Raising Another Man's Child

[Tommy Knocks]

um your 1st off your wrong, im 27 almost 28. I'm not dating because I don't feel like it, i don't need to be tied down in a relationship, for example i just went to cuba alone last month, and im heading out to jamaica to fix up my house down there shortly, as well as nyc and maybe israel later this year, I don't need some nagging chick tagging along or telling me where to go and what to do


and shrugs consequences for every action, i dont care how hot you are, how compatible we are if you pump out a seed and my dna aint apart of it then

If i ever have kids i want them looking like me, not some lame ass nikka she allowed to nut in her raw, my tendencies, my dna

and theres a big difference between marrying to young and having a kid, nothing wrong with dating a divorced chick with no kids

HOH. :damnlol:

 

[Just like bruddas]

single moms populatr dating sites and struggle to get good decent men, ya thry will get p*ssy whipped willstyles type dudes but thats it

and please, child rates are actually down, there are more single childless women than ever before

Sent from royalty breh

why you mad son?

If a man wanna spend his time with a woman and her child then why shouldnt he? Long as she is handling her own and doing good by him then why should it be a problem?


Gotta understand reincar that not all men share you logic when it comes to women. Some of us can actually have a relationship without being cheated on and having our kids killed in secret. Dont be pushing your bitterness off on us. We having fun out chea and using condoms of course

Nothing wrong with single mothers son, longs as they got their own then its cool, besides most mothers dont even need a father for their kids, they got that covered. Never had a woman ask me for shyt when it came to her seed.

 

[Just like bruddas]

um your 1st off your wrong, im 27 almost 28. I'm not dating because I don't feel like it, i don't need to be tied down in a relationship, for example i just went to cuba alone last month, and im heading out to jamaica to fix up my house down there shortly, as well as nyc and maybe israel later this year, I don't need some nagging chick tagging along or telling me where to go and what to do


and shrugs consequences for every action, i dont care how hot you are, how compatible we are if you pump out a seed and my dna aint apart of it then

If i ever have kids i want them looking like me, not some lame ass nikka she allowed to nut in her raw, my tendencies, my dna

and theres a big difference between marrying to young and having a kid, nothing wrong with dating a divorced chick with no kids

you not dating cause youre scared, its amazing how you can compare ya earlier sohh post to now. Back then that soviet becky was your world and all ya post was about her. Asking people about marriage at a young age etc, not its all about not being held down, taking proud in being a bitter ass man and being president of the NO MA'AM club


you changed

 

[concise]

This is one of those threads where I see the obvious disconnect between the Coli and reality.

That's because a lot close themselves off to reality.

 

[kevm3]

If this was some kind of perfect world where women were just angels and constantly lived up to their word, I'd consider it, but knowing how things often go in this day and age, I'm cool on that. Son is about to flip the script on you. You thought you were the one who was winning when you came in and now you're about to assume the responsibilities the baby daddy should have assumed while he is out doing his thing and sliding into babygirl at his discretion.

Everytime she looks at the kid, she will have some reminder of him... and he will always have an excuse to slide back into her life. Another issue is disciplining the child. She might be like you better not hit my daughter or you can't do this or that... and if the baby dad gets wind that you're whipping the child, he's going to be heated. If the baby dad isn't on child support and you come in and start playing daddy, YOU can be put on child support. Also, if she cheats or does something out of line and she's moved in with you, you can't kick her out that easy because you will be feeling so sorry for the daughter and putting her out.

Man if you can stomach all of that, go for it.

 

[MikelArteta]

you not dating cause youre scared, its amazing how you can compare ya earlier sohh post to now. Back then that soviet becky was your world and all ya post was about her. Asking people about marriage at a young age etc, not its all about not being held down, taking proud in being a bitter ass man and being president of the NO MA'AM club


you changed

here comes this broke orange nj midget talking ducktales. i broke up with my ex fiance in 2008. ive dated numerous times since, hell my last relationship was in 2012 with a childless female. im sorry in your ghetto ass community filled with hoodrats you cant find a woman without kids fakkit

Sent from royalty breh

 

[Just like bruddas]

here comes this broke orange nj midget talking ducktales. i broke up with my ex fiance in 2008. ive dated numerous times since, hell my last relationship was in 2012 with a childless female. im sorry in your ghetto ass community filled with hoodrats you cant find a woman without kids fakkit

Sent from royalty breh

With kids, without kids blah blah blah love is love, sex is sex and puss is still puss. Long as she's got no stds, felonies, or crazy as fukk and she have her own doesnt matter to me. Its a free market my nikka. As far as you being in a relationship thats a fukking lie, stop it. Everyone here knows you dont fukk with women after ya lil soviet becky stopped fukking with you. But if a same chance you are I hope that you wrapping up this time around.


Motherless you say, only probably cause she aborted it without you knowing

Leastthe hoodrats in my hood dont hide shyt like what from us

 

[360dagod]

BE PREPARED....

*DOES THE HARLEM SHAKE*

 

[DaRealness]

Nope. If I can't have my own family, I'm not raising anyone else's. I refuse to play second fiddle.

 

[MikelArteta]

With kids, without kids blah blah blah love is love, sex is sex and puss is still puss. Long as she's got no stds, felonies, or crazy as fukk and she have her own doesnt matter to me. Its a free market my nikka. As far as you being in a relationship thats a fukking lie, stop it. Everyone here knows you dont fukk with women after ya lil soviet becky stopped fukking with you. But if a same chance you are I hope that you wrapping up this time around.


Motherless you say, only probably cause she aborted it without you knowing

Leastthe hoodrats in my hood dont hide shyt like what from us

Nope your a pathetic loser with a simp mindframe. This is why you will stay in the hood and not prosper ol let me save every chick with a sob story nucca.

And is that so? So you know my life more than me? . So i havent been on a date in a relationship or had sex since 2008? Haha

Like i said keep up with the ducktales.


And is that your only rebuttal? Bringing up something from 5 years ago? Come on broke nygga try harder.

Sent from royalty breh

 

[UserNameless]

I hate the idea of it but once you get passed a certain age as a man its a very real possibility...

truth. It's probably a 8.5/9 outta 10 possibility.

Young boys, if you do consider a woman with kids as "damaged goods," but you insist on playing around throughout your 20s, then you better keep you a real solid, childless prospect in close range or it's highly likely that you will be wifing the so-called "damaged goods."

You could always go back about a decade in age...but society might view you as a creeper...this ain't the mid and early 20th century when wifing a young woman 8-10 years younger was commonplace.

we have too many black children being raised without father figures. Raising that child is doing a service to our community in all honesty. Wish more men would step it up.

The Black community is lacking terribly.

It really is a community service.

I'm kinda disturbed by how many niccas have no measure or sense of servitude. (...or likely money, either...broke a$$ niccas can't take a lil' nicca to Chuckee Cheese a couple times a year and go to his Pop Warner game a couple times as a service?! FOH.)

To the TS, just know and clearly articulate your boundaries.

So until you're 100 percent sure, I present to you the 3Ps.

Until you're 100 percent sure, you prob. wanna fall back on the smashin' her b/c it clouds judgment, and could create more of an undue sense within both of y'all of family...and confusion. Perception.

Until you're 100 percent sure, And you might not wanna OD on the "intimate" family setting where all of y'all are sitting around the crib, eating takeout, playing Go Fish and watching Dora. Protection/Preserving.

Until you're 100 percent sure, you might wanna do more periodic outings for the sake of the three Ps... perception, protection, preserving...

(Meaning you can extend the length of time as a positive male figure and help protect the children's' feelings by doing more activities that cast you in a light of more male figure/mentor than household, in-house, stand-in dad. And you can feel less of a sense of burden that way).

But you might already be in too deep, and if so, you can retreat for a while. Then reappear and do it in a way that doesn't involve smashing and has more elements of a platonic thing.

If you are REALLY ready, then you can do it.

It's a whole, 'nother ballgame, though. So much selfless, sacrifice involved.

 

[DaRealness]

From another thread, these are my views:

That's my point. When I have children, I want EVERYTHING from the jump: The sex (obviously), seeing my woman's belly grow bigger, the birth, first words, first steps, first day of school etc.....I want the whole entire experience that's unique to me as a father.

But nah, I'm supposed to be a "real man" and take on some broad with kids to prove I'm a responsible person.

I damn sure ain't putting myself in a position where you get some snotface brat come tell me I'm not their dad while the mother sides with them and insists I can't talk to her kids that way - I've seen that shyt happen before. fukk that.

On the other hand, what if the kids love you, you love them, but the mother decides it's over between the both of you for whatever reason and decides to go off with some other dude 500 miles away and insists you never contact any of them again? Then there ain't shyt you can do about not seeing them because you're not their biological father. So all that providing you did for them over the years and you ain't got shyt to show for it but a bunch of photographs and you're left looking like a sucker like that dude at the end of Smooth's video 'You've been played'.

Nope, neither scenario is happening to me. Sorry.

 

[Just like bruddas]

Nope your a pathetic loser with a simp mindframe. This is why you will stay in the hood and not prosper ol let me save every chick with a sob story nucca.

And is that so? So you know my life more than me? . So i havent been on a date in a relationship or had sex since 2008? Haha

Like i said keep up with the ducktales.


And is that your only rebuttal? Bringing up something from 5 years ago? Come on broke nygga try harder.

Sent from royalty breh

yeah and youre just some bitter ass dude that tried to trap a bytch and had his plans and ring thrown in the bushes. For someone that looks down others coming from a one parent home me and a bunch of other posters can clearly tell you dont have a male figure in your life. If you did then you wouldnt have been running around getting burnt and making babies.... @ you for not wrapping it up, you nasty breh. Dirty dikk bytch. You havent been dating, how the fukk could you, you had like 100k post on sohh and got like 10k here (within a year) who the fukk you kidding nikka.

My bad I forgot you was dri...I mean chauffeuring some chick to apple bees and taking her shopping here in the states, but yet Im the simp


Say what you want about me reincar but the fact still remains I never had to resort to trapping women. What part of that game is that, but hey you found jesus again so good luck.

 

[DaRealness]

All you chicks and dudes that have a problem with guys like me, just listen to this video.

 

[UserNameless]

I really don't know how so many of you all find yourselves in situations with single mothers....

I don't even know any single mothers in my social circle...

Hmmmmm...very telling...from socio-economic standpoint.