They know how. They feel they don’t have to.
Kevin Samuels Discussion Thread
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I hope you got my metaphor
Goes back to us holding them accountable.
The bolded is the main culprit of the black communities’ ills.He definitely has a point.
My observations of couples and the dating scene at the small liberal arts school vs the large hbcu was like night and day (no pun intended)
Were there serious relationships and couples at the HBCU? Of course.
But the pursuit of serious and long term relationships wasn't nearly as much of a priority there as the small liberal arts PWI.
Now if I had spent time at a large public PWI I'm sure I would've witnessed more casual flings but I've spent enough time near the large schools to know that despite all the casual fukking (and cheating) that goes on at these PWIs, at least most of those white and non black students still prioritize finding a future partner.
I will say that both the men and women were in On the action, so You can't just paint this picture that black woman are not looking for a mate in college.
because there were PLENTY of brothas that were just tryna get some ass by any means necessary...
Which resulted in a lot of the young women getting hurt and reinforcing what they probably heard from their mother and aunties about "forget a man, just get your degree so you won't depend on a man" etc etc al. man
But a lot of bw don't even really know what to look for in a man when it comes to dating, outside of physical attraction and "clout".
They're really setting themselves up to get screwed over in many cases.
Tldr: Kevin is right, but you can't just fault black women for focusing on their degree instead of marriage.
Has to look good
Have “clout” => some hood, school or internet fame.
Have money => Most women don’t know what money is and don’t know much about careers and their pay. Just dress, jewelry and have a whip.
Be good in bed => A lot of sistahs don’t know about sensuality. Just hit it from the back.
TheBigBopper
Banned
Not too familiar with this samuels guy but he’s pretty ridiculous. I agree with him that only the most talented of people should go to college and they should preferably get degrees that will land them high paying positions. I highly disagree that college aged black women should prioritize finding a man over school. What if the man she finds cheats, then she’ll have no education to fall back on? His advice is dangerous.
So? Were you planning to hire him to engineer something?
No. But he bragged before about how he was an “engineer” I’m not hating, just noticing
The Fade
I don’t argue with niqqas on the Internet anymore
They need to realize education is more than just degrees from an institution as well
Make a thread about this, and the brehettes would dodge it
Chrishaune
Veteran
These black women are showing they don't care about the community.
A few do, the majority don't.
A few do, the majority don't.
TheBigBopper
Banned
What if she finds said good man, drops out of school to be with him and raise a family and 10 years later they have kids and he cheats? You can’t easily go back to school when you’ve got children and other obligations.
feelosofer
#ninergang
I will say this, back in the day Black women pursued education along with Black men with the idea of building together with their future husbands. I think my generation was the last generation where people got together and married during college. I met my wife in sophomore year. My cousin met her husband in college they were both in an HBCU band. As couples we are 'high value Black families. Kevin Samuels is right on 2 points he has made as other successful Black men have given me that advice (I didn't follow it but I think it holds true). Black men should not entertain marriage until about 30 because that's when you start to establish yourself and mature and the other thing is Black women who go to college should make finding a life mate one of their primary goals as almost every other group does this. Almost all the white people I played football married their college girlfriends and are married to them to this day. There is nothing wrong with achieving higher education and advancing you career but degrees can't keep you warm at night and to many Black women do this in lieu of relationships and not as a supplement.
That's true but I'm just saying.
Even look in hollywood the regina halls, taraji p hensons, sanaa lathans, tamala jones etc.
I'm just saying the older you get as a woman the harder it is. The good men who wanted you when you were in your prime are married or can get someone younger.
YaThreadFloppedB!
The Patron Saint of Threads
Yall! I just heard i got haters on LSA. They said I'm "dangerous."
The main one, a certain "PristineTina", admits to having a coli acct. Well then, sis, since you want to be my biographer and claim "things don't add up," why not just pull up and ask? Im friendly.
I will muster my battalion
