyone, but if thats the case dont complain you cant keep a partner. Another thing is many people in general have grown up and never seen a successful marriage, old couples will tell you marriage is HARD, but it is a PARTNERSHIP through thick and thin. Most women today want weddings and not an actual marriage if that makes sense. They want the Kids and a wedding for social media, but dont want the work that comes with it. I'd argue the main thing Men face is not being raised to be productive and go getters, but the thing is, the dudes who do have that in them will 8 times out of 10 make a good husband, but those who wouldn't typically opt out of marriage. Women on the other hand simply aren't being taught the skills to be a good wife (could be they come from a family where nobody has even been a wife let alone a good one).
CanesMiamiLakers
All Star
Just got out of an 11 yr marriage myself..
The house that I bought with my 401k (that I'm still paying back) it's for her n the kids now
Paying 800 a month child support
Can't even claim 1 of them on the income taxget about 2000 compared to her 10,000 every year
Now stuck living in a efficiency in east Miramar u ready for this life playboy? It's cheaper to keep her who ever said that shyt knew what time it was.
nikka say he in a efficiency damn my guy sorry for your lossAnd Modern men aren’t handy, bad with money, can’t fix cars, and barely focus on education, etc. Providing is more than money. Times are different, so we can’t expect either gender to behave the same as our grandparents.
SlickHomie
All-Pro Kufi Smacker
Theres no end all be all.....just have balance in your relationship....when problems arise nip it in the bud...QUICKI'm not married but I want at least 2-4 kids. I don't believe in having children out of wedlock. Especially because of the statistics surrounding the Black community and the child's future.
So are you essentialy saying I'm fukked? My chances of having a family with a proper women is almost null
Say it ain't so..
Lookin at my girl like
you have to have 100% honesty.....right or wrong be honest......and she should also
.....situations change....people change....thats life....if it works....great
Just be prepared when it dont...good luck
handy means nothing though, the issue is being PRODUCTIVE. Everything you mentioned has nothing to do with production. Those may be ways to produce but in the age of technology none of this matters any more. Being a HOMEMAKER though is a specific field in the same instance of being a Mechanic. Even then Women of today usually lack the ability to be nurturing to another adult, because they dont see Men as their other half. At the end of the day nobody is perfect, a proper partnership one persons weakness should be offset/balanced by the strengths of the other person. Many women how ever sees what a Man isn't strong at being "that man aint sh*t". On the other hand for men, as long as he gets sex at a minimum probably isn't asking for much. The thing couples today lack the ability to do is simply say "we love each other, how do we make it past this obstacle together?", thats what vows are for. Instead though if people reach a roadblock they just dead the relationship.
This is the problem tho, y’all be on that “if you do it we can do it too” shyt
But for some reason it’s only when it come to negative shyt
If a man pay all the bills u don’t feel like “if a man can do it I can do it too”. Only when it come to fukkin around
damn..soWow. She made it harder for the next one. Shoot I’m working right now and watching my son.
Just got out of an 11 yr marriage myself..
The house that I bought with my 401k (that I'm still paying back) it's for her n the kids now
Paying 800 a month child support
Can't even claim 1 of them on the income tax
Now stuck living in a efficiency in east Miramar u ready for this life playboy? It's cheaper to keep her who ever said that shyt knew what time it was.
ouch
the bossman
Superstar
I believe it's partly a historical thing. Daughters were raised to be strong & independent in case their man was taken from them for whatever systemic reason. This has gone on for a few generations now where the emphasis for most daughters is raising them to be able to exist and survive on her own without a man.
Hell, if you had daughter in this day and age you'd be on the same shyt. Imagine raising her to be dependent on some dusty clown from thecoli
So while this is good in theory, it's only giving them half of what they need. The other half of the "this is how you should treat a husband" "this is how your husband should treat you" is missing
I believe it's partly a historical thing. Daughters were raised to be strong & independent in case their man was taken from them for whatever systemic reason. This has gone on for a few generations now where the emphasis for most daughters is raising them to be able to exist and survive on her own without a man.
Hell, if you had daughter in this day and age you'd be on the same shyt. Imagine raising her to be dependent on some dusty clown from thecoli
So while this is good in theory, it's only giving them half of what they need. The other half of the "this is how you should treat a husband" "this is how your husband should treat you" is missing
independent nah lol. That language didnt start being used until the "im a independent woman who dont need no man" era. Women have always held their own weight.
Name some red flags you ignoredbothand
...so hopefully i coud give some insight to breh who thinkin bout marriage or goin thru issues....
SlickHomie
All-Pro Kufi Smacker
Bc....pull out...
The child support i was payin at the time...hell no...agreed to have by 40 when my oldest kid fell off cs
SlickHomie
All-Pro Kufi Smacker
Ill tell you one....a good one
Her Family.....my goodness....a daily train wreck....
Dont get me wrong they were good people
Cooked had dinners respected me helped me out at times....
But.......every......fukkin.......day.......drama
....her gm was cool....mama...just a leech...sis was cool...unncle a p.o.s
But gawdamn sittin round them sometimes u wanna jump out the fawkin window....
