Men of The Coli, How Do You Feel About Women Asking You...
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I treated them exactly the same as if I asked them out. We just went out and enjoyed ourselves. If you're speaking as in paying, etc. It varied. Sometimes I'd pay, sometimes she would, or we would split everything.
I personally dont think most guys would have an issue with girls asking to go out, for our number. I know I haven't.
I'm Chillin
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The main ones that will have a problem with this are the insecure jealous types..
At first they'll be like
"that cute girl just came up and gave me her number/ asked me out, that was easy"Then they will either catch feelings or overthink things and go from
to 
" bytch you do this for everyone?"SadimirPutin
Superstar
what grown man would have a problem with this?
I mean I can understand if a man would prefer to approach....but to outright have an issue with a woman initiating....that is some weirdo shyt
People have limited time and anything that cuts down on the games played by both genders is always a plus to me.
IF she approaches and you arent feeling her then just decline....you have saved 2 people time..and the world goes on
Women are VERY scared of rejection....so if she took the time to approach I always am polite whether I am receptive of the approach or not
I mean I can understand if a man would prefer to approach....but to outright have an issue with a woman initiating....that is some weirdo shyt
People have limited time and anything that cuts down on the games played by both genders is always a plus to me.
IF she approaches and you arent feeling her then just decline....you have saved 2 people time..and the world goes on
Women are VERY scared of rejection....so if she took the time to approach I always am polite whether I am receptive of the approach or not
Mess World
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Great she's Paying
EpicStoryTeller
Blazé Blazé
My last two relationships started with being approached by the women. I like a lady who knows how to go after what she wants.
VFib
All Star
Most of my relationships were initiated by females. All of those relationships lasted a month at best. Pretty sure I have problems. If a random approaches me I assume it's for sex. I also assume they are out of options or they have been ran through.Every man is different through, the one you ask might greatly appreciate your approach.
This is what was told to me by male friends (early 20s), which is why I stopped approaching for the most part.
EpicStoryTeller
Blazé Blazé
I assume by early 20s you mean 20-23, in which case most young are only thinking of sex. If after 24 and beyond a male tells you that then you know off bat not to listen and if you are 24+ you shouldn't let the opinions of little boys dictate your approaching men.
It's just what I have noticed from women with that level of confidence, most were very promiscuous women. But like I said, everyone is different. I also judge people far more than I should. I'm very young so my opinion on the matter shouldn't hold much weight
Most of my relationships were initiated by females. All of those relationships lasted a month at best. Pretty sure I have problems. If a random approaches me I assume it's for sex. I also assume they are out of options or they have been ran through.
Why don't you approach/ask women out?
How did the relationshiip go with the women who asked you first? Was the relationship different with them compared to the women you asked out first? How? Did you feeli like you were settling?
I can't imagine a man having a problem with this
@The Maverick
Its nice, its lets you know they are really into you and cuts out alot of games. But its easier for women to come off as being an easy lay if they approach 1st. I'll be honest with you, I get approached here and there by women....90 percent of the time its white women.(not to turn this into a bw vs ww issue, just my experiences) They seem to have zero problem starting up a conversation and then either getting right to the point of wanting sex or to keep in touch.
I wish more of my sisters would step up and let these dude's know they feeling them instead of hoping he gets the signals or playing "hard to get"
I don't think that will happen anytime soon.
Is It Really A Big Deal When A Woman Asks A Man Out On A Date? Both Genders Weigh In
LadySimone
Banned
Here is a comment by The Gate over at LSA:
"People will not keep it 300 on this topic because they have no incentive. Men are not going to go above and beyond for women they already know that they have in the bag.Most likely they are either going to accept or tolerate that affection. Not revere it. I see this every week.
And most of what you're saying isn't applicable to normal people. @stubbornMost women do not got it like that to have multiple men in a dating rotation for months on end. And most men wouldn't even stand for such a thing in the first place. There is a difference between indicating interest and asking men out a date.
Let me tell you something, if I was walking downtown and I saw an open briefcase with a million dollars in the middle of the street, you know what I'm gonna do? I'm going to go get it. I'm not gonna sit there and deliberate. Folks need to focus on the ones looking at them like a million bucks, not the ones not looking at all."
Terrance Curtis Beasley
These ni*gas claim Top 5 but we OVOK
VFib
All Star
Yes it was around that age, and they were right. After that, it was more about me 'letting a man be a man', which was usually the complaint made against me.
LadySimone
Banned
Why don't you approach/ask women out?
How did the relationshiip go with the women who asked you first? Was the relationship different with them compared to the women you asked out first? How? Did you feeli like you were settling?
@The Maverick
I don't think that will happen anytime soon.
Is It Really A Big Deal When A Woman Asks A Man Out On A Date? Both Genders Weigh In
Those girls were dragging any woman who even hinted at the idea.
Yeah a girl I hung out with in my biology class did that. We worked together and she asked for my number. We became close friends then we had our issues and separated. I would think it would be cool if women did this. No problem with it at all; and no I wouldn't treat her differently. If anything I would see her aggressiveness as a turn on.
