Millennial marriage statistics

[Adeptus Astartes]

No you're sounding like women, no offense. Scummy men do the bolded. However in our community women disproportionately have kids by scummy men. Most men would provide for their family to their best of their ability even if it's creation was "unintentional", but in our community a lot of these mens are lames, broke boys, etc. in the eyes of tons of a large share of the women, we've seen studies and had thread on this site going in depth on this. Not every Ciara gets Russell Wilson. Your beef lies with the Futures of the world, not men at large

Women of all races make shytty choices of men. Black men should be better. We used to have high marriage rates, because men LED BY EXAMPLE. Now we make excuses and blame women for the degeneracy in the community. fukk excuses. Black men need to reassert ourselves as leaders. Women will follow.

 

[Houston911]

Don’t go by what women say, go by their actions

who has actually seen black women who are not in high demand turn dudes down if they aren’t in great shape or making six figures?

A lot of women say “my man gotta have this, this, this, this, that and that”, yet most women are consistently in relationships with dudes that have one or maybe 2 of the things on that list

I think the percentage of black women who are genuinely holding out for the 6 ft, 6 figure, 6 pack, 2-3 degrees, porn star pipe, etc. is actually very very low. And if you subtract the women that the dudes who meet that criteria actually want I think it’s next to none

 

[Armchair Militant]

The GMB Generation

 

[Marc Spector]

From the HL thread...
https://www.thecoli.com/threads/as-millennials-near-40-they’re-approaching-family-life-differently-than-previous-generations.815437/

i agree alot with what youre sayin but youre ignoring one huge economic risk that comes with marriage: Shared College Debt.

Nearly every black woman I know who has a bachelors degree or higher has insane college debt. And often time they are working careers where the wages to offset the debt aren't equal.

Men often time are able to forego college and still command a similar salary as Women, often time go for higher earning degrees, or join the military and get their degrees that way.

 

[ThatTruth777]

Money.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

I’ve come to accept I’m too selfish for marriage. I nearly got married to my ex a few years back.

On paper, she was ideal wife material but living with her made me resentful. She’d just do little things that infringed on my personal space. Things that may seem trivial but when you’re living in it, it truly irked me.

If I didn’t ask her to move in with me first, I’m sure we would’ve been married. My current girl doesn’t live with me and it’s bliss. I need my own space. Call it selfishness but I refuse to compromise my happiness for someone else.

If I do have children, I’m sure I’ll throw in the towel and get married. I’d want to set an example to my children. But as it stands, I’m happy with my current arrangement.

 

[Bossino]

Women of all races make shytty choices of men. Black men should be better. We used to have high marriage rates, because men LED BY EXAMPLE. Now we make excuses and blame women for the degeneracy in the community. fukk excuses. Black men need to reassert ourselves as leaders. Women will follow.

Shiiiit speak to the ain't shyt/thuggin/dope dealin/scammin brehs about that. Plenty of brehs on the straight and narrow getting average to minimal play. Moreover when brehs who were passed over as lame/boring end up pushing better off financially they often date out, due to spite, so as much as you want men to be in the driver's seat, Black America has been a matriarchy for at least the half century. I'm @Tryna Makit doing things legitimately and while I get buns, I get by far the least play from bw. I'm never dating anything non-black but smashing is more or less get it how you live it (albeit tryna stay away from cac hos).

Many men have set the proper example but if they don't have street/hood mannerisms, or are caking something serious the fact of the matter that is significantly understated is that they won't get play from bw like that. We've seen studies and threads on this site that support the theory. At some point ratchetness became a cornerstone of the female black experience, and hood mannerism/tendencies became a cornerstone of the male black experience.

It's somewhat off the spirit of the thread but NBA Youngboy, King Von, DaBaby are valued over Coles, and Kendricks in the community. Moreover athletes/rappers are deities compared to scientists and businessman. Neil deGrasse Tyson gets like no fanfare in the black community. Despite median black male income being 30K (I make that now while still in school), bw see me and other bm who don't have materialistic items/brands as lames/broke boys/borings.

You can set an example ten times over if women don't want it they won't choose it until it's all they have left. I and a lotta other men have to much self respect to play the clean up man in those scenarios. Again Russell might be comfortable, but the vast majority of brehs ain't.

This really is a topic that deserves it's own thread, but people don't want to talk about it.

 

[audemarzz]

Where are all these young, married white people? I don't really see that. I've seen "marriages" but I don't see them lasting. Just pictures and then separated people.
Most of the people I've seen stay together in long term relationships were black, followed by hispanics. None of them young.

 

[Ya' Cousin Cleon]

Opinion invalid like a motherfukker.

Breh I'm your around your age (Gen Z) and it's not happening, for all the reasons listed ITT. Women don't want to build anything anymore, they want finished products, and they'll date older to get it. That's completely understandable from a resources perspective, but once I get to a place I have, I'm supposed to just develop convenient amnesia and forget the woman (who were just as if not more broke than I) who wouldn't piss on me if I was on fire in my early/mid 20s? I'm supposed to put forth manufactured/false/blind trust in women who place finances leaps and bounds ahead of character, chemistry, and compatibility? On behalf of what, a crumbling black community that doesn't even value/big up men that do things on the straight and narrow?

Call it selfish, call it p*ssy, call it risk averse, and I'll wear it like my skin. I'm going through some of the hardest times of my life, on the strength of family and personal fortitude, once you get past that it only get easier. Unless you really want kids it's very hard to justify the importance of a legal wife in modern society. In terms of sex you can get maaad milk without buying a cow even before you level up, if you know how to manipulate emotions. In terms of finances, how many women are really going to significantly elevate your quality of life by adding income through joint means, without hoarding some of their own money, or bringing in substantial/notable debt? I don't even have to get into the courts.

I'm 22, trying to finish school, and barring freshman year, lived at home my whole life, I'm supposed to finish get my own place and have less than 12-15 years to live on my own terms before again having to make decisions with input from other(s). I don't see it. I just don't. I may be skewed/bitter/jaded but when you contrast the opportunities and experience you have to forgo to live on the straight and narrow as a breh and match that up to the female counterpart, I can't see how I wouldn't end up more likely than not getting worked to some degree.

Outside of girls (now women, i guess) from hs and college, in the internet era you really don't know these women. I can't commit to a woman that used to have and OnlyFans or sugar daddy, but why would any woman who wants a chance at being taking out the game by a solid guy readily admit that early on, or at all. Older generations need to understand the world has changed and shyt isn't cut and dry.

I haven't even touched on finding a wife if you're a certain type of breh who only is seeking half black/bw exclusively.

 

[Ya' Cousin Cleon]

You see it too.

Coli c00ns making up narratives to fit their self hate

Edit:

Told on hiself

i.e. it's always pookie and ray ray fault (poor blacks and their lack of values) why I can't get the buns.

Many men have set the proper example but if they don't have street/hood mannerisms, or are caking something serious the fact of the matter that is significantly understated is that they won't get play from bw like that. We've seen studies and threads on this site that support the theory. At some point ratchetness became a cornerstone of the female black experience, and hood mannerism/tendencies became a cornerstone of the male black experience.

 

[audemarzz]

this would save lives and plus it would get banned cause you cannot allow men to know the truth about female nature

There was a site like that called JUSTDONTWIFEHER.
They got it and assmatrix out of the paint with speed.
"dontdatehimgirl" and other similar websites were allowed to operate with impunity.

 

[audemarzz]

Mangina babble.

I mean it's cool you want to be the male feminist contrarian (with the west african baby mom, covering all bases) but nah, the shyt's growing stale.
We know the whole couch schtick is cap, too.
You want to maintain gynarchy structure to secure your own position within IT, and I see you try to mix up some pro black "family shaming" into it with the "c00n calling" aspect.
You're like a twitter girl's idea of a man. Co-opting white feminist terms like incel and attempting to apply them generally (and calling the source of your terminology karen, like she ain't y'alls ideological mama )and then projecting by smearing any SYSBM/MGTOW (or any new acronym nikkas think of and cacs copy) as some cac derived alt right shyt - cap. Both ideological subsets came from black men, one mutated into something else.
Your ideology (black feminism) came from racist white women.
Stop being a basic racist white bytch.

 

[ogc163]

I think you lean a little too heavily on "black people are broke, why ya'll worried about divorce."

Our numbers are low for one MAIN reason; Women (regardless of race) do not marry "down." aka Hypergamy.

I emphasize the lack of wealth in the Black community because the economic downside risks associated with divorce is a prevalent talking point amongst the #GMB crew on here, and so I'm pointing out how shallow that argument is given the lack of wealth Black folks generally have.


In regards to Hypergamy even if we acknowledge it is a factor, the numbers do not support it being the main factor given that married Millenial Black college-educated women marry down--in terms of educational attainment-- 58% of the time. As Brookings points out:

"If we narrow our focus to those college graduates who do marry, the race gap remains clear: compared to whites, black college graduates are much more likely to have “married down,” in terms of education. White, married college graduates are slightly more likely (11% vs. 8%) to have a better-educated husband (i.e., with post-graduate qualifications). But the real race gap appears between those with equally-educated and less-educated husbands. Married, black college graduates are much more likely to have a husband with a lower level of education, compared to whites of a similar background (58% vs. 48%)":

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[Ya' Cousin Cleon]

I've never heard nobody that wasn't black or white washed use the term "mangina".

Also I would never call myself no fukking Male Feminists, that's non-sense.

now I work in IT? nikka, I worked in a warehouse. Have several seats.

not my fault the idea of manning up and taking charge of your life and giving back to your community scares ya'll sheltered ass weirdos.

I mean it's cool you want to be the male feminist contrarian (with the west african baby mom, covering all bases) but nah, the shyt's growing stale.
We know the whole couch schtick is cap, too.
You want to maintain gynarchy structure to secure your own position within IT, and I see you try to mix up some pro black "family shaming" into it with the "c00n calling" aspect.
You're like a twitter girl's idea of a man. Co-opting white feminist terms like incel and attempting to apply them generally (and calling the source of your terminology karen, like she ain't y'alls ideological mama )and then projecting by smearing any SYSBM/MGTOW (or any new acronym nikkas think of and cacs copy) as some cac derived alt right shyt - cap. Both ideological subsets came from black men, one mutated into something else.
Your ideology (black feminism) came from racist white women.
Stop being a basic racist white bytch.

 

[Ya' Cousin Cleon]

The problem is, ya'll and the media are paying attention to bitter ass loud mouths.

Most women and men, and couples aren't like these extreme examples we see on social media/TV etc.

It's sensational and grabs you for a reason because it's the one experience damn near every human being can have is either a petty, demanding, full of shyt, toxic ass significant other

Men and Women both.

At some point men and women with dating woes and worries gotta look in the mirror and deal with the person they see, but more importantly, working towards being the individual that they feel can deserve and being understanding of what love is and what it means to display it to others.

Anybody who can't realize that, is bullshytting themselves. Period.

Don’t go by what women say, go by their actions

who has actually seen black women who are not in high demand turn dudes down if they aren’t in great shape or making six figures?

A lot of women say “my man gotta have this, this, this, this, that and that”, yet most women are consistently in relationships with dudes that have one or maybe 2 of the things on that list

I think the percentage of black women who are genuinely holding out for the 6 ft, 6 figure, 6 pack, 2-3 degrees, porn star pipe, etc. is actually very very low. And if you subtract the women that the dudes who meet that criteria actually want I think it’s next to none