It's not a matter of liking, it's matter of doing things that you think are the responsibility of the man in a relationship.
Should Men Always -- Or Even Usually -- Pay For Dates?
- Thread starter mamba
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It's not a matter of liking, it's matter of doing things that you think are the responsibility of the man in a relationship.
If by the third date she doesn't make a legitimate insistence on paying, I know she ain't shyt. I once took a chick out four times and not even a offer. I suddenly became too busy to go out and even cancelled a couple last minute. Responded to her texts with increased delays then 86'd
tbh, that sounds highly opinionated and not factual. And out of curiosity, in the first few dates, if one of the criteria that a woman uses in her assessment in a man's ability to take care of a family is his ability to pay for a meal check, then what is the criteria that women are responsible for upholding that the man can use in his assessment of whether or not that woman is girlfriend/wife material?
Also "can't" and "won't" are two different things.
KinksandCoils
African American Queen
I see it like this. If paying for dates is too much for him then is paying bills to much for him? Is he ever going to do special things for me? is he selfish? Should a man be paying for dates has only came into question in this generation because men are cheap and want everything from a woman for nothing. Your parents, grandparents, and great grandparents all knew that men should be paying for the dates but you 2010s men seem so overwhelmed with it. The bottom line is that there are gender roles. Men are expected to dish out more financial just like a woman is expected to do the most raising the kids and cooking and cleaning.tbh, that sounds highly opinionated and not factual. And out of curiosity, in the first few dates, if one of the criteria that a woman uses in her assessment in a man's ability to take care of a family is his ability to pay for a meal check, then what is the criteria that women are responsible for upholding that the man can use in his assessment of whether or not that woman is girlfriend/wife material?
Also "can't" and "won't" are two different things.
and yes what I said was opinionated.
Desirous
Action expresses priorities
lol the same dudes talking about "I'm not paying for a date" are the ones who expect to marry a wife that cooks, cleans and takes care of their home for them...but then they have a problem when we hold onto certain gender roles...
KinksandCoils
African American Queen
men love gender roles until it comes to paying for a damn date
I know most of the guys complaining got to be broke because if you have money dishing out money for a basic date aint that serious to you.
Desirous
Action expresses priorities
I think they're just petty and selfish. The "what's in it for me?" attitude. I hate that.men love gender roles until it comes to paying for a damn date
FLYINHAWAIIAN
Vegan For a Reason
It's all fun and games until your name shows up on a bytch phone as "free food"
Be "chivalrous" brehs
then she gone leave her money at home and show you her purse on some "see I'm
broke. My momma needed her medicine "fukk YOU BRITTANY!!!!!! fukkIN FAT HOE!!!!!!!
sayyestothis
Free the guys
Christ...men step up. In no way shape or form a woman should pay for any part of a date.
Let's be adults here!!!!!
Let's be adults here!!!!!
I don't mind paying and always bring my own money when I go out on a date. I usually don't ask guys out on dates, they ask me so I figure they'll pay. But if they're being weird or a$$hole-y I have my own money. If we're together it's usually I'll pay for something and he pays for something, or we can just split it. It doesn't really matter to me. I have a job for a reason. 
BlackAchilles
Veteran
Yeah women don't do that at all ...
it's all about what you will accept. if you're a dude and you need a chick who will work full time, cook, clean, pay for dates, be a virgin, and take out the trash while you play video games, there is nothing wrong with that as long as you find a chick who accepts the deal.
If you're a chick who needs a dude to do house work, cook, clean pay for all the dates while you go out clubbing with your girls, there's nothing wrong with that as long as you find a dude who chooses that deal.
there are no "should" or "shouldn't". it's about what people will accept.
If you're a chick who needs a dude to do house work, cook, clean pay for all the dates while you go out clubbing with your girls, there's nothing wrong with that as long as you find a dude who chooses that deal.
there are no "should" or "shouldn't". it's about what people will accept.
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
If it's me, I enter the date prepared to cover the whole thing since I asked, but with a understanding beforehand that she should bring money. She doesn't have to pay or whatever, but if she just showed that she's willing to just pay her half, that would earn points with me. If she balks at the idea, it wouldn't be a deal-breaker (because I asked) but I'd always be mindful that she was 
on the matter.
on the matter.
