Men of The Coli, How Do You Feel About Women Asking You...

[freetroit]

In America i feel that would be a good direction for society to go in

Women being aggressive and going for what they want is good

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

This thread was inspired by this thread: Is It Really A Big Deal When A Woman Asks A Man Out On A Date? Both Genders Weigh In

They keep saying "That's desperate, he's never going to treat you well/special, you'll do all of the work" and other stuff like that.

Are they wrong?

I think a lot of them are wrong, but it depends on the type of male, I guess. & the situation.

No offense those ladies are wrong.

 

[Reflected]

Why don't you approach/ask women out?

Personal reasons. I want a women to desire me so much that they feel need to go out of their way to have a relationship with me. Is that how women think, do they enjoy the chase more than anything else? Either way, it's just my way of thinking, I'm sure I will grow out of it eventually. It definitely isn't a smart way of going about things if being in a relationship is a prime goal. But at my age, being in a relationship offers no real benefits.

 

[Champagne Kudo]

I'd be like

 

[Smoking With Cigarettes]

Would it be different if a female stranger asks vs. a female friend/acquaintance?
I'm not going out with someone who walks up to me off the street and asks for a date but if it's a friend its chill

Would you treat her worse than a woman you asked out? How/why?
Nah

How do you usually decide who you will/won't ask out?
I don't ask out people who just tryna hookup. They know what they want and if I spend money on them and all they want is dikk they may as well be prostitutes

Have you ever been asked out by a woman? What happened?
Yeah but I got locked in the bathroom because the doorknob turned heel so I ended up standing her up

 

[The Mad Titan]

Why don't you approach/ask women out?



How did the relationshiip go with the women who asked you first? Was the relationship different with them compared to the women you asked out first? How? Did you feeli like you were settling?



@The Maverick



I don't think that will happen anytime soon.

Is It Really A Big Deal When A Woman Asks A Man Out On A Date? Both Genders Weigh In

 

[Giselle]

Do you guys agree with this?

If the men who you want to date were attracted to you then they'd be asking you out. If a woman has men asking her out then she wouldn't need to ask other men out if the men who wanted her met her standards. There are only so many men you can date if you are a woman who works, works out, and gets her eight hours of sleep. Some women aren't living in their truth...they are being approached by men who they say aren't who hey want to date. If men who you do want to date aren't approaching you first then you need to realize that they don't want you. Women don't want to admit that to themselves so they turn around and ask them out. Like I said, if only hood men approach you then you need to admit to yourself that you are only good enough for a hood dude at this time

Women who ask men out are doing so because there is something wrong with them. They are either ugly, fat, think highly of themselves based on a college degree, or trying to date men who don't want to wife up a woman like them. Men would be asking them out if they were as fly as they think they are. I've never had an issue with men who I want to date approaching me. I put myself in situations where I know they'll be and it doesn't take long for someone to strike up a conversation with me. I'm fortunate enough to where the kind of men I want to date also want to date me. Some women don't have it like that and don't want to admit it to themselves.

If they lived in their truth then they would have someone to take them out on the weekends, but they are rejecting men based on little things like height and looks. Looks and all of that will eventually not matter one day....the fact that he can provide, has a career with good benefits, etc should be what women really look for in a man. Then you have chicks who claim that only hood men approach them...well, maybe they need to come to terms that they are hood themselves. Then you have some women who reject men because they don't make enough money yet these women are pulling in $15 an hour if they are lucky.

If you want to approach a man then go ahead but just know that you weren't his top choice because he would have approached you first.

 

[The Wolf Among You]

Do you guys agree with this?

Ladies sound bitter as hell.

 

[Shadow King]

Out on a date. A first date? Or approaching you first?

Would it be different if a female stranger asks vs. a female friend/acquaintance?

Would you treat her worse than a woman you asked out? How/why?

How do you usually decide who you will/won't ask out?

Have you ever been asked out by a woman? What happened?

Answer my questions please

I'd be skeptical but it would be nice to see a woman actually practicing equality. Right now I'd say no because I'm not in dating condition.

I would be extra skeptical if it was a female stranger.

No she'd get treated the same.

I was never the dude to randomly approach so I can't really answer that question.

And nah nobody outchea asking me out.

 

[Kwéyòl]

then when he pull up ignore his im outside texts #wastehistime2016

 

[Blackout]

I dont see a problem with it.

 

[SadimirPutin]

Here is a comment by The Gate over at LSA:

"People will not keep it 300 on this topic because they have no incentive. Men are not going to go above and beyond for women they already know that they have in the bag.Most likely they are either going to accept or tolerate that affection. Not revere it. I see this every week.

And most of what you're saying isn't applicable to normal people. @stubbornMost women do not got it like that to have multiple men in a dating rotation for months on end. And most men wouldn't even stand for such a thing in the first place. There is a difference between indicating interest and asking men out a date.

Let me tell you something, if I was walking downtown and I saw an open briefcase with a million dollars in the middle of the street, you know what I'm gonna do? I'm going to go get it. I'm not gonna sit there and deliberate. Folks need to focus on the ones looking at them like a million bucks, not the ones not looking at all."

I may be a bit slow here but I am not sure if you are agreeing or disagreeing with my point....

The reason though I tell some of my female buddies to not be afraid to put their bid in because to be honest when they think they are sending signals of interest to dudes....some dudes will not pick up on it...some will..

Now one might say it is up to grown men to be able to pick up signals but to me that is flawed thinking because individuals operate on different wavelengths .

Sometimes a more direct approach can be useful

I may also be out of the loop.....but I would never assume that a woman approaching me or asking me out means that I have her in the bag....that is a level of arrogance that I dont have but again that is just my perspective

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

Probably gonna treat the one that comes for me better than the one I have to chase. If I got the feeling I'm wanted like that, I'll go out my way to show the appreciation.

 

[Bunchy Carter]

Yeah, I been asked out before. The first time it happened was when I was 17 or 18, fresh out of high school. Actually the homie hooked me up; because the chick wanted my number, later on she asked me out to the movies, and she paid (I stay on my P's). Another time I was working at this grocery store ( I was 18) and this chick gave me her number and I did not know she worked there also, she worked graveyard. The chick was 25 and had a kid (I did not know the game that well, because she was a nut), I was 18 and stuck on the fact she had some big breast lol. She asked me out and we hung out; then I broke up with her like 3 months later and she was calling and crying on the phone lol. Then she sent a text saying she was moving back to Atlanta; I played her because she actually lived like 6 blocks from my place. I told her I lived on the other side like 30 mins away lol.

I had a recent one when I was in the club, and the homie I was there with messed it up because he said he had a g/f (she was weak as hell). It was one of those; if one girl is not with it then the others are not with it.

The girls/women that approached me did not run any game on me; because game recognize game, but I still have not seen all the game out there. There are women with mad game; espically on the West Coast.

 

[twan83]

Out on a date. A first date? Or approaching you first?

Would it be different if a female stranger asks vs. a female friend/acquaintance?

Would you treat her worse than a woman you asked out? How/why?

How do you usually decide who you will/won't ask out?

Have you ever been asked out by a woman? What happened?

Answer my questions please

I've been asked out on a date first and approached also

Both a stranger and a friend/acquaintance have asked

No I didn't treat them differently the fukk for that's disrespectful imo takes coruage just to do both I them

I usually decide depending on where this encounter is coming from if its online depends on the profile and how the convo goes

If it's in random places it depends on how she catches my eyes it's usually the smile and eyes that does the trick especially if she gives off the confident appeal too me once that's decide I just approach say excuse me and smile and make eye contact constantly so she knows I'm serious but also calm about it and introduce myself ask her name how she is doing carry brief convo and then ask her out pretty basic but works real well for me

As for what happened when I've been approached
This one time always stands out to me the most compared to the others

I was in club chillin dancing with a girl I use to talk too enjoying that night then we stopped as I was drinking my drink this one girl comes in the club I can't front she was bad ass hell and she looked over where I was with my boy and the girl I use to talk too granted I was single at that time so chillin wit her was coo and having fun anyways girl walks over I tell my boy she coming over for you brace urself and she walks by him and she sees the girl next too me looks at her briefly goes too me drops it like its hott on ya boy then grabs my hand and takes me away from my boy and oh girl to another area of the club I was like and then cuz of she gave no fukks knew what she wanted but if that was my girl that prob would of ended bad for her tho
When she took me to diff part of club she said she goes for what she wants even if it means rejection
Told her how u know that wasn't my girl
Said cuz she saw her bout a week ago kissing another dude plus we were just dancing and talking no affection from what she saw that warranted a couple then she told me since I'm assuming ur single stay with me the rest of the night in the club see if i like what I see and how the convo goes
At the end of the night she gave me her number and asked me out on a date