So fellas, the ladies wondering why ya'll aren't settling down for them. -Essence Mag

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ESSENCE.COM: Do you feel Black women and men are too particular when it comes to potential dating candidates?
FISHER:
We found that as opposed to the White clients that we’ve had, Black women are usually looking for physical attributes first. We look for someone who is attractive to us and then we pick up on his hobbies, interests and values. Whereas, White clients are looking for the reverse first. What kind of job does he have? Is he going to be able to provide?Then they circle back.

GILMORE: We’re the first ones to look at men's bodies and how attractive they are whereas our White clients have a long list of requirements of things like character and integrity...

FISHER: ...and, then down the line, it backfires for us because you were never a compatible mix to start with.

ESSENCE.COM: Do Black women have realistic dating pool expectations?
GILMORE:
We have clients that have a long laundry list of requirements—6 foot 4, with a Ph.D., never been married, no children, in his late 30s or early 40s—and a lot of times we then ask them, well, what are you bringing to the table? And, the answer is nowhere near all that. Why would you expect someone to have more than what you’re offering?

Shocking!

Black women are the most shallow of all women! They'll get knocked up by a nikka just because he has pretty eyes and then complain when they find out down the road that he has poor character!

Misguided mate selection on the part of Black women has crippled the next generation of Black children.
 

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You know what that initial article didn't say? A bunch of family first, 'do nearly anything to take care of my man' women can't find someone to settle with. It's the same archetype over and over who can't find a man to settle with, aka the career first, highly successful, 10,000 degree type of woman who spent her 20s 'having her fun' and the rest of that time at work.

Men don't really care about a woman's financial prospects like that. As long as she an reasonably support herself, that's fine enough for the man. A man would much rather take the woman that puts him above her career and makes less than the balling out of control woman who he rarely sees because she's at work 95% of the time and out partying with the girls on the weekend.
 

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Some men think the same. shyt, read this site. "I have a degree, make money, my own place and car but all these HOES and THOTS do is date thugs. No one wants a NICE GUY".

It's not just women who think their material possessions entitle them to someone "attractive".

What are you doing this NYE?:ld:
I just got a new car (totalled my old one) :ld:
I'll come pick you up and take you to my place :ld:

We can make love on a pile of my money:ld:

When I serve you breakfast, you can use my college diploma as a tablecloth:ld:

If you reject me, you have thot tendencies and are only attracted to thugs:ld:
 

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I wonder if they know how unattractive and desperate they look on this panels and articles saying they can't find a man. :scust:




I'm sure every races of woman have dating problems, but sistas are the only one publicly announcing their thirst and desperation. Not a Good Look At All. :snoop:

They have no problem going on national TV and in national publications to throw Black men under the bus!
 

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So many #HOH threads on this site. If only these dudes put as much energy into, and cared as much about, their relationships with women as they do their "boys"

things would be a lot better. You have dudes still traveling in squads well into their late twenties/early thirties. Dudes still unable to make important relationship

decisions without talking to their "boys" first. shyt is fukking pathetic. You shouldn't even have friends after a certain age. Your entire focus should be on your home

life, and your work life. But these "boys" never want to man the fukk up. That Peter Pan Syndrome is real, unfortunately.

How many women are still making life & relationship decisions with the inputs of their squad of girlfriends first?

Women are more likely to roll that way than men are.
 

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You know what that initial article didn't say? A bunch of family first, 'do nearly anything to take care of my man' women can't find someone to settle with. It's the same archetype over and over who can't find a man to settle with, aka the career first, highly successful, 10,000 degree type of woman who spent her 20s 'having her fun' and the rest of that time at work.

Men don't really care about a woman's financial prospects like that. As long as she an reasonably support herself, that's fine enough for the man. A man would much rather take the woman that puts him above her career and makes less than the balling out of control woman who he rarely sees because she's at work 95% of the time and out partying with the girls on the weekend.

Men don't care about a woman's financial prospects because traditionally the man is the (financial) provider.
 

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To be honest the women they described who felt like the everyday hardworking men are inferior to them and then they feel inferior to some men need to sit down and reevaluate their lives. They should not be in a relationship with any man, because it will be pure hell to be with someone who feels as if you are inferior to them. They need to ask themselves if they are a great catch themselves. :pachaha:


I can't rep you but as soon as I can
 

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What are you doing this NYE?:ld:
I just got a new car (totalled my old one) :ld:
I'll come pick you up and take you to my place :ld:

We can make love on a pile of my money:ld:

When I serve you breakfast, you can use my college diploma as a tablecloth:ld:

If you reject me, you have thot tendencies and are only attracted to thugs:ld:


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Men don't care about a woman's financial prospects because traditionally the man is the (financial) provider.

Yep. Modern society has everything twisted up and it has tried to reverse the gender roles. Most men are not looking for 'women providers' who make a ton of money, just like most women aren't looking for homemaking men who primarily spend the day cleaning, cooking and being nurturing. She'll call that dude feminine and be repulsed.
 
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