Essential Official Random Thoughts Thread (Ladies only)
All the women in my family are Pickmishas
There is one in particular who just makes me so sad. She was so creative breh. Now all she cares about is running behind her husband. Literally has no life outside of him. She use to have hobbies but not anymore.
They are both retired. Right after they sold their house she talked about getting a little part time job and her own car. He basically guillted her into not doing either.
He had 2 heart attacks over 30 years ago and hasn't done a fukkimg thing to improve his health since. All he does is eat bullshyt. He's literally eaten himself into disability. He can't even walk 20 steps without injuring himself (I wish that was an exaggeration).
Then he does little stupid shyt he knows will leave him bedridden for days or weeks. He's just fat and useless at this point. He makes zero effort to lose any weight and all she does is enable him.
She can't even have a conversation without talking about him. That's literally the only thing she can have a conversation about. The same energy isn't returned. In fact, he has a life outside of her. He has hobbies, friends and family who call him all the time. He rarely even brings her up in conversation.
She has completely let herself go. All she does is care about him and his health that he literally doesn't give 2 shyts about. Her whole face has fallen and his skin is still tight. He is literally sucking the life out of her.
She will sit in the house all day and be quiet if he's asleep but if she's sleep he'll blaze to TV.
She justifies this by saying he "saved" her. That was almost 50 years ago.
It must be nice being a man. All you have to do is 1 fukking nice thing and you get worshipped like a god for the rest of your life. Meanwhile you can be a woman and give up your whole existence for someone and barely get acknowledgment for it.
That shyt makes me SO mad.
Her and I are close, and we always have little pretend arguments. It's just jokes. We were doing that like normal and he took my side of the "argument" and she literally busted into tears. REAL fukkING TEARS!!!! She said "Why do you always take her side?"
I was literally shocked. I don't think I have ever been more disgusted in my life. And then she proceeded to pout about it for the rest of the day.
I call her on his stupid ass behavior all the time. She doesn't care. As long as she has her handicap God she's "happy." Mind you, she cries about how he treats her regularly.
The funny thing is most people think they have a great marriage.
I will never get married EVER. I would die this very second before I ever dedicated my life to a man.
I'm just super frustrated with her. I know it's her life to live but that shyt is so fukking pathetic.
She has children that she doesn't love like she loves this man.
*Sigh*
I hate this planet.
There is one in particular who just makes me so sad. She was so creative breh. Now all she cares about is running behind her husband. Literally has no life outside of him. She use to have hobbies but not anymore.
They are both retired. Right after they sold their house she talked about getting a little part time job and her own car. He basically guillted her into not doing either.
He had 2 heart attacks over 30 years ago and hasn't done a fukkimg thing to improve his health since. All he does is eat bullshyt. He's literally eaten himself into disability. He can't even walk 20 steps without injuring himself (I wish that was an exaggeration).
Then he does little stupid shyt he knows will leave him bedridden for days or weeks. He's just fat and useless at this point. He makes zero effort to lose any weight and all she does is enable him.
She can't even have a conversation without talking about him. That's literally the only thing she can have a conversation about. The same energy isn't returned. In fact, he has a life outside of her. He has hobbies, friends and family who call him all the time. He rarely even brings her up in conversation.
She has completely let herself go. All she does is care about him and his health that he literally doesn't give 2 shyts about. Her whole face has fallen and his skin is still tight. He is literally sucking the life out of her.
She will sit in the house all day and be quiet if he's asleep but if she's sleep he'll blaze to TV.
She justifies this by saying he "saved" her. That was almost 50 years ago.
It must be nice being a man. All you have to do is 1 fukking nice thing and you get worshipped like a god for the rest of your life. Meanwhile you can be a woman and give up your whole existence for someone and barely get acknowledgment for it.
That shyt makes me SO mad.
Her and I are close, and we always have little pretend arguments. It's just jokes. We were doing that like normal and he took my side of the "argument" and she literally busted into tears. REAL fukkING TEARS!!!! She said "Why do you always take her side?"
I was literally shocked. I don't think I have ever been more disgusted in my life. And then she proceeded to pout about it for the rest of the day.
I call her on his stupid ass behavior all the time. She doesn't care. As long as she has her handicap God she's "happy." Mind you, she cries about how he treats her regularly.
The funny thing is most people think they have a great marriage.
I will never get married EVER. I would die this very second before I ever dedicated my life to a man.
I'm just super frustrated with her. I know it's her life to live but that shyt is so fukking pathetic.
She has children that she doesn't love like she loves this man.
*Sigh*
I hate this planet.
Thaaaaaaaaat’s tough. Hopefully the fog clears one day and she can see more clearly.All the women in my family are Pickmishas
There is one in particular who just makes me so sad. She was so creative breh. Now all she cares about is running behind her husband. Literally has no life outside of him. She use to have hobbies but not anymore.
They are both retired. Right after they sold their house she talked about getting a little part time job and her own car. He basically guillted her into not doing either.
He had 2 heart attacks over 30 years ago and hasn't done a fukkimg thing to improve his health since. All he does is eat bullshyt. He's literally eaten himself into disability. He can't even walk 20 steps without injuring himself (I wish that was an exaggeration).
Then he does little stupid shyt he knows will leave him bedridden for days or weeks. He's just fat and useless at this point. He makes zero effort to lose any weight and all she does is enable him.
She can't even have a conversation without talking about him. That's literally the only thing she can have a conversation about. The same energy isn't returned. In fact, he has a life outside of her. He has hobbies, friends and family who call him all the time. He rarely even brings her up in conversation.
She has completely let herself go. All she does is care about him and his health that he literally doesn't give 2 shyts about. Her whole face has fallen and his skin is still tight. He is literally sucking the life out of her.
She will sit in the house all day and be quiet if he's asleep but if she's sleep he'll blaze to TV.
She justifies this by saying he "saved" her. That was almost 50 years ago.
It must be nice being a man. All you have to do is 1 fukking nice thing and you get worshipped like a god for the rest of your life. Meanwhile you can be a woman and give up your whole existence for someone and barely get acknowledgment for it.
That shyt makes me SO mad.
Her and I are close, and we always have little pretend arguments. It's just jokes. We were doing that like normal and he took my side of the "argument" and she literally busted into tears. REAL fukkING TEARS!!!! She said "Why do you always take her side?"
I was literally shocked. I don't think I have ever been more disgusted in my life. And then she proceeded to pout about it for the rest of the day.
I call her on his stupid ass behavior all the time. She doesn't care. As long as she has her handicap God she's "happy." Mind you, she cries about how he treats her regularly.
The funny thing is most people think they have a great marriage.
I will never get married EVER. I would die this very second before I ever dedicated my life to a man.
I'm just super frustrated with her. I know it's her life to live but that shyt is so fukking pathetic.
She has children that she doesn't love like she loves this man.
*Sigh*
I hate this planet.
I’ll say I haven’t seen many marriages like that.
I think a big part of the issue is most women aren’t taught to center themselves as girls. It’s a man’s world, yes, but that doesn’t mean men have to literally be the center of your world. When you are raised to have your own identity I think it’s easier to spot the men who are actually into you as a person and not just with you because…they like what you do for them. A lot of women don’t know the difference.
I have mostly egalitarian marriages around me (family and friends), and many of the men may be considered “simps” by others— successful, kind, family oriented, homebodies, etc. I have a relative who is ill right now and her husband is up every morning before dawn getting things together to ensure he can start the day and start taking care of her before she wakes up. It’s so sweet. And it’s expected because that’s her hubby.
Same with one of my BFFs. She was diagnosed with a disease while she and her hubby were dating and he moved her into his place because he wanted to prove to her parents that he could take care of her while she was sick. They got married after.
I don’t know women who make having a man their personality, so I can definitely understand your frustration.
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I appreciate the support and I really don't want you to feel like I am atracking you but this whole response is a cope.
Why are you trying to compare yourself to me? Serious question, why is your first instinct to try to tell me how you much better your family and friends are?
My post isn't asking your advice. My post is about MY experience with one person. Why would you then go and compare her with everyone you know and ever met?Why compare at all when there is nothing about this situation that requires comparison?
Your post was intended to reinforce your own beliefs and wants because I said something that went against your desire to be married.
I think it's funny how the world is filled with horrible things, situations, and people, but when someone wants to have a real conversation, all of a sudden, no one knows anyone in the same situation.
Every woman in my family is married except me; every single one. Some have been married 2 and 3 times. I know more married couples than non-married. I am no stranger to marriage.
All my sisters are married, all my aunts are married, my mother is married, all my cousins are married, and even most of my nieces are married. If we want to go even further, all my friends from high school and college are married too. My best friend, who is a guy, is married too. I have married coworkers also (the most miserable, btw).
Idk how many marriages that is ...50, maybe. I have decades of marriage observations and experiences; simps, abusive, "great", with child, without child, long marriages, short marriages, etc.
And I can tell you there is not one of those marriages I would want; not one.
You do whatever works for you. My personal decision to not devote my existence or share my life with a man has nothing to do with you. I support you.
If it weren't for women still willing to lay down with these men, I would not be able to freely move about the world as I do. I want women who want men to have them.
I support your decision. Please don't try to invalidate mine. I'm not a child who doesn't know better and needs to be shown the light.
My decision comes from experience, observation, and logic; not potential or my desires.
I respect you, but your instant need to compare and position yourself above is something you should examine.
Naaaaw babe.
I wasn’t trying to say my family is better than yours. We have our share of drama like everyone else.
I was just writing to say, hey, I understand how you feel and it may be because of the programming most women receive. It may be frustrating but, same way I’ve seen a relative who was abused by her husband and how traumatizing that was for her and her daughter, I remember that the other men in the family don’t harm their wives and dealt with that nikka and took his wife in when the family found out.
It wasn’t me trying to cope or shyt on your family’s experience— I APOLOGIZE.
It was more about when we ladies recognize how a lot of dudes aren’t really the kind who value us, we gotta move away, because they won’t do right by us.
But again, no offense intended.
It will never stop amazing me how little women value each other.
You can help a woman in ways a man would never dream of doing and she will still kick you in the back just so he'll look at her.
That man could literally bring zero value to her life and she will pick him every single time.
Women really don't fukk with each other until they need someone to cosign their BS or they want to bum information off of you.
I helped one of my direct reports get her husband into the country. I sent certified letters to embassies around the world within a matter of hours, gave her as much time as she needed off (I am talking months worth of time) and then when he gets here the first thing she does is gets pregnant.
Alright, now you need more time off and everyone needs to work around your life. Then she comes back. Thank god I had the sense to just put her on part time and make everyone else's schedule a priority because then she also immediately quits.
And guess what her husband does? He signs up for the military and off he goes. Leaves the stupid bytch with the baby at her mommy's house and has yet to send for her.
Mind you, when she was 7 months pregnant (and he was jobless) he was letting people stay at their place and told her she needs to clean behind them and make them sandwiches (yes he told her stop complaining and make a sandwich).
He gets stationed in NC. He tells her you either stay their with your mom and sister if you needs support with the baby or follow him to the south where she has no friends or family. He's the type that "doesn't do baby stuff."
So she's sitting in MD as basically a single mom while her husband is having a good old time without her.
And mind you, her husband is a decent looking light bright in his very early 20s. I'm sure he's giving out dikk left and right.
And that's not the worst part. Her life as a domestic servant is her business.
But I find out this bytch was talking ssssoooo much trash about me. Making up blatant lies and going around telling nikkas I like them. Da faq?
I never did anything to this woman. All I ever did was try to help her. I was so hurt when I found out all the stuff she was saying.
These bytches be deserving all the BS these men put them through.
That pickme shyt she is on got her broke, uneducated, basically living as a single mom and with a husband that treats her like the help and doesn't even want to be around her.
Karma of a pickme. I hope she gets pregnant again.
You can help a woman in ways a man would never dream of doing and she will still kick you in the back just so he'll look at her.
That man could literally bring zero value to her life and she will pick him every single time.
Women really don't fukk with each other until they need someone to cosign their BS or they want to bum information off of you.
I helped one of my direct reports get her husband into the country. I sent certified letters to embassies around the world within a matter of hours, gave her as much time as she needed off (I am talking months worth of time) and then when he gets here the first thing she does is gets pregnant.
Alright, now you need more time off and everyone needs to work around your life. Then she comes back. Thank god I had the sense to just put her on part time and make everyone else's schedule a priority because then she also immediately quits.
And guess what her husband does? He signs up for the military and off he goes. Leaves the stupid bytch with the baby at her mommy's house and has yet to send for her.
Mind you, when she was 7 months pregnant (and he was jobless) he was letting people stay at their place and told her she needs to clean behind them and make them sandwiches (yes he told her stop complaining and make a sandwich).
He gets stationed in NC. He tells her you either stay their with your mom and sister if you needs support with the baby or follow him to the south where she has no friends or family. He's the type that "doesn't do baby stuff."
So she's sitting in MD as basically a single mom while her husband is having a good old time without her.
And mind you, her husband is a decent looking light bright in his very early 20s. I'm sure he's giving out dikk left and right.
And that's not the worst part. Her life as a domestic servant is her business.
But I find out this bytch was talking ssssoooo much trash about me. Making up blatant lies and going around telling nikkas I like them. Da faq?
I never did anything to this woman. All I ever did was try to help her. I was so hurt when I found out all the stuff she was saying.
These bytches be deserving all the BS these men put them through.
That pickme shyt she is on got her broke, uneducated, basically living as a single mom and with a husband that treats her like the help and doesn't even want to be around her.
Karma of a pickme. I hope she gets pregnant again.
Then I have a relative who I believe I mentioned before.
I need her to come with me on a business trip. She is retired so she literally has nothing better to do.
I paid for the whole shyt; flights, hotels, transportation etc.
First thing she does is tell me her husband will have to go because it will "hurt his feelings" if he can't go.
This is NOT a fukking vacation. She said she'll pay for him so whatever.
He tells her he doesn't even wanna go and it makes ZERO sense for him to go. She needs to focus on the reason we are going on the trip.
He even later reveals that he's happy she's going because he can have his alone time without her breathing her obsessed ass down his neck (my words not his but he is happy).
So I think that's settled right...wrong. Her and I are having a conversation about some completely unrelated shyt. She was telling me how she got him this expensive item and she said "I told him this is his vacation. Because I was going to take him to ______ (the exact same place we are going) as soon as we get back because I know it hurts his feelings that he can't go"
It took me decades worth of self improvement to keep my Scorpio energy from telling her about herself. If this was one of my sisters we would have been fighting.
I have been thinking about the audacity of what she said for 3 days.
Whenever we do family outings she always tries to make it into a date with her husband. He won't want to go and she'll bully him into going. The nikka will then intentionally try to ruin everyone's time but she doesn't care. She'll buy him a treat like a fukking dog to make him happy so she can play delusional fantasy island in her head.
We literally just went on a family vacation and her ass spent half the trip crying in the hotel room because "he doesn't appreciate her." She spent the other half of the trip just watching the nikka sleep. Wouldn't go anywhere with anyone.
I have told her several times how much she embarrassed herself.
But I didn't imagine how far her need to pretend she has a marriage that she doesn't have will go.
In fact, she acts like she doesn't even want to be around me half the time because I call her on her weirdo behavior.
The thing that pisses me off is that she is so unoriginal. It's like she literally uses all her brain power on running behind him but needs to mooch ideas off of other people. She literally just sits in the house with him all day while he stuffs his face, sits on his ass and watches TV. She doesn't even watch TV.
nikka you can't take him anywhere else? You never even talked about a vacation before now you wanna take him to the exact same place I'm going. What kinda shyt is that?
Honestly if I didn't need her to come I'd cancel her ticket. You want that nikka so bad then you can stay doing nothing looking at him all day.
I might even just send her home early.
But I do know once we get back that I'll let her know I won't be inviting her anywhere again. Even after the nikka is dead and gone. I'll have a huge portrait of his ass made so she could stare at him until the end of fukking time.
I plan to tell her "Since you choose to isolate yourself from your friends, family, children, education, hobbies etc so you can be obsessed with having a husband keep that same energy for the rest of your life because I won't be inviting you anywhere ever again."
And I mean that shyt to the depth of my soul.
Mind this nikka had them living in the hood with bars on their windows. I got them out that situation and have them in a neighborhood nicer than they ever been.
The nikka would take her on dates to McDonald's!!! I started taking them to nice restaurants and now she actually has some standards about what she eats.
They have both been fat as fukk for YEARS!! He's lazy as fukk so he doesn't care. Whenever she tries to lose weight he puts as much crap in front of her as he can. I got her dumb ass access to a GLP-2 and she has lost 10 lbs in 3 weeks and I exercise with her.
Whenever she tries to do something for herself he ALWAYS discourages her and is mean to her until she gives up. He doesn't know about the GLP-2. That seems to be the only part of her life that she is willing to have for herself. THANK GOD!!!! Probably because she's seen him waste away into a cripple because he can't stop eating cookies and bullshyt.
If I ever become that type of pathetic woman please come and shoot me. Seriously please someone come an take me off this planet.
I love her so much. I bring so much value to her life and I she doesn't appreciate it at all. All the nikka does is treat her like his personal assistant and half the time she's upset or cry because of his lack on appreciation.
Women will literally let men drag then to hell and back before they'd have a peaceful, productive life with women around them who care about them.
And it's not like I want her to leave him. Just get a fukking life with some self respect.
PickMes deserve to be ostracized by other women. Throw them hoes into the canyon like the movie 300.
I need her to come with me on a business trip. She is retired so she literally has nothing better to do.
I paid for the whole shyt; flights, hotels, transportation etc.
First thing she does is tell me her husband will have to go because it will "hurt his feelings" if he can't go.
This is NOT a fukking vacation. She said she'll pay for him so whatever.
He tells her he doesn't even wanna go and it makes ZERO sense for him to go. She needs to focus on the reason we are going on the trip.
He even later reveals that he's happy she's going because he can have his alone time without her breathing her obsessed ass down his neck (my words not his but he is happy).
So I think that's settled right...wrong. Her and I are having a conversation about some completely unrelated shyt. She was telling me how she got him this expensive item and she said "I told him this is his vacation. Because I was going to take him to ______ (the exact same place we are going) as soon as we get back because I know it hurts his feelings that he can't go"
It took me decades worth of self improvement to keep my Scorpio energy from telling her about herself. If this was one of my sisters we would have been fighting.
I have been thinking about the audacity of what she said for 3 days.
Whenever we do family outings she always tries to make it into a date with her husband. He won't want to go and she'll bully him into going. The nikka will then intentionally try to ruin everyone's time but she doesn't care. She'll buy him a treat like a fukking dog to make him happy so she can play delusional fantasy island in her head.
We literally just went on a family vacation and her ass spent half the trip crying in the hotel room because "he doesn't appreciate her." She spent the other half of the trip just watching the nikka sleep. Wouldn't go anywhere with anyone.
I have told her several times how much she embarrassed herself.
But I didn't imagine how far her need to pretend she has a marriage that she doesn't have will go.
In fact, she acts like she doesn't even want to be around me half the time because I call her on her weirdo behavior.
The thing that pisses me off is that she is so unoriginal. It's like she literally uses all her brain power on running behind him but needs to mooch ideas off of other people. She literally just sits in the house with him all day while he stuffs his face, sits on his ass and watches TV. She doesn't even watch TV.
nikka you can't take him anywhere else? You never even talked about a vacation before now you wanna take him to the exact same place I'm going. What kinda shyt is that?
Honestly if I didn't need her to come I'd cancel her ticket. You want that nikka so bad then you can stay doing nothing looking at him all day.
I might even just send her home early.
But I do know once we get back that I'll let her know I won't be inviting her anywhere again. Even after the nikka is dead and gone. I'll have a huge portrait of his ass made so she could stare at him until the end of fukking time.
I plan to tell her "Since you choose to isolate yourself from your friends, family, children, education, hobbies etc so you can be obsessed with having a husband keep that same energy for the rest of your life because I won't be inviting you anywhere ever again."
And I mean that shyt to the depth of my soul.
Mind this nikka had them living in the hood with bars on their windows. I got them out that situation and have them in a neighborhood nicer than they ever been.
The nikka would take her on dates to McDonald's!!! I started taking them to nice restaurants and now she actually has some standards about what she eats.
They have both been fat as fukk for YEARS!! He's lazy as fukk so he doesn't care. Whenever she tries to lose weight he puts as much crap in front of her as he can. I got her dumb ass access to a GLP-2 and she has lost 10 lbs in 3 weeks and I exercise with her.
Whenever she tries to do something for herself he ALWAYS discourages her and is mean to her until she gives up. He doesn't know about the GLP-2. That seems to be the only part of her life that she is willing to have for herself. THANK GOD!!!! Probably because she's seen him waste away into a cripple because he can't stop eating cookies and bullshyt.
If I ever become that type of pathetic woman please come and shoot me. Seriously please someone come an take me off this planet.
I love her so much. I bring so much value to her life and I she doesn't appreciate it at all. All the nikka does is treat her like his personal assistant and half the time she's upset or cry because of his lack on appreciation.
Women will literally let men drag then to hell and back before they'd have a peaceful, productive life with women around them who care about them.
And it's not like I want her to leave him. Just get a fukking life with some self respect.
PickMes deserve to be ostracized by other women. Throw them hoes into the canyon like the movie 300.
Sorry for the long posts. I am trying not to cuss people out. It's not in my nature to hold things in but it's also not in my nature to try to tell people how to live.
I just needed to vent. I have a lot of great things going on but it's really frustrating seeing that people won't support you the same way you support them.
I had a bad day today. My boss is a huge fukk up and his negligence did something that could cost us our contract. I don't think it will but I literally had to bring it to his attention. Something he would have been aware of but he's too fukking lazy to check emails. I'm pretty sure he can fix it but the nikka was too embarrassed to even tell me what was going on. Never even responded to the message telling him her fukked up. Trying to run around playing clean and talking to everyone else but me.
I am surrounded by incompetent, stupid ass people.
I miss me college educated people so bad. Gotta get on my grind better so I can get the fukk away from these ungrateful lazy people.
Being in management has made me realize a lot of people are in the situations they are in because the deserve to be.
I just needed to vent. I have a lot of great things going on but it's really frustrating seeing that people won't support you the same way you support them.
I had a bad day today. My boss is a huge fukk up and his negligence did something that could cost us our contract. I don't think it will but I literally had to bring it to his attention. Something he would have been aware of but he's too fukking lazy to check emails. I'm pretty sure he can fix it but the nikka was too embarrassed to even tell me what was going on. Never even responded to the message telling him her fukked up. Trying to run around playing clean and talking to everyone else but me.
I am surrounded by incompetent, stupid ass people.
I miss me college educated people so bad. Gotta get on my grind better so I can get the fukk away from these ungrateful lazy people.
Being in management has made me realize a lot of people are in the situations they are in because the deserve to be.
I'm about to do something wild. 
Not only did this man miss our child’s bday, he been lying about where he is and today hit me up asking for a “favor” cause he got in a car accident “yesterday” that messed his leg and whatever up. I know he’s full of shyt, and he just don’t stop texting until I basically call him everything but a child of God.
He forgot to erase the pic metadata that shows the pic of him in a neck brace is from a month ago. I (text) cursed his ass clean tf out including ending with kick rocks and to go harass any of the millions of bytches he’s in dms or dating apps with, whoever him and the scallywag he call himself running around with idk but leave me alone and stop messaging me. Tf?
This is the shyt that’s aggravating, he’s such a narcissist and will tell any lie about whoever, has even told me lies about shyt I was present for, no matter how ridiculous if he thinks he can get something from me, never mind clearly not giving a fukk about our son. At first the delusion was mildly amusing but annoying now it’s like nygga you need therapy and to stay clear the fukk away from us. I’m not telling his ass where we’re moving and if I bother to let him be around our son alone we’ll meet at a park or some shyt. Just a piece of human fukking garbage I feel so bad for my child, like goddamn.
He forgot to erase the pic metadata that shows the pic of him in a neck brace is from a month ago. I (text) cursed his ass clean tf out including ending with kick rocks and to go harass any of the millions of bytches he’s in dms or dating apps with, whoever him and the scallywag he call himself running around with idk but leave me alone and stop messaging me. Tf?
This is the shyt that’s aggravating, he’s such a narcissist and will tell any lie about whoever, has even told me lies about shyt I was present for, no matter how ridiculous if he thinks he can get something from me, never mind clearly not giving a fukk about our son. At first the delusion was mildly amusing but annoying now it’s like nygga you need therapy and to stay clear the fukk away from us. I’m not telling his ass where we’re moving and if I bother to let him be around our son alone we’ll meet at a park or some shyt. Just a piece of human fukking garbage I feel so bad for my child, like goddamn.