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Couple things here.
1.Some of these posts have me
dapping some people here up because they legit made me laugh and dapping others because they are speaking the truth.
2.You teach people how to treat you, and you become accustomed to a certain lifestyle. This applies to everyone. I'm gonna try and honestly give my take on this situation(especially as one who has been in said situation) to the OP
If you are a man who loves hoes and has never committed to anyone, that won't change easily. Why? because you have spent however many years just fukking around and not committing. It's become part of who you are and become part of what you want. So if a girl asking u where you are at 12:30 in the morning, or if she out here talkinbout "I wanna meet your friends" and actually asking you questions about your life and your dreams and shyt, you'll tell her either directly or indirectly to shut the fukk up and get out of your business, because she's trying to act like a person who wants a long term relationship. You've never had that before, its not what you're used to and you're going to push that aside because you're not ready.
If you're a woman who has been treated by shyt and has put up with it, you have done so for 1 of 2 reasons. 1: on some level you liked that treatment. You liked how unpredictable your man could be, and you liked that if you confronted him he'll either get in your face and tell you to fukk off, or he'll lie to you and do it in such a believable, skillfull and ballsy way that you'll at least admire the skill involved and think, "if he could lie like that to protect himself, could he do the same for me?
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2: you have a bit of an ego. You think that your love, your empathy, and emotional intelligence is enough to change this man. He'll cheat on you, he'll lie to you, he'll hit you, he won't do any romantic gestures or anything and you'll pat yourself on the back for being so forgiving, you'll have the audacity to think you are so special that you can change this man. Lot of women are obsessed with change. Makeup, various styles of clothing, makeovers, decorating, these are all things a lot of women enjoy and these things have something in common: change. Usually drastic change. To take credit for taking this man with so many rough edges and molding him into your ideal partner is what you want and helps you develop a sense of ownership over him. He wouldn't be the great guy he is now if it weren't for you.
With a woman like the one described in the OP, it's not an issue of If she'll cheat, but when. Success scares people. Having a guy who will treat you right, pay attention to what you say, trust you, etc. without asking for much in return is unnatural. It's scary to have someone with so much patience and with such a sweet demeanor. Too much sweetness makes people sick. You might think that when she says shyt like "you're so nice. You're the kindest guy I've ever met. etc. You're so patient, forgiving, etc." that she's complimenting you, but she's sending you signals here. These are complaints, not compliments. Don't get it twisted breh. Take it from someone who has been in a similar situation. You have 2 options here:
1. Become more unpredictable. Don't be afraid to argue with her when it's over a big issue, or if she's trying to make a mountain out of a molehill tell her that she's being childish and petty and tell her to step to you when she can act like a grown up and then proceed to walk away. Tell her you have every right to be angry at her whenever she does some shyt to piss you off. Hit her with the
and tell her that she's lucky to be with you. Chill with your homeboys instead of her, run off randomly and don't answer her calls or texts if you really don't feel like it. Don't ask her opinion on shyt, do whatever you want cause you don't need her feedback on ANYTHING. Talk to girls who are interesting to you without fear of how she's going to interpret it. If she runs off, congrats you have succeeded in standing up for yourself and discarding an emotionally unstable person. If she comes back, then that's a sign that she's respecting you for being a man and being 'spontaneous' and 'adventurous'.
2.If she makes you happy, put up with her while looking for someone u connect with emotionally and who has been on a similar life path as you. It's going to sound cruel but you must accept the fact that you're out here getting community p*ssy. She's not your girl, she's nobody's girl. She's her own person and will act spontaneously and will do out of pocket shyt because she knows she can easily get another man/ you're a simp that will put up with it. You're not special and she can find another one of you if she puts a little effort in. Never forget that men outnumber women and so dikk is everywhere. Talk to other women, act as if you're single, but don't necessarily holler aggressively at females because people like to talk. Take things slowly and casually with girls you're attracted to and develop a connection based on favourable life stories and traits, then tell them that you are interested in dating. If she feels the same way, then proceed to tell your current girl that she's had a profound impact on your life, you respect and appreciate the things she's done for you, but although you thought you were ready for a future with her, you just cannot see yourself doing so and that you feel that there is someone who is heading towards the same direction she is and you'd be happy to see her with that person. Unfortunately that person is not you, and tell her you wish her the best in her endeavors. Proceed to then get into a relationship with your new chick.
People here gon clown you, people here going to tell you shyt that makes them seem bitter or #HOH but really, it's because we're all brothers here. Whether they realize it or not, they're trying to help you out. Unfortunately that help may not seem like help at times.
1.Some of these posts have me
dapping some people here up because they legit made me laugh and dapping others because they are speaking the truth.2.You teach people how to treat you, and you become accustomed to a certain lifestyle. This applies to everyone. I'm gonna try and honestly give my take on this situation(especially as one who has been in said situation) to the OP
If you are a man who loves hoes and has never committed to anyone, that won't change easily. Why? because you have spent however many years just fukking around and not committing. It's become part of who you are and become part of what you want. So if a girl asking u where you are at 12:30 in the morning, or if she out here talkinbout "I wanna meet your friends" and actually asking you questions about your life and your dreams and shyt, you'll tell her either directly or indirectly to shut the fukk up and get out of your business, because she's trying to act like a person who wants a long term relationship. You've never had that before, its not what you're used to and you're going to push that aside because you're not ready.
If you're a woman who has been treated by shyt and has put up with it, you have done so for 1 of 2 reasons. 1: on some level you liked that treatment. You liked how unpredictable your man could be, and you liked that if you confronted him he'll either get in your face and tell you to fukk off, or he'll lie to you and do it in such a believable, skillfull and ballsy way that you'll at least admire the skill involved and think, "if he could lie like that to protect himself, could he do the same for me?
"2: you have a bit of an ego. You think that your love, your empathy, and emotional intelligence is enough to change this man. He'll cheat on you, he'll lie to you, he'll hit you, he won't do any romantic gestures or anything and you'll pat yourself on the back for being so forgiving, you'll have the audacity to think you are so special that you can change this man. Lot of women are obsessed with change. Makeup, various styles of clothing, makeovers, decorating, these are all things a lot of women enjoy and these things have something in common: change. Usually drastic change. To take credit for taking this man with so many rough edges and molding him into your ideal partner is what you want and helps you develop a sense of ownership over him. He wouldn't be the great guy he is now if it weren't for you.
With a woman like the one described in the OP, it's not an issue of If she'll cheat, but when. Success scares people. Having a guy who will treat you right, pay attention to what you say, trust you, etc. without asking for much in return is unnatural. It's scary to have someone with so much patience and with such a sweet demeanor. Too much sweetness makes people sick. You might think that when she says shyt like "you're so nice. You're the kindest guy I've ever met. etc. You're so patient, forgiving, etc." that she's complimenting you, but she's sending you signals here. These are complaints, not compliments. Don't get it twisted breh. Take it from someone who has been in a similar situation. You have 2 options here:
1. Become more unpredictable. Don't be afraid to argue with her when it's over a big issue, or if she's trying to make a mountain out of a molehill tell her that she's being childish and petty and tell her to step to you when she can act like a grown up and then proceed to walk away. Tell her you have every right to be angry at her whenever she does some shyt to piss you off. Hit her with the
and tell her that she's lucky to be with you. Chill with your homeboys instead of her, run off randomly and don't answer her calls or texts if you really don't feel like it. Don't ask her opinion on shyt, do whatever you want cause you don't need her feedback on ANYTHING. Talk to girls who are interesting to you without fear of how she's going to interpret it. If she runs off, congrats you have succeeded in standing up for yourself and discarding an emotionally unstable person. If she comes back, then that's a sign that she's respecting you for being a man and being 'spontaneous' and 'adventurous'.2.If she makes you happy, put up with her while looking for someone u connect with emotionally and who has been on a similar life path as you. It's going to sound cruel but you must accept the fact that you're out here getting community p*ssy. She's not your girl, she's nobody's girl. She's her own person and will act spontaneously and will do out of pocket shyt because she knows she can easily get another man/ you're a simp that will put up with it. You're not special and she can find another one of you if she puts a little effort in. Never forget that men outnumber women and so dikk is everywhere. Talk to other women, act as if you're single, but don't necessarily holler aggressively at females because people like to talk. Take things slowly and casually with girls you're attracted to and develop a connection based on favourable life stories and traits, then tell them that you are interested in dating. If she feels the same way, then proceed to tell your current girl that she's had a profound impact on your life, you respect and appreciate the things she's done for you, but although you thought you were ready for a future with her, you just cannot see yourself doing so and that you feel that there is someone who is heading towards the same direction she is and you'd be happy to see her with that person. Unfortunately that person is not you, and tell her you wish her the best in her endeavors. Proceed to then get into a relationship with your new chick.
People here gon clown you, people here going to tell you shyt that makes them seem bitter or #HOH but really, it's because we're all brothers here. Whether they realize it or not, they're trying to help you out. Unfortunately that help may not seem like help at times.
. And it's not simp behavior if she is treating you right as well. So 
. But I also know plenty of men who just don't or won't no matter how the woman is treating them. Selfish shyt. But I'm not dating them so 
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