Married co-worker: "Once you acknowledge that she controls everything, you'll be set"

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This is the problem with relationships and dating in general. Women think they are the only prize in the equation which makes men like me skeptical of anything long term. :manny::hubie:

Right.

I know I’m a solid breh. And there are a lot more of them (single Black women) than there are of men like me.

I’ll never put up with bullshyt.
 

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Guys please don’t accept this as the only form of marriage.

I think the problem becomes men have or at least try to have game when they are SINGLE.

Then let it go when they get married and become a shell of themselves in EVERY aspect except being a work horse for their family,

NAAAH, you keep them how you got them.

Stay in shape, keep a fresh cut and beard, hang out with the fellas every now and then. Smell nice.

Sweet talk your wife and fukk her good.

Buy her things cause YOU WANT TO not because she demands it.

And if she acts up constantly Let her know that there are consequences ( I’ve cancelled dates on the spot cause my lady was being unreasonable) .

Pick your Battles but BE FIRM. Let her know you ain’t the one to be played with and if she wants to constantly violate she can hit the road. You love her to death but nobody on earth can control you like a child.

EVERY relationship has lines that are not to be crossed.

Women act VERY DIFFERENT when they know the man they love has options.

Communication and understanding on both sides is extremely important.
 
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Tbh, it used to be like this when women would be housemakers. The man worked and the woman would control the money since she was the one doing all the shopping and making sure bills are paid. If it works, then do you :yeshrug:

I'm not against women not working as long as they are committed to be a good housewife. I can deal with that shyt if I come home to food prepared and all the housework being taken care of. She also need to make sure my coffee and breakfast is made every morning. Any kids, she needs to take care of all that shyt.
 

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the fact of the matter is both people control the relationship and how it goes. a man who feels his wife controls him already lost and there’s no saving said relationship. as he gave up his power.

men with the love and providing and security they give to their women and women with the , submission and reverence you give to their men

when it comes to relationships, i’ve begun to learn that to get what you want in a relationship some level of manipulation has to be played, it doesn’t have to be bad..

it can go like this..

i know in a relationship when i am more submissive, less nagging, more nurturing and loving in more apt to get the things i need and want emotionally and mentally and treated better than when i am the contrary

you have to give what your partner needs and wants to receive to get what you want. it’s really just stroking each other’s egos for your own benefit and also out of love.

it sounds harsh but it’s the truth
 

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We going on 12 years and nah bruh. Them dudes were never taught how to choose a woman culturally
Across the female spectrum, if she dont...,...

(clears throat.)
Believe in God

Cook

Clean

Do what u say?
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O my brotha it is NOT, gonna be ok.

After that, choose whatever race you wanna drop that seed into
Unwise words from an indecent man.
 

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Guys please don’t accept this as the only form of marriage.

I think the problem becomes men have or at least try to have game when they are SINGLE.

Then let it go when they get married and become a shell of themselves in EVERY aspect except being a work horse for their family,

NAAAH, you keep them how you got them.

Stay in shape, keep a fresh cut and beard, hang out with the fellas every now and then. Smell nice.

Sweet talk your wife and fukk her good.

Buy her things cause YOU WANT TO not because she demands it.

And if she acts up constantly Let her know that there are consequences ( I’ve cancelled dates on the spot cause my lady was being unreasonable) .

Pick your Battles but BE FIRM. Let her know you ain’t the one to be played with and if she wants to constantly violate she can hit the road. You love her to death but nobody on earth can control you like a child.

EVERY relationship has lines that are not to be crossed.

Women act VERY DIFFERENT when they know the man they love has options.

Communication and understanding on both sides is extremely important.

Why do you need a marriage license for all that though?
 

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Eff that.

This has nothing to do with this specific topic; but It kinda does.

A woman I was talking to at the time, had posted this thing on Facebook by this dude, and it was basically saying " I have NO right to tell a woman what to do with her hair, I just need to be quiet, and buy her hair, pay for her hair appointments etc etc" of course all the chicken heads popped in " yessssss" I replied that will be a negative

If you aren't complimenting me, and have people looking at me sideways, and publically embarrassing me because you decide to do some ridiculous with your " hair" that is not acceptable
 

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Why do you need a marriage license for all that though?
I don’t get your question?

If marriage isn’t for someone then there is nothing wrong with not getting married.

But the idea that because a man chose to get married to a women he loves he has to basically give up on life and let her run him over just to have any peace is FALSE.

A mans wife should respect him as a solid dude. Of course she is gonna run certain things in the family because women generally care and are good at certain things men aren’t.

But she should respect you as captain or co-captain.
 

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When I hear some of the stories from some people’s marriages it makes me never want to get into one.

But when I look at my parents, and other family members, they seem straight.

I think that people have to remember, any relationship is what you make it. A lot of this shyt seems to be based on fear and lack of communication skills. Also a lot of people don’t want loving healthy partnerships, they just wanna control other people. I don’t think marriage has to be two miserable people trying to one-up one another or make the person a doormat.
:yeshrug:This is also why I think people should take more time to vet partners instead of rushing into it just to say u got somebody.
 
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