So fellas, the ladies wondering why ya'll aren't settling down for them. -Essence Mag

[Wild self]

A lot black women forget

College degrees does not equal common sense.

Common sense or decency as a human being.

 

[DrX]

alotta heat was dropped in this thread man, lol we gotta sharing our threads on social media..........

but to sum everything up ill say this....men and women need to stop worrying about superficial qualities and focus on values...if u have the same value system as somebody most of the time you'll find a great spouse ..... we as black ppl gotta let the media stop brainwashing us...stop idolizing agents of white supremacy like rappers and these reality tv chicks

like minded black families starting businesses could help save our ppl....but the system really put in work on us, its bad on both sides

 

[ultraflexed]

No guys want reality TV chick's they act so stupid who would want that drama!!!

There something call "equally yoked" in the bible......this makes for the best relationships.

Basically whatever it is you want or demand you must be that yourself !!!!!

 

[DrX]

Common sense or decency as a human being.

exactly, u got these white supremacist liberals writing articles telling BW how great they are for having a degree(which is great btw) but they blow these naive women heads up and they feel entitled to something that dont

A. exist
B. they dont deserve

and time goes by and they end up old and settle, become bitter, or just join team swirl ....its a vicious cycle for them but it could be fixed by simply finding a man that matches their vaules.....but alot of these chicks are superficial


alot of the women in my family got men but my grandparents had a traditional old school marriage...sadly alotta women dont have that, they dont know what a real relationship looks like....they get their advice from hoes like k michelle


I just hope young women learn from these soon to be cat ladies

 

[Wild self]

exactly, u got these white supremacist liberals writing articles telling BW how great they are for having a degree(which is great btw) but they blow these naive women heads up and they feel entitled to something that dont

A. exist
B. they dont deserve

and time goes by and they end up old and settle, become bitter, or just join team swirl ....its a vicious cycle for them but it could be fixed by simply finding a man that matches their vaules.....but alot of these chicks are superficial


alot of the women in my family got men but my grandparents had a traditional old school marriage...sadly alotta women dont have that, they dont know what a real relationship looks like....they get their advice from hoes like k michelle


I just hope young women learn from these soon to be cat ladies

Bu Bu but a real man can tame me.

 

[Rarebird77]

alotta heat was dropped in this thread man, lol we gotta sharing our threads on social media..........

but to sum everything up ill say this....men and women need to stop worrying about superficial qualities and focus on values...if u have the same value system as somebody most of the time you'll find a great spouse ..... we as black ppl gotta let the media stop brainwashing us...stop idolizing agents of white supremacy like rappers and these reality tv chicks

like minded black families starting businesses could help save our ppl....but the system really put in work on us, its bad on both sides

It's not just the media that's screwing us but the education system.

Let me explain.

College degrees have made many to seek an upper middle class lifestyle and to be overachievers in the work force but have drained the middle class, namely, artisan class of people who could build the economic base of the community.

There's nothing wrong with furthering your education, I furthered mine and will continue to, but these days I get the need to build from the middle instead of being obsessed with the ladder.

Everybody wants to live a jet set life like on TV. It's fun I've done it but living that way you never touch the ground. These days I get the need to really build from the ground up instead of climbing as high as I can as a result I look for men who are more salt of the earth, grounded types, like my current boyfriend.

 

[#1 pick]

It's not just the media that's screwing us but the education system.

Let me explain.

College degrees have made many to seek an upper middle class lifestyle and to be overachievers in the work force but have drained the middle class, namely, artisan class of people who could build the economic base of the community.

There's nothing wrong with furthering your education, I furthered mine and will continue to, but these days I get the need to build from the middle instead of being obsessed with the ladder.

Everybody wants to live a jet set life like on TV. It's fun I've done it but living that way you never touch the ground. These days I get the need to really build from the ground up instead of climbing as high as I can as a result I look for men who are more salt of the earth, grounded types, like my current boyfriend.

This. Everyone wants the assumed easy life. But everyone also wants their way along the way.

 

[JackRoss]

You gay nikkas exposed yourselves with the negative responses............... Good job "guys"

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

I still fail to see,....
How every black woman on dese earths.
Will go bump and wallow in Mary.
Yet, not follow her lead and get up with a good brother.
Just the fact they don't even praise their goddess who saves them in despair.
Makes the shyt look funny in the light.


Art Barr

Females, Will go and give Mary j all her won't cry no more..
Yet, won't follow Mary j lead and how she don't cry no more.

I'm not sure if you want to use Mary J bilge in this instance. If I remember correctly

1) I think he had three kids before he married ( I don't think most females will sign up for this).

2) He already got caught cheating on her with another women ( Starshell) I don't think this is going to work out.

3) Because of his cheating they have a relationship in which he can't have female friends.

 

[Art Barr]

I'm not sure if you want to use Mary J bilge in this instance. If I remember correctly

1) I think he had three kids before he married ( I don't think most females will sign up for this).

2) He already got caught cheating on her with another women ( Starshell) I don't think this is going to work out.

3) Because of his cheating they have a relationship in which he can't have female friends.

I went and fact checked their marriage background.
It does seem to be hiding infidelity with starshell.
A chick I had no idea about and was actually on matriarch.
Sorry, but imma bboy. All that over obsession with rnb is not me.
I am a bboy and hip hop. So, I would not have known.
Only mistake I can see mjb made in this.
when it comes to deviating from the textbook of successful male female relationships is she dated down to the ugly type.
So, for this nikka to cheat he never satiated his libido.
Plus, had some type of low self esteem coming into the mjb thing.
Only thing I can say is mjb stood by the guy.
I don't approve of nikkaz marrying up, physically/monetarily/ego/id.
Just to use it to get ego candy off any woman.
That is reverse hypergamy and the shyt nikkaz get mad at women for and if you doing what women do,....that is bytch shyt.
I am truly in scust disgust mode, cause of this wack nikka.

So, to save the marriage.
Now, mjb, enforces the no friend rule.

When, real talk,.....once you a grown man.
You, not supposed to be having no females as friends, period.
It does not work in a mature male/female dialectic.
You, not supposed to have female friends and you in a committed relationship and married anyway.
It won't work and real nikkaz, who evolved to eliminate female friends know why.
So, any jadakiss why faced't ass nikkaz.
who upset about the fact.
needs to realize they need to grow up and mature, and also.
Recognize the more than obvious conflict of interest.

That is readily apparent if they are mature enough to do the math.


Art Barr

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

The main reason is they're not worth getting in a relationship with. Most these broads think a fat ass and a communications degree make them the pick of the litter

A Communications degree is harder then its reputation would assume.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Good article

Telling these chicks what they need to hear. You're single in your 30's because of you.

Just like I'm single because of me. I don't like dating women with kids, ratchet/trifling, broke with no ambition, etc., but I make exceptions and I own up to my decision.

Most of them don't own up to shyt (or don't want to if they do) and do have this unrealistic expectation to the men they date compared to themselves.

Like my mid-30's, single, female black friend put a post on Facebook about "would you give your man money if he asked" and she was like "no... And I would lose respect for him". But dudes were like what if he needed it? What if he's given to you a thousand times? Etc., and she was just like it doesn't matter.

I'm like well I see why you're still single... Then she puts up a pic of a man in the kitchen next.

So I'm like "So you want a nikka to give you money all the time, never help him if he needs, and to be your personal chef?"

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

I'm not attacking anyone. But some variation of this topic gets posted every other week, and its the same angry comments that get posted every time. Insecure,

angry, pathetic lames, who have been rejected over and over in their lives by black women, come in here to leave the most angry comments all under the guise of

wanting black women to improve. Theres nothing wrong with people having standards. Male or female. There is something very wrong, and immature, about shytting

on someone for having standards. A lot of these dudes are just mad that they, themselves, can't live up to a lot of these standards. It just all reeks of insecurity.

Great points!

 

[DrX]

@Art Barr dropped some heat lol

 

[DrX]

Good article

Telling these chicks what they need to hear. You're single in your 30's because of you.

Just like I'm single because of me. I don't like dating women with kids, ratchet/trifling, broke with no ambition, etc., but I make exceptions and I own up to my decision.

Most of them don't own up to shyt (or don't want to if they do) and do have this unrealistic expectation to the men they date compared to themselves.

Like my mid-30's, single, female black friend put a post on Facebook about "would you give your man money if he asked" and she was like "no... And I would lose respect for him". But dudes were like what if he needed it? What if he's given to you a thousand times? Etc., and she was just like it doesn't matter.

I'm like well I see why you're still single... Then she puts up a pic of a man in the kitchen next.

So I'm like "So you want a nikka to give you money all the time, never help him if he needs, and to be your personal chef?"

woman are delusional, they don't understand men ' what they see out of movies....they let images from the media dictate their decisions