So fellas, the ladies wondering why ya'll aren't settling down for them. -Essence Mag

[Knuckles Red]

You said that black male privilege ( ) made black dating a mess with "baby mama" and "side piece" into a normal thing, but not once.you said anything about accountability on the woman's end.

I mean, should I really have to? The sentiments regarding black women having kids OOW, and all the negative degrading names that you all attach to said black women, have been expressed more than a

few times on this website. Rarely ever do I see dudes here holding other dudes accountable for their seed. Only myself, and a few other posters, criticize dudes for impregnating women

and not being responsible for what results. And even then we get called "simps" for it. For me to talk about black women's accountability for Baby Mama Culture would be me beating a dead horse.

 

[richaveli83]

at this topic. It always boils down to the same nonsense with some of these women. There are plenty of good eligible black men looking for marriage. If no man is putting a ring on your finger it's time you look in the mirror.

 

[Knuckles Red]

i also hate these types of articles because it always skews in favour of women. Its always about the men and what they have to offer or what they lack. But never have i seen one of these shyts question women and ask if they are worthy enough for men to marry?

GILMORE: We have clients that have a long laundry list of requirements—6 foot 4, with a Ph.D., never been married, no children, in his late 30s or early 40s—and a lot of times we then ask them, well, what are you bringing to the table? And, the answer is nowhere near all that. Why would you expect someone to have more than what you’re offering?

Did you even read the OP?

 

[RealAssanova]

GILMORE: We have clients that have a long laundry list of requirements—6 foot 4, with a Ph.D., never been married, no children, in his late 30s or early 40s—and a lot of times we then ask them, well, what are you bringing to the table? And, the answer is nowhere near all that. Why would you expect someone to have more than what you’re offering?

Did you even read the OP?

i saw that.

i mean in general, whenever these types of articles about the dating pool of men.

wrong choice of "never".

 

[jadillac]

The article mentioned it. That a majority of all of these ladies issues... starts with them. They don't know what a good man looks like. It's not promoted in our community and rightfully so like most things in the field of war which this country is right now for us. It's meant to be that way. In a superficial world, our Black ppl are the most and it's because we understand the least about ourselves, our family and most important our history. Even during segregation, we understood ourselves and our families. Not so much anymore.

That's partially true.

The other half is that it's promoted.....IMPROPERLY. ie the "good black man" that is promoted in the media/music etc is not what the real-life "good black man" is.

 

[RAX 010]

Alot of our women are Hella delusional coupled with the fact that handsome desirable men such as myself have been spoiled in certain aspects leads to a disconnect among each other as well for example...
Im so used to being able to talk Xtra dirty to a woman that I am involved with that I don't see how it can be disrespectful sometimes...the other night my son's mom was over here hanging out and when she laid our son down to sleep i texted her something along the lines of "when u finish I want to spread ya pu*** out wit my rock hard phat Ass D***"...etc.

Make a long story short she felt disrespected by my choice of words...says she dont wanna feel like i only want her for sex so I guess I gotta be more romantic to fukk? That sh1t confuses me and kills my confidence it's easier to just call up one of my freaks that would love to come get fukked and leave but I'm tryna hold my family intact but idk what to do

 

[How Sway?]

Same shyt in the black community going on in the white community. Women ignore men in their 20s because their looks allow them to be picky and play the field. Men in their 30s hit their stride and in turn, become picky and want to play the field. No harm, no foul. Let the homies have their fun. You had yours

the black community is like the canary in the coal mine for the everybody else.

 

[AAKing23]

Oh well, tired of these bytches complaining Enjoy your cats

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

Meh, a lot of women date very superficially in their 20's so they miss out on a lot of good potential faithful partners. It is not just a black women thing. All races of american women do it. Average guys really don't come into play until they are forced to settle by not getting commitment from the type they truly desire. People should date more with realistic standards.

 

[StickStickly]

I hate how these articles generalize so much. People have to be willing to look at themselves if they can't find any man in the wide world to date them. If I met them I guarantee I could find the flaw that leaves them single and it wouldn't have anything to do with being an older black woman or there being no good black men. People don't know how to look at themselves or they don't want to, or its just too much work for them. So it's easier to blame an entire group of people, homogenize them like the rest of the country does, and broadcast it around the world

 

[O.iatlhawksfan]

I'm pretty sure with my mindset, im probably gonna piss a lot of ladies off down the line. I'm getting my money and balling out. Living a 2nd childhood, better than the first,
and condensing my "Had my fun" twenties into my early 30's. THEN probably end up dating younger. I got a decade and a half of fukkery ahead of me so I understand some of their
frustration, but this "no good black men" shyt is false.

Likely a ton of a good black men who don't make enough money to qualify as "good". Then again, the odds are kinda against them.

You're not a "real man"

You're a fukk boy

 

[At30wecashout]

You're not a "real man"

You're a fukk boy

I would welcome ladies throw salt, but playing the square role ain't been nearly so fruitful. So imma get on, get my money, and act an ass.

That and I wanna travel.

 

[theflyest]

A lot of women don't know how to talk to men.

When they hit a certain age & their looks start to fade, they turn to Steve Harvey books.

They never bothered to develop a mouthpiece when they where younger, because they didn't have to.

 

[IWunD3r]

Them brawds got issues. the end.
good Blk women get scooped up by good blk men every day. as i type right now, a good blk woman, is choosing up on a good blk man.

the thing is, it's obvious why these brawds got these crazy criteria's for blk men... "6'5 rough gangsta, yet sensitive and law abiding " "athletic, but don't play sports"... "hard working with a good job, yet always available"

most women with these crazy ass criteria's, are really waiting to get scooped up by a white man. most blk women with these "build an ultimate nikka, i have standards" demands, always mostly end up with a 5'5 goofy cracka with a beer gut, small dikk, and a reversible hairline, talking about she found true love..

 

[Ashley Banks]

I'm pretty sure with my mindset, im probably gonna piss a lot of ladies off down the line. I'm getting my money and balling out. Living a 2nd childhood, better than the first,
and condensing my "Had my fun" twenties into my early 30's. THEN probably end up dating younger. I got a decade and a half of fukkery ahead of me so I understand some of their
frustration, but this "no good black men" shyt is false.

Likely a ton of a good black men who don't make enough money to qualify as "good". Then again, the odds are kinda against them.