Essential Official Random Thoughts Thread (Ladies only)

[Arishok]

Don't mind me just venting

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I'm starting to get the feeling that I am completely incapable of being in an intimate long term relationship. I think I'm going to retire from teh dating game for good. Yeah I know for someone whose 23 that seems a bit early but I can honestly say, I don't think there is a man on Earth who could live up to my impossible standards nor can I stop myself from thinking the absolute worst when things happen. Then I end up guarding myself which makes it impossible for the guy to ever even get close past friendship. I become aloof, annoyed, and irritated at everything when I feel like he isn't doing what I want him to do or say what I want him to say or answer how I want him to answer/at the speed I want him to answer. (yeah I know people can't read minds but I still can't help feeling this way, illogical I know). Plus, my happiest moments being when I was single doesn't help so I think I'm going to accept it and just live out the rest of my life single and adopt some kids because I've tried and can't change for shyt.

 

[twan83]

Don't mind me just venting

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I'm starting to get the feeling that I am completely incapable of being in an intimate long term relationship. I think I'm going to retire from teh dating game for good. Yeah I know for someone whose 23 that seems a bit early but I can honestly say, I don't think there is a man on Earth who could live up to my impossible standards nor can I stop myself from thinking the absolute worst when things happen. Then I end up guarding myself which makes it impossible for the guy to ever even get close past friendship. I become aloof, annoyed, and irritated at everything when I feel like he isn't doing what I want him to do or say what I want him to say or answer how I want him to answer/at the speed I want him to answer. (yeah I know people can't read minds but I still can't help feeling this way, illogical I know). Plus, my happiest moments being when I was single doesn't help so I think I'm going to accept it and just live out the rest of my life single and adopt some kids because I've tried and can't change for shyt.

hmmm
what are ur standards tho are they unrealistic or are they realistic and u just have bad luck in choosing guys cuz they put on a fake mask that tricks u then show their true colors which ends up pissing u off to the next dimension

could it be u haven't tried different variety of guys to see if the branch out could help.
nothing wrong being single either and adopting kids is a glorious thing also some kids need that love.

 

[Arishok]

hmmm
what are ur standards tho are they unrealistic or are they realistic and u just have bad luck in choosing guys cuz they put on a fake mask that tricks u then show their true colors which ends up pissing u off to the next dimension

could it be u haven't tried different variety of guys to see if the branch out could help.
nothing wrong being single either and adopting kids is a glorious thing also some kids need that love.

I think my standards are unrealistic and I tend to jump to conclusions

 

[twan83]

I think my standards are unrealistic and I tend to jump to conclusions

then dont have unrealistic standards u can have high ones but realistic ones too
u should make a guideline of what u expect from a guy and must list a maybe list and a fukk no list

jump to conclusions thing u should try to assess the situation and calm down take a breath and think clearly it will help with that part

 

[Arishok]

then dont have unrealistic standards u can have high ones but realistic ones too
u should make a guideline of what u expect from a guy and must list a maybe list and a fukk no list

jump to conclusions thing u should try to assess the situation and calm down take a breath and think clearly it will help with that part

I dont know I just get annoyed by everything a guy Im dating does after a while which makes it impossible for him to get close

 

[Fun Sized Psycho]

Don't mind me just venting

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I'm starting to get the feeling that I am completely incapable of being in an intimate long term relationship. I think I'm going to retire from teh dating game for good. Yeah I know for someone whose 23 that seems a bit early but I can honestly say, I don't think there is a man on Earth who could live up to my impossible standards nor can I stop myself from thinking the absolute worst when things happen. Then I end up guarding myself which makes it impossible for the guy to ever even get close past friendship. I become aloof, annoyed, and irritated at everything when I feel like he isn't doing what I want him to do or say what I want him to say or answer how I want him to answer/at the speed I want him to answer. (yeah I know people can't read minds but I still can't help feeling this way, illogical I know). Plus, my happiest moments being when I was single doesn't help so I think I'm going to accept it and just live out the rest of my life single and adopt some kids because I've tried and can't change for shyt.

You sound like me. We should be friends.

 

[thirdeye]

My friend ruined my beach day by complaining about a girl that flopped on him lol.
He was so miserable for the whole fukking day.

 

[Rawtid]

I think my standards are unrealistic and I tend to jump to conclusions

What are your standards?

 

[Arishok]

What are your standards?

It's hard to pin point and list for me, it's things dudes do that annoy me and I feel like they should do this or say this.

Like recently I got mad at a guy I'm dating because I wanted to hang out and whenever I offered a day he just said "nah I can't do that" without giving me a day he was free. We sorted that out after a long text argument but yesterday I texted him since we hadn't talked much in the past two days and he hasn't texted back.

Now I'm annoyed because on one hand, yeah he could be busy and a thousand things could have happened which is why he hasn't texted me back but on the other hand when do I stop giving guys excuses?

So I basically feel like, in a nutshell, I'm hard to please. Not because of men but because of myself.

 

[Rawtid]

It's hard to pin point and list for me, it's things dudes do that annoy me and I feel like they should do this or say this.

Like recently I got mad at a guy I'm dating because I wanted to hang out and whenever I offered a day he just said "nah I can't do that" without giving me a day he was free. We sorted that out after a long text argument but yesterday I texted him since we hadn't talked much in the past two days and he hasn't texted back.

Now I'm annoyed because on one hand, yeah he could be busy and a thousand things could have happened which is why he hasn't texted me back but on the other hand when do I stop giving guys excuses?

So I basically feel like, in a nutshell, I'm hard to please. Not because of men but because of myself.

You're not hard to please, he's just a jerk lmao. If he's not putting in effort to kick it with you, keep it moving. He's not the only dude in the world but don't give up on dating but don't put so much stake in it either.

 

[Arishok]

You're not hard to please, he's just a jerk lmao. If he's not putting in effort to kick it with you, keep it moving. He's not the only dude in the world but don't give up on dating but don't put so much stake in it either.

That's my problem

I go back and forth from putting a lot of stake into it to just giving up. I just think too much and over react to everything.

 

[The Mad Titan]

I think my standards are unrealistic and I tend to jump to conclusions

The best thing is you know you have a "problem" or standards. So you'll be alright, your not out here pointing the finger at other people, and or blaming race, or gender which already puts you far ahead of the game.



Your 23 and impatient. That's really all there is to it, believe me as time goes on things will change. Just take your time with things and dont rush it, also you might be the type of girl that needs a older guy .... but no really some women need that kind of stability and maturity in there life from there partners.


The fact that you know there is a issue and you know what a your faults are goes a long way. Your not going to find many dudes in there early or mid 20's at college that are going to be stable or really on that "long term boo" tip.


In other words

 

[The Mad Titan]

It's hard to pin point and list for me, it's things dudes do that annoy me and I feel like they should do this or say this.

Like recently I got mad at a guy I'm dating because I wanted to hang out and whenever I offered a day he just said "nah I can't do that" without giving me a day he was free. We sorted that out after a long text argument but yesterday I texted him since we hadn't talked much in the past two days and he hasn't texted back.

Now I'm annoyed because on one hand, yeah he could be busy and a thousand things could have happened which is why he hasn't texted me back but on the other hand when do I stop giving guys excuses?

So I basically feel like, in a nutshell, I'm hard to please. Not because of men but because of myself.

Yall dating?

If yall dating, yeah that's a problem. You can't really say your hard to please, when you asking someone your dating out and they just reply "I can't" and then you don't hear from them too much in a few day. That's pretty much all them

 

[Ello_Vee]

The best thing thecoli can teach you is KIM. Drop that dude. If he's busy, fine, so then he doesn't have time to date. Doesn't mean he should be wasting yours because he is busy. And really, it's on you if you choose to waste your time waiting.

You're cute and smart and young. You have a new job coming up. Open your avenues to new people and new types of people. Maturity in a partner can really bring out something different for you and you may realize there's not a problem with standards, but with the expectations of controlling someone else's behavior. You can only control your own. So, KIM.

 

[Arishok]

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