So fellas, the ladies wondering why ya'll aren't settling down for them. -Essence Mag

[DrX]

Somebody gets it That's usually most of the opportunities black men get easily are sh*t like security, military, athletic, labor management type sh*t. Roughneck type sh*t. At the white collar management/executive level the ratio is at least 3:1 of black women to black men, it's not even close. That's why most rich black men you see are men WHO HAVE MADE THEIR OWN OPPORTUNITY. Fact of the matter is that let's say 40% of sisters make more than $30K/yr, and let's say 20% of brothers make more than 30K/yr, that's still double the ratio, there's always going to be black women left out Some of them just have to start lowering their requirements to start a family

entrepreneurship for the most part is the only way a black man can survive, but interestingly enough alot of BM dont pursuit...(legally)

 

[QuavoFlow]

fukk this thread i just wanna know who baby right here is

 

[KravenMorehead™]

fukk this thread i just wanna know who baby right here is

Chrisette Michelle

young nikkas blow my mind as an almost-30 year oldthis shyt is a trip

 

[QuavoFlow]

Chrisette Michelle

young nikkas blow my mind as an almost-30 year oldthis shyt is a trip

blame me for being 19 like i can choose what time i pop out of a p*ssy brehs

thanks tho

 

[KravenMorehead™]

blame me for being 19 like i can choose what time i pop out of a p*ssy brehs

thanks tho

nah fam it ain't a diss i'm just trippin off being on the other side of the shyt. You'll get there in like 2025 and be like "damn so this is what @KravenMorehead™ was talkin about", trust me

 

[agnosticlady]

People hate him but he speaks the truth about black women even the educated one.

I'll give an example yesterday this med student, soon to be finished was swerving and just wanted to talk but since I showed her pic of my bm, our son and I along with seeing how attractive she is, she's more interested than ever. I'm not making more money, hell, I'm making less because I am trying to get money I am owed.

She was probably thinking that you are dedicated to your son (which you are) and the mother and getting high off f knowing that she may be able to pull you away from her. I could be wrong though
During my fall semester I met a young lady who is 21. She was telling me about how her boyfriend has a child (2 year old daughter) and how the mother of the child hates her. I asked her thinking that the mother may be purposely making things hard for her . The young woman says to me, "Well wouldn't you hate the girl that stole your man and the father of your child ". I was just thinking () .That is nothing to brag about. You know what's funny? At the end of the semester she told me that she is pregnant with his child, and try to talk to me about their problems I was just like

Oh and no she was not some crazy chicken head hoodrat. She is a Chemistry major and is going to school to be a pharmacist.

I wanna call bullshyt on black women spouting this rhetoric but I cant. My own sister says this shyt EVERY TIME we get together as a family.

She's a doctor, tall and in-shape , and by no means ugly.

This is more or less the convo we had at Thanksgiving:

She's doing her usual "men ain't shyt" routine

So I say to her, "what's the most important thing to you in finding a man?"


She goes, "Lots of things are important, I can't single out a few."

She's being difficult, so I ask, "Do you have any dealbreakers?"

She immediately responds, "Gotta be 6'2 at least and make as much/more money than me"

I remind her, "I get the height requirement, you're tall, but you do realize you are a doctor with your own clinic right? How many men do you know are making roughly a quatermill a year?"

She gets defensive and says, "I worked hard as hell to get where I am (which, to her cresdit, s absolutely true). So what do I want with a man who didn't do the same?. I don't have time for a failure, I need a good man."


Instead of arguing salary ceilings for different preofessions, I hit her the KO truth. "You know what? . By your own salary restrictions and coerlating that with if a man is good or not, do you realize that not one of us (her 5 brothers) would qualify as a good man in your eyes? . Even ________ who makes more than the rest of us, still doesn't make as much as you. If you weren't in this family, you would look at every man in here as a non-viable partner even though we all pass the height requirement."


Brehs you could hear a pin drop. She laughed it off like, "Well of course there are some exceptions, I would have to get to know them."

I didn't bring up the fact that she dated a 5'7-5'8 cac who made 50k a year training dogs. I showed mercy, it was a holiday



But we are getting together for new years and watch her rehash the same shyt again like our convo never happened.


Brehs I love my sister to death but I pray for her everyday. She lawst and swirling her way down to bedwenchdom

She should be able to find a man in the medical field. Surely she hangs around people who are career oriented. I think some people may have a hard time admitting that they are the problem, and that most people are just not into them. I remember seeing a post on FB by a woman saying that all women should be with men who makes more than them. She wouldn't even be with a man who makes $70,000 while she makes $80,000. Most men who are real men feel emasculated by a woman taking care of them financially and like their independence as men so I doubt they will begging their higher earning significant other for money.

With everything that has been said, how many people are really and truly out there having issues dating?

I just feel like the majority of the coli has probably had at least one good relationship.

I just don't buy that it's ever as bad as both sexes want to make it out to be

I think a lot of people just need to come back down to Earth and humble themselves

Sometimes I think some of the black people on this site aren't really around black people that much or haven't been in a long long time.

I honestly think the same thing....Even if I did not come on here I could still come across like minded black people through book clubs, other clubs, events, social media, gatherings, and etc. Like just the things that are said on here have me like

 

[Larry Lambo]

I did not know that was Chrisette. I know this sounds ignorant but she looks better with the weave. Maybe she never found a natural style that complimented her but it's night and day versus her old look.

 

[Rick Fox at UNC]

Fact of the matter is many women. Think highly of themselves but have low self esteem so they live in a fantasy. They don't even know they have low self esteem.

This is insightful as shyt.

A lot of folks, especially women, have low self-esteem mixed with a superiority complex. They so afraid of facing who they are that they look for other people (some "ideal" nikka) to fill in all their holes and make 'em happy. In order to escape their actual existence, they create these elaborate fantasies and avoid the responsibility of self-reflection and change.

shyt, it's the prince charming fantasy of white women too, except most don't actually ride out to this past their mid-20s.

Think this went over the head of a lot of people.

 

[ultraflexed]

A lot black women forget

College degrees does not equal common sense.

 

[Rick Fox at UNC]

No you are right When I was in high school I had friend (now former friend for good reasons) who would talk about how she could not date black guys (we were 15 at the time) because they are all hood, and didn't want to being one home to her mom. Yet she was in a relationship with some white Hispanic dude from Nicaragua who is a thug himself and a player. The way she described him made him seem romantic, but I later found out that he was some hell raising player dabbling in dumb shyt. During out senior year he got shot and died during some drug related stuff . Also no she was not some stupid hoodrat. She graduated with an unweighted GPA of 3.3+ and her weighted was over 5.0. She goes to FSU (Florida State University) and is a pre-med major, and got in on a full ride scholarship.

This is on point.

Larger point about white supremacy is that there is no skin color attached to it. Meaning black folk buy into it just as much as white folk.

But yea, it's alway funny to see women attracted to everything traditionally associated with black men (again, self-loathing) minus the actual black man.

 

[ChiefQueen]

Yea a lot are fat as hell

I thought yall loved 'thick' women and bbws?! What happened?

 

[MikelArteta]

 

[wickedsm]

I still fail to see,....
How every black woman on dese earths.
Will go bump and wallow in Mary.
Yet, not follow her lead and get up with a good brother.
Just the fact they don't even praise their goddess who saves them in despair.
Makes the shyt look funny in the light.


Art Barr

Females, Will go and give Mary j all her won't cry no more..
Yet, won't follow Mary j lead and how she don't cry no more.

Ummm. I don't know that's such a good example.
From what I understand that dude is still slinging dikk everywhere and using her /their money to pay for it. Just within the last few years there was some bankruptcy and tax lien stuff.

I get your underlying point tho.

 

[Art Barr]

I see this on IG and Facebook all the time where women want to be a side piece for some rich/swag dude before being a s/o of a normal man.

This is that Tobey Keith quotable from country.
It is bogus but true.

Toby Keith : A high maintenance woman don't want no maintenance man


Art Barr

 

[badtguy]

This is insightful as shyt.

A lot of folks, especially women, have low self-esteem mixed with a superiority complex. They so afraid of facing who they are that they look for other people (some "ideal" nikka) to fill in all their holes and make 'em happy. In order to escape their actual existence, they create these elaborate fantasies and avoid the responsibility of self-reflection and change.

shyt, it's the prince charming fantasy of white women too, except most don't actually ride out to this past their mid-20s.

Think this went over the head of a lot of people.

Yeah, self reflection is a bytch for all people most especially women and even more bw. It not only relates to them but also their fathers or the men in their family. Cause most refuse to except that they come from THE BOTTOM of society.

Women: " He must have a degree" "He must have Good credit" "He must earn twice as much as me" He must be good looking <--- I dont have a problem with that AT ALL. But I do have a problem with women stating these qualities but have Absentee/Druggie fathers, Felon brothers, unemployed uncles, and cousin with 3 baby mamas who sells drugs. LOL

When I meet women like that, its always some DUMB Sob story about how they grew up in a broken home. These women are broken and don't even know it. I don't date women from broken or shytty families, recipe for disaster.