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Those are stock photos. But if you watch the matchmaking video...

Those women are mostly fat but expecting nikkas with super model looks. African American women are the only women who think having a degree entitles them to an attractive man.
Some men think the same. shyt, read this site. "I have a degree, make money, my own place and car but all these HOES and THOTS do is date thugs. No one wants a NICE GUY".

It's not just women who think their material possessions entitle them to someone "attractive".
 

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It's obvious bruh....... They hate women and they are fakkits...... A lot of these nikkas would rather have long lasting relationships with they boys/ guys instead of a female to prove that they tough....... Too much circle jerk and doin the homie........ They fakkits........... It was a thread a few days ago about dude playin Jenga and he ignore the female and he was mad his guy was being a heterosexual male and swooped in her while he was being a gay playing Jenga..... nikkas be weird ..... Either they fakkits or got mommy issues...... I think these nikkas hate p*ssy so much they hate their mothers...... No way you get as many "I hate women" threads as you do....... These nikkas gay..... Not all but most of these nikkas are homos..... They posts be funny especially coming from homosexuals.... I didn't know homos were this funny

So are you all really going to put this all on black women? So theres nothing we, as black men, could improve on to ensure more marriages between black women and black men? We talk about group

economics all the time on here, and how important that is in aiding in the bettering of our community, but you have black dudes marrying out twice as much as black women, not getting married to black

women, and impregnating black women then not raising the children they create. Marriage is paramount in achieving something like group economics, and yet so many of you want to push all the

responsibility and blame onto black women. There just rarely ever seems to be any responsibility taken by black men, here, when it comes to topics like this.

Idk why but this reminded me of that scene in "the other guys" where they go to his exes house to listen to the voicemail, and will Farrel's ex's new husband is like "get back here and fukk my wife"

That's basically what you're saying bro. That we as a collective of average men, should shame the top men who're kicking ass in life and convince them to abandon all the trim being thrown at them and settle?

Yea that seems way more realistic than imploring women to be more selective with who enters their body. Bottom line, most men won't like it, and some women won't like learning the truth but the dating market needs a reset.

If women stopped having sex without commitment they would learn their true market value. Only someone who loves you would go that far for sex.
 

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:francis:I'm pretty sure with my mindset, im probably gonna piss a lot of ladies off down the line. I'm getting my money and balling out. Living a 2nd childhood, better than the first,
and condensing my "Had my fun" twenties into my early 30's. THEN probably end up dating younger. I got a decade and a half of fukkery ahead of me so I understand some of their
frustration, but this "no good black men" shyt is false.

Likely a ton of a good black men who don't make enough money to qualify as "good". Then again, the odds are kinda against them.

I told a friend the other day when you go out and you get no stares or looks and you're social circles isn't expanding its mm most likely cuz ya broke and you got nothing women desire. truth is it's too much struggle for guys like me to oblige under a woman's rule. I can do deeper but it's my mostly just a struggle issue thst many black males go through, we need support from day 1 not only after the money comes in. no culture is the main issue, you need a code.
 

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It's sad honestly. I ran into a lot of bm like that when I was still dating, Not so much of the bedwench thing but the wanting to be your only option while wanting to still be free themselves. Then insulting you for doing the same.
I ran into those same ones, too. Some of them are still out there clubbing and partying with their boyfriends.
 

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Speaking for myself I don't really have a reason to settle down. I know my worth is at a all time high so why waste all that just to settle down prematurely ? Women have their late teens to early 20's, thats when they're in control of "the game" but if they don't cash in during that period it gets spooky out here for them for a variety of reasons.
 

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No, black men are the problem.
People are the problem and are wiser.

I will say this and even from the article, black women hustle backwards. Anglo women pocket check and that other BS first because they're still going to mess around or turn their man into a cuckhold to be still able to freak men they're attracted to while being taking care of.

My solution that I recommend is black women should be seeking and snatching their prospects on their way up.
 

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Only black women are told to marry an "about to man." Wow the poison y'all try to feed black women just so you can have a stream of ass without producing.

Create a culture around non production and expect women to not expect anything but you still want us to look good screw you and make you a sandwich.

Those same black women will be called stupid and used goods for being with an "about to" man who stayed "about to" and never did much else.
 

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That whats wrong with this older women. Younger ones are not any better.

When I was 19 had no car, was not in school and had no money I never thought I could bag a chick that I really wanted.

You got to understand if you not where you want to be in life why would anyone want to deal with you. I was not going after chicks , I was busting my ass to find a job. No a chick, but hey they found me anyway.

Fast forward 3 year, Got new car, two checking accounts , two savings accounts. In school, with higher paying job.

If I did all that in 3 years , Think about what I will have done by 30.

So yeah when I'm 30 I not going to pick the first chick that come my way , I'm bask in my own glory in my own achievement.

Their was two women srs checking for me when I was struggling they go to the top of my list over all the women who going want to build with me.
 

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I ran into those same ones, too. Some of them are still out there clubbing and partying with their boyfriends.
:scust:Boyfriends.


:shaq:Vfib, you out here trying to make a straight man out of a :wrist:.

:sas1:Girl you ain't have to go against the grain like that.:sas2:
 

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Umm these chicks just need to date out and they would have been married by now had they started in high school. It's sad that they are limiting themselves to one demographic due to some arbitrary category that they were assigned to at birth. As one of the ladies said, women of other races are more aggressive (and calculating) when it comes to dating as they were raised to be wives and mothers and their men were raised to create and protect families and be responsible. Asian women need to write a book on how to land quality men, especially them scheming ass Filipino chicks.
 
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Alot of our women are Hella delusional coupled with the fact that handsome desirable men such as myself have been spoiled in certain aspects leads to a disconnect among each other as well for example...
Im so used to being able to talk Xtra dirty to a woman that I am involved with that I don't see how it can be disrespectful sometimes...the other night my son's mom was over here hanging out and when she laid our son down to sleep i texted her something along the lines of "when u finish I want to spread ya pu*** out wit my rock hard phat Ass D***"...etc.

Make a long story short she felt disrespected by my choice of words...says she dont wanna feel like i only want her for sex so I guess I gotta be more romantic to fukk? That sh1t confuses me and kills my confidence it's easier to just call up one of my freaks that would love to come get fukked and leave but I'm tryna hold my family intact but idk what to do
:merchant:I'm sorry but that text was vulgar and very much a turn off. Honestly I don't blame her, it seems you two are mismatched because you obviously don't want to change the behavior and filthy language. Save that shyt for the bedroom.
 

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I think we need to get the feedback of esteemed black women expert Tommy Sotomayor
People hate him but he speaks the truth about black women even the educated one.

I'll give an example yesterday this med student, soon to be finished was swerving and just wanted to talk but since I showed her pic of my bm, our son and I along with seeing how attractive she is, she's more interested than ever. I'm not making more money, hell, I'm making less because I am trying to get money I am owed.
 

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So many #HOH threads on this site. If only these dudes put as much energy into, and cared as much about, their relationships with women as they do their "boys"

things would be a lot better. You have dudes still traveling in squads well into their late twenties/early thirties. Dudes still unable to make important relationship

decisions without talking to their "boys" first. shyt is fukking pathetic. You shouldn't even have friends after a certain age. Your entire focus should be on your home

life, and your work life. But these "boys" never want to man the fukk up. That Peter Pan Syndrome is real, unfortunately.

you gonna have to do better than that, alot of us start off late due to poor parenting and no male influences. you gotta do more than the rush Limbaugh approach to black males. and negged BTW
 
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