So fellas, the ladies wondering why ya'll aren't settling down for them. -Essence Mag

[MalikReloaded]

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Its crazy,there is still a ton of women who still think 6'4 or higher is normal..

average US male height (any race) is between 5'8 to 6'0.

and even 6'0 is slightly pushing it.

14 out of 100 men are over 6 feet.

14.

Now they gotta hope those 14 men are all college educated, handsome, in shape and have jobs earning over $70,000.

Including all those prerequisites......we're at what? 5 men now Now you see their problem. All 100 women going after 5 men and being mad he doesn't want to settle down

 

[Action Mike]

Everybody always tries to make this discussion more complicated than it really is.

If you are a woman and you are not married yet it is because you are just not wife material. Simple.

Great wife material women don't just get passed up on. That's like saying there is a basketball player in the league that is 10x better than Michael Jordan ever was, but teams just keep passing on him for absolutely no logical reason. It doesn't happen. So all these delusional women keep blaming men for this when they refuse to look at themselves. Being classy and educated doesn't automatically equate to a good woman. My older cousin, shes a top lawyer at her firm she's educated obviously, doesn't go out too much. Isn't showing ass and isn't all over the gram, but she isn't homely at all. Can't cook well and would rather hire somebody to clean. She's just not a "Hold the fort down" kind of woman. And she wonders why a man hasn't proposed yet.

Men are expected in society to be the breadwinners and be highly educated and all that other stuff. We need somebody to fill our gaps not bring the same thing we already have.
If we have built a house and a woman comes by and says "Well look at me I built a house on my own" and another woman comes buy and says "I love your house I have all this furniture." Guess who is getting the ring?

quoting again for emphasis

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

I wanna call bullshyt on black women spouting this rhetoric but I cant. My own sister says this shyt EVERY TIME we get together as a family.

She's a doctor, tall and in-shape , and by no means ugly.

This is more or less the convo we had at Thanksgiving:

She's doing her usual "men ain't shyt" routine

So I say to her, "what's the most important thing to you in finding a man?"


She goes, "Lots of things are important, I can't single out a few."

She's being difficult, so I ask, "Do you have any dealbreakers?"

She immediately responds, "Gotta be 6'2 at least and make as much/more money than me"

I remind her, "I get the height requirement, you're tall, but you do realize you are a doctor with your own clinic right? How many men do you know are making roughly a quatermill a year?"

She gets defensive and says, "I worked hard as hell to get where I am (which, to her cresdit, s absolutely true). So what do I want with a man who didn't do the same?. I don't have time for a failure, I need a good man."


Instead of arguing salary ceilings for different preofessions, I hit her the KO truth. "You know what? . By your own salary restrictions and coerlating that with if a man is good or not, do you realize that not one of us (her 5 brothers) would qualify as a good man in your eyes? . Even ________ who makes more than the rest of us, still doesn't make as much as you. If you weren't in this family, you would look at every man in here as a non-viable partner even though we all pass the height requirement."


Brehs you could hear a pin drop. She laughed it off like, "Well of course there are some exceptions, I would have to get to know them."

I didn't bring up the fact that she dated a 5'7-5'8 cac who made 50k a year training dogs. I showed mercy, it was a holiday



But we are getting together for new years and watch her rehash the same shyt again like our convo never happened.


Brehs I love my sister to death but I pray for her everyday. She lawst and swirling her way down to bedwenchdom

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

There are too many simps walking around for a woman to only be getting Netflix and Chill offers. If that's all a woman is getting then she's probably going after guys above her level.

It isn't about money for black women according to this interview. It's about the aesthetics and looks. A good looking dude who dresses nice, have a nice car and home will go much further than mere money or job. The job only comes into play to maintain the flash.

That rhetoric of he has to make $100k BS is to make themselves feel good for being the least pursued. Most of the time, the $50k breh is like I'm good off the independent sister because he just wants to fukk and have power. Money is power so he bypass the $100k sister which is the minority to maintain his desired structure.

I highly doubt sisters are like damn he's only 5'11" but good to me, and fukks me good but he only makes $65k. I gotta him to the bushes.

 

[Wild self]

Everybody always tries to make this discussion more complicated than it really is.

If you are a woman and you are not married yet it is because you are just not wife material. Simple.

Great wife material women don't just get passed up on. That's like saying there is a basketball player in the league that is 10x better than Michael Jordan ever was, but teams just keep passing on him for absolutely no logical reason. It doesn't happen. So all these delusional women keep blaming men for this when they refuse to look at themselves. Being classy and educated doesn't automatically equate to a good woman. My older cousin, shes a top lawyer at her firm she's educated obviously, doesn't go out too much. Isn't showing ass and isn't all over the gram, but she isn't homely at all. Can't cook well and would rather hire somebody to clean. She's just not a "Hold the fort down" kind of woman. And she wonders why a man hasn't proposed yet.

Men are expected in society to be the breadwinners and be highly educated and all that other stuff. We need somebody to fill our gaps not bring the same thing we already have.
If we have built a house and a woman comes by and says "Well look at me I built a house on my own" and another woman comes buy and says "I love your house I have all this furniture." Guess who is getting the ring?

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

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Its crazy,there is still a ton of women who still think 6'4 or higher is normal..

average US male height (any race) is between 5'8 to 6'0.

and even 6'0 is slightly pushing it.

I can name 15 coli poster over 6'3

We out chea

 

[WhodatWhoadi]

I can name 15 coli poster over 6'3

We out chea

props breh, I'm just saying its not the norm...

 

[philmonroe]

Yea, there is a disconnect now. Since black people are in the workplace, especially black women, everyone wants to feel equally yoked. Thing is, it is much easier for a man doing well to
find a suitable woman because he likely doesn't expect her to be a breadwinner or have crazy credentials.

The women however are in a pool with a *very* small number of eligible men who now have their choice of partners. If you been grinding to get to the top and now have cash, time to spend it,
and access to amazing women of all types, it definitely is more tempted than trying to settle down...a wife will come. You are already winning. You can't push to be professional as a minority
and expect there to be an influx of the opposite gender ready to get into something serious. The women are basically still dating like women did when they couldn't get serious work, and looking
down on men who don't have her level of esteem, whatever that is, works against her. Long as they are willing to accept that, they can keep looking.

Bold is a big problem for women. I think somebody posted a stat on this before most men who get over a certain amount of money are more likely to get married while it was opposite for chicks making the same amount of money for the reason you said. Women act like getting money will help them like it will for dudes but then don't realize them not spending it might as well be the chick working at the local foot locker if,you aren't going to use the money to your advantage IMO.

 

[Wild self]

......

It's true. The older 30+ ladies that saw mid to late 90s rap, about some super thug dude tatting his guns and vivid descriptions of being a killer, corrupted their vision of what their ideal black man should be about. But that image of their sexy black male cones on top of them wanting to have all the benefits of a corporate executive as well.

Which created these bitter cat ladies that are mad that their Tupac/Puffy/Jordan hybrid of a man never existed. And now when they close to menopause, they want to shame black men that bounced on them because of their fantasy standards.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

It's true. The older 30+ ladies that saw mid to late 90s rap, about some super thug dude tatting his guns and vivid descriptions of being a killer, corrupted their vision of what their ideal black man should be about. But that image of their sexy black male cones on top of them wanting to have all the benefits of a corporate executive as well.

Which created these bitter cat ladies that are mad that their Tupac/Puffy/Jordan hybrid of a man never existed. And now when they close to menopause, they want to shame black men that bounced on them because of their fantasy standards.

I don't think it's that deep.

 

[Action Mike]

think the first step may be to just remove the bolded from the equation completely when addressing this issue -----> "successful black woman"

and just hone in on individuals.

from when an assistant manager at costco is sitting on the same table as a lawyer, and their clinking wine talking about how "successful" and "black" they are "where the men at", its just an ego trip then.

 

[mamba]

It's true. The older 30+ ladies that saw mid to late 90s rap, about some super thug dude tatting his guns and vivid descriptions of being a killer, corrupted their vision of what their ideal black man should be about. But that image of their sexy black male cones on top of them wanting to have all the benefits of a corporate executive as well.

Which created these bitter cat ladies that are mad that their Tupac/Puffy/Jordan hybrid of a man never existed. And now when they close to menopause, they want to shame black men that bounced on them because of their fantasy standards.

@ Pac/Puffy/Jordan hybrid!

That nikka is makin' power moves by day and bussin' his guns in the streets by night Monday-Friday.

And he has the physique and skill to drop 50 on nikkas on any given Saturday in the gym or on the streetball court.

On Sunday, he cleans up and goes to church with her.

That sounds like a damn superhero.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

Traditionally a woman is only supposed to bring a healthy body to the table..the rest is up to the man to provide. Times have changed though.

A lot of women need to get to grips with the fact they won't find a husband easily after 26..Yet they practically live in the club wasting precious time they'll never recover.

I also notice these women think they can build a viable future with a man who picked them up at a bar/lounge or some club..they think a fun place is a great place to meet a fun outgoing man. That's these women's primary fundamental problem..they put 'fun' as a priority over 'seriousness'..
Women take themselves out the game before it even starts. A man will side eye a woman he met at a 'fun' place thinking she has a realistic shot with him.

Somebody rep this man.
Some of these broads be going to Club Platinum every weekend and meeting a dancing/thug each time that's gone pump and dump them. Then they wanna go online and whine about no good men available. As if this is some romance movie and she gone go to the club and a swole, 6 ft dude in a italian suit gone approach and sweep her off her feet

 

[The Mad Titan]

The 3 of yall made my heart smile with posts appreciating the small thoughtful things.

Lucky ladies that yall they have

fixed

 

[3rdWorld]

Somebody rep this man.
Some of these broads be going to Club Platinum every weekend and meeting a dancing/thug each time that's gone pump and dump them. Then they wanna go online and whine about no good men available. As if this is some romance movie and she gone go to the club and a swole, 6 ft dude in a italian suit gone approach and sweep her off her feet

I noticed the differing mindset when I hit college..sure, we were all clubbing hard but I noticed the cave bytches did more broad activities and had greater priorities than who the Dj at club x would be on friday.
I also noticed the caves were under pressure to settle by age 23 cause though ditzy, they knew they'd age fast and competition was tight and they had to secure a man before graduating. the black girls were all career this and that and marriage finally down the line. The black girls were very nonchalant and taking shyt lightly as if they'd be hot forever whereas the white girls knew something they didn't.

I can't recall the last time a single woman invited me to her spot for a home cooked meal rather than dining out or calling in a pizza..
I've learned to appreciate the knowledge old men kick..I suggest you young women start taking lessons from grandma on how to secure and keep a man.