Peridot Cares: Step 1 - Early Stages

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she will say that she's not either just to get in and then try to change your mind and then you'll be arguing about when you're getting married and bomb, either a resentful marriage or you leave each other alone before you make that mistake.
this makes no sense for a man who wasn't looking for commitment. he/i would just say "we're not getting married because we're not even going together. oh yeah and bye because we're not committed" :francis:

this is what i mean you guys dont know how to teach men. because a man who knows what he's doing, by being taught by other men, would state his intentions
if she says no fine, if she says yes, you go with it and if she changes her mind you leave. this man as taught by other men also has the willpower to not get married just cause the girl wants to.
there is no convoluted way of buying drinks and the threat of having a bad marriage because you care about her feelings:francis:
 

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this makes no sense for a man who wasn't looking for commitment. he/i would just say "we're not getting married because we're not even going together. oh yeah and bye because we're not committed" :francis:

this is what i mean you guys dont know how to teach men. because a man who knows what he's doing, by being taught by other men, would state his intentions
if she says no fine, if she says yes, you go with it and if she changes her mind you leave. this man as taught by other men also has the willpower to not get married just cause the girl wants to.
there is no convoluted way of buying drinks and the threat of having a bad marriage because you care about her feelings:francis:
I wish it were that simple. In truth, it should work like this. It really should. And I'm sure it does happen that way in many cases, but there are too many other variables at play here besides her feelings.

What is the nature of the non-commital relationship? Are you going to the movies and dinner and other couple-like things? Are you asking about each others lives? Are you getting to know one another while getting to know other people? Is it just sex?

For me, a non-committed relationship is just sex. Don't call and talk to me. Don't expect me to call you for anything, even sex. Don't do couple things with me. I don't want to meet your parents, your friends, none of that. I don't exist until you want to stick your dikk in me. It sounds messed up but it saves me a lot of trouble getting caught up in bullshyt. And definitely expect other people to be in the picture. If you don't want a commitment and keep it casual, you should be as cold as possible. But that's just me.
 

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For me, a non-committed relationship is just sex. Don't call and talk to me. Don't expect me to call you for anything, even sex. Don't do couple things with me. I don't want to meet your parents, your friends, none of that. I don't exist until you want to stick your dikk in me. It sounds messed up but it saves me a lot of trouble getting caught up in bullshyt. And definitely expect other people to be in the picture
that's not messed up, that's a proper non-committed relationship
anyone doing all that extra shyt you wrote is lying to themselves and/or the other person.aka people who have not been taught right
 

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that's not messed up, that's a proper non-committed relationship
anyone doing all that extra shyt you wrote is lying to themselves and/or the other person.aka people who have not been taught right
A man or woman will introduce someone they have no intention of committing to to their friends but not their family.
They will call or text them asking about how their day was.
They will make conversation after the sex is over.
They will go out in public together.
They will have inside jokes.
They will pay each other compliments.
They will spoon.
They will stay over.
Food will be cooked, presents will be exchanged.
And then have the nerve to get mad when feelings are caught.

Truth is (and I'm guilty as all hell) that people want to be committed but don't want to be committed.
 

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Maybe I can clear some of this up. Maybe.

1. Don't say it first. I repeat, do not tell a woman you're not looking for commitment first. Ask the woman, what are you looking for? Put on a damn good poker face which won't influence what she says. Get her a drink or two to give her the liquid courage to be more honest. If she says commitment, then say, "Well, I'm not, so this might not work." She will back track and try to say, "well, it's not that important" but it is because she already said so. If you say it first, she will say that she's not either just to get in and then try to change your mind and then you'll be arguing about when you're getting married and bomb, either a resentful marriage or you leave each other alone before you make that mistake.

2. Follow number one and you won't have to lie.

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I wish it were that simple. In truth, it should work like this. It really should. And I'm sure it does happen that way in many cases, but there are too many other variables at play here besides her feelings.

What is the nature of the non-commital relationship? Are you going to the movies and dinner and other couple-like things? Are you asking about each others lives? Are you getting to know one another while getting to know other people? Is it just sex?

For me, a non-committed relationship is just sex. Don't call and talk to me. Don't expect me to call you for anything, even sex. Don't do couple things with me. I don't want to meet your parents, your friends, none of that. I don't exist until you want to stick your dikk in me. It sounds messed up but it saves me a lot of trouble getting caught up in bullshyt. And definitely expect other people to be in the picture. If you don't want a commitment and keep it casual, you should be as cold as possible. But that's just me.
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she said never say those words and any good woman who hears that will go running

then when the guy asks how is he supposed to be upfront with his intentions and not say those words she says:
1. to "deal with women who aren't looking for commitment" idk how this is supposed to happen if he doesn't make his intentions clear with those words and if any good woman won't go for it
2. "just commit. you can leave any time" which has to be the dumbest thing i've ever heard because if you're not looking for commitment why would you just commit, but then she adds not to lie to get into p*ssy which sends us back into a paradox with these contradictions :francis:

1. Why does a noncommittal dude feel entitled to a "good woman" (assuming "good women" want to commit - young nikka huh?) 2. Anyone can walk out of any relationship at any time that's a fact of free will.

Youre inexperienced but intelligent .Good nite once more.
 
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