Shiiiit speak to the ain't shyt/thuggin/dope dealin/scammin brehs about that. Plenty of brehs on the straight and narrow getting average to minimal play. Moreover when brehs who were passed over as lame/boring end up pushing better off financially they often date out, due to spite, so as much as you want men to be in the driver's seat, Black America has been a matriarchy for at least the half century. I'm
@Tryna Makit doing things legitimately and while I get buns, I get by far the least play from bw. I'm never
dating anything non-black but smashing is more or less get it how you live it (albeit tryna stay away from cac hos).
Many men have set the proper example but if they don't have street/hood mannerisms, or are caking something serious the fact of the matter that is significantly understated is that they won't get play from bw like that. We've seen studies and threads on this site that support the theory. At some point ratchetness became a cornerstone of the female black experience, and hood mannerism/tendencies became a cornerstone of the male black experience.
It's somewhat off the spirit of the thread but NBA Youngboy, King Von, DaBaby are valued over Coles, and Kendricks in the community. Moreover athletes/rappers are deities compared to scientists and businessman. Neil deGrasse Tyson gets like no fanfare in the black community. Despite median black male income being 30K (I make that now while still in school), bw see me and other bm who don't have materialistic items/brands as lames/broke boys/borings.
You can set an example ten times over if women don't
want it they won't
choose it until it's all they have left. I and a lotta other men have to much self respect to play the clean up man in those scenarios. Again Russell might be comfortable, but the vast majority of brehs ain't.
This really is a topic that deserves it's own thread, but people don't want to talk about it.