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Keep It Real: Have any of you ever practiced COLORISM?
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Threads like this are always interesting, especially when juxtaposed with threads about racism. You'd be called a c00n in record time if you came into a thread about a police officer shooting a Black man, for example, and saying something like "If we know how the police are, why don't we just comply when we're pulled over"
What's pretty obvious at this point is people don't care about things like this unless they are directly affected by them. Which is why the same dismissive attitudes people have in this thread about colorism are nearly identical to the attitudes white people have when confronted with topics about racism.
Cel 510 kid ados forever
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That won't change people personal preference tho.
Also it's hard to determine when it's self hate or not
Some black men like Hispanic lightskin etc and it got nothing to do with self hate
I think dark women better off getting people who appreciate them
Just like reject nice guys
Worrying about others issues won't help urs
Cause people do all types of things for different reasons
This isn't a one shoe fits all issue
Threads like this are always interesting, especially when juxtaposed with threads about racism. You'd be called a c00n in record time if you came into a thread about a police officer shooting a Black man, for example, and saying something like "If we know how the police are, why don't we just comply when we're pulled over"
What's pretty obvious at this point is people don't care about things like this unless they are directly affected by them. Which is why the same dismissive attitudes people have in this thread about colorism are nearly identical to the attitudes white people have when confronted with topics about racism.
That gentleman guy is the same person that believes Black people will undergo a genocide in America 4-5x greater than Nazi Germany in the next 10 years.
Keep that in mind when he quotes you.
The Gentleman
Always a Gentleman!
@Booksnrain
You: I got a friend I want you to me.
Dude: you got a picture?
You: here
Dude: damn, she black as shyt. Not my thing.
You: Oh Damn!
Outside shaming what would you do in that situation?
You: I got a friend I want you to me.
Dude: you got a picture?
You: here
Dude: damn, she black as shyt. Not my thing.
You: Oh Damn!
Outside shaming what would you do in that situation?
Nah I know plenty of darker women who have said that they benefitted from hearing other women speak on their experiences too. Nobody is obligated to worry about the discourse. They can exit the conversation if it bothers them. But others will continue to highlight the psychology behind it and benefit from the insights they get into the human psyche of people who hate and avoid phenotypic biological markers of their own appearance in others. It’s a great teachable moment and a psychologists wet dream.
The Gentleman
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Did you not say 60-70% of Black people will be wiped out in America in the next 10-15 years?
Fillerguy
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Yes. It started in my 20s... I pretty much ignore light skin girls or treat them like the brehs. I'm dark as hell. Unfortunately, this backfired for a bit. Some women like that/expect this behavior from dark skinned dudes. I just avoid them now like I do white women.
I only do this because light skinned girls tend to be the most drama seeking of them all. Especially when they're biracial. I can't afford to have this in my life. I got family like this already. I can't.
I only do this because light skinned girls tend to be the most drama seeking of them all. Especially when they're biracial. I can't afford to have this in my life. I got family like this already. I can't.
throughout my life i have never been accused of it because my favorite since childhood has always been brown to dark with 4 type hair over the ever popular mixed exotical minority of our community. think whitney, karyn white, sheryl lee ralph, angela bassett, megan thee stallion, jill marie jones etc and you on it. that's just what i find most beautiful. if anything i have been used by female friends & family members as the example of what a black man tastes should be which can get uncomfortable for me. it starts to become a thing where the only men who are allowed to love them some redbones are white men & then if the white man wifes meghan markle or halle berry those same sistas will flip it & start calling the redbone exxotical a black queen who proves white men want black women. but i digress lol... now here's where i possibly get exposed & it can get mad sketchy.....
i am in no way attracted to the model nyakim gatwetch. as a matter of fact coli search the thread entitled "girl with the darkest skin on earth" in april of 2020 & check my post #151 where i not only dis her but name her complexion as one of the things i find unattractive. a great sin i realize, especially as a self professed conscious person but i kept it a buck regardless. it actually led to an offline debate about her & my views on complexion with my lady & her sister surprisingly taking my side while their fat childhood friend (all of them fba, i'm caribbean) was foaming at the mouth calling me colorist because i don't fukk with nyakim or her complexion. so the line can become blurry. here's that thread for reference & yes there were black men in that thread who got very angry with me & defended nyakim while also accusing me of being a light skin loving colorist who is dissing dark sistas. matter of fact here's the link, you be the judge:
www.thecoli.com
i am in no way attracted to the model nyakim gatwetch. as a matter of fact coli search the thread entitled "girl with the darkest skin on earth" in april of 2020 & check my post #151 where i not only dis her but name her complexion as one of the things i find unattractive. a great sin i realize, especially as a self professed conscious person but i kept it a buck regardless. it actually led to an offline debate about her & my views on complexion with my lady & her sister surprisingly taking my side while their fat childhood friend (all of them fba, i'm caribbean) was foaming at the mouth calling me colorist because i don't fukk with nyakim or her complexion. so the line can become blurry. here's that thread for reference & yes there were black men in that thread who got very angry with me & defended nyakim while also accusing me of being a light skin loving colorist who is dissing dark sistas. matter of fact here's the link, you be the judge:
Girl with the darkest skin on earth
www.thecoli.com
The Gentleman
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I actually appreciate you acknowledging this, because BS & DS women are constantly being gaslit over this topic. I just gave up.
If a breh says anything about my skin color I just make a mental note to never see him again.
“I don’t usually date girls with your complexion”
“Oh I can still see your veins”
“You’re not that dark”
“Yea light skinned girls are just too stuck up.”
“You’re a pretty black girl; you’d have cute kids”.
If you’re brown with straight or curly hair they’ll ask what you’re mixed with because you can’t be pretty and full Black.
Apparently Black girls in HS and college are making this ish up though, so nvm
The Gentleman
Always a Gentleman!
I actually appreciate you acknowledging this, because BS & DS women are constantly being gaslit over this topic. I just gave up.
If a breh says anything about my skin color I just make a mental note to never see him again.
“I don’t usually date girls with your complexion”
“Oh I can still see your veins”
“You’re not that dark”
“Yea light skinned girls are just too stuck up.”
“You’re a pretty black girl; you’d have cute kids”.
If you’re brown with straight or curly hair they’ll ask what you’re mixed with because you can’t be pretty and full Black.
Apparently Black girls in HS and college are making this ish up though, so nvm
There are a lot of black women across the color spectrum that are colored struck too. This is not just a black man problem. I know plenty of girls who went out of their way to have children by light-skinned men.
Y’all really need to get over these childhood traumas and become adults.
Lmao! Why are we so protective of people with ignorant hot takes? “Other than shaming…”
But to be honest, I’ve BEEN in this situation. The guy apologized on some “no offense to u babe” type deal. But then we had a really interesting conversation on why he had an aversion to dark skin on a female. Some of what he said was surprisingly introspective. We talked about some historical factors. How men in his family influences his preferences. How celebrities always seemed to put exoticals as a prize. And he even said he’d been attracted to darker chicks b4 but got clowned by his boys. All shyt I’ve seen.
It’s just very interesting to get to the bottom of the internal associations we have with others when it comes to attraction.
In the end, he did say he didn’t ridicule or harrass chicks like that b/c that stuff ain’t the wave. And it not being the wave anymore for him was due to increased awareness of the stuff from Tik toks he’d seen.
Like I said. Cultural shifts start small.