So fellas, the ladies wondering why ya'll aren't settling down for them. -Essence Mag

[Richard Wright]

I'm at how many people with a bachelors or Masters of Arts in social sciences etc. think hey are actually educated

 

[Gold]

Older women become pretty good at it. Smash a couple they know exactly what time it is in the bedroom

They still have to put in more work then they ever had to when they were in their 20s.

but I agree with you

 

[MalikReloaded]

I wanna call bullshyt on black women spouting this rhetoric but I cant. My own sister says this shyt EVERY TIME we get together as a family.

She's a doctor, tall and in-shape , and by no means ugly.

This is more or less the convo we had at Thanksgiving:

She's doing her usual "men ain't shyt" routine

So I say to her, "what's the most important thing to you in finding a man?"


She goes, "Lots of things are important, I can't single out a few."

She's being difficult, so I ask, "Do you have any dealbreakers?"

She immediately responds, "Gotta be 6'2 at least and make as much/more money than me"

I remind her, "I get the height requirement, you're tall, but you do realize you are a doctor with your own clinic right? How many men do you know are making roughly a quatermill a year?"

She gets defensive and says, "I worked hard as hell to get where I am (which, to her cresdit, s absolutely true). So what do I want with a man who didn't do the same?. I don't have time for a failure, I need a good man."


Instead of arguing salary ceilings for different preofessions, I hit her the KO truth. "You know what? . By your own salary restrictions and coerlating that with if a man is good or not, do you realize that not one of us (her 5 brothers) would qualify as a good man in your eyes? . Even ________ who makes more than the rest of us, still doesn't make as much as you. If you weren't in this family, you would look at every man in here as a non-viable partner even though we all pass the height requirement."


Brehs you could hear a pin drop. She laughed it off like, "Well of course there are some exceptions, I would have to get to know them."

I didn't bring up the fact that she dated a 5'7-5'8 cac who made 50k a year training dogs. I showed mercy, it was a holiday



But we are getting together for new years and watch her rehash the same shyt again like our convo never happened.


Brehs I love my sister to death but I pray for her everyday. She lawst and swirling her way down to bedwenchdom

typical. one standard for black men, another for whites.

 

[live it to the limit]

So sick of these types of topics:
Why aren't black people getting married?
Why are black men marrying outside their race?
Are black women undesirable?
All this shyt is so played and old.
I doubt other races sit around and debate shyt like this.

 

[Wild self]

I'm at how many people with a bachelors or Masters of Arts in social sciences etc. think hey are actually educated

Stem majors are getting low balled, too.

But that's another topic.

 

[Neil Tyson]

Yes but no one likes to marry when they 18 19 20 21 22 23 24... So why include them? This isn't the 1920s. Marriage age may have risen but plummeted? No.

The point is marriage has plummeted not the marriage age.

 

[Richard Wright]

Stem majors are getting low balled, too.

But that's another topic.

I didn't mention income. But my offer sure as hell isnt a low ball

 

[Gold]

typical. one standard for black men, another for whites.

No lie, when my mom found out she was dating a cac she was like, "Well he must be a millionaire. Otherwise I don't see why you are with him? They are hideous in my eyes"

How my sister turn out the way she did will always be a mystery to me. I would say its because she grew up whitewashed in Charlotte, NC... but I've heard this same excuse from plenty of women who are the furthest thing from whitewashed

 

[DaRealness]

 

[Wild self]

I didn't mention income. But my offer sure as hell isnt a low ball

The economy is low balling everyone. The same skills should make you around 200k. Hell, people 30 years ago were making the equivalent of 150k per year, putting cars together in factories with a high school education.

But being an employee outside of the government is overrated.

 

[StarGirl]

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[Gold]

I might as well do some research while i'm here.

Brehettes, if you are making over 200k a year, would you make it a requirement that you cannot marry a man making less than you?

 

[Gold]

I don't actually know anyone with these kinds of problems. Maybe cause I'm young, so I don't know anyone with this gloom and doom forecast looming over their heads. But, I don't really think this is a thing.

It shouldn't be, but sadly it is for older people. None of my friends have this issue right now, but I bet when I hit 30, I'll hear the complaining.

 

[Richard Wright]

The economy is low balling everyone. The same skills should make you around 200k. Hell, people 30 years ago were making the equivalent of 150k per year, putting cars together in factories with a high school education.

But being an employee outside of the government is overrated.

Again, maybe for other people, but not what I have lined up in July.

And again, you're talking about jobs and salaries. I'm talking about education.

People with social sciences etc. degrees aren't educated, they don't even have the math background to actually understand their own field.

They should have majored in computer science

 

[69 others]

I've said it once, I'll say it again.

Degrees are only useful if you actually work in that field and most don't.

My wife and I married based off potential (what we could be) an not what we were (mid 20's ).
I had no kids, nice body, handsome, 5"11, and the mindset an hustle to do big things and in college.

My wife was a cna, gorgeous, killer body, had one kids, very honest, hard working and wanted more our of life.

10 years later we combine to make over 150K and still more earning potential, we've bought 2 houses, most recent was brand new 3,300 Sq feet with 5 bedrooms+game room, along with 3 kids.

We didn't settle for each other, we felt getting each other was the best and that we could make it happen and we did!!!!!
Getting together was the best move we could've ever made...

Most BW don't think like this...they don't want to build with you, they want you to own the building and move them in it.

Overall a lot of black men and woman don't think long term and are self centered and it's the reason why we'll keep losing out here for a few more generations. Some of us are out here basing who they'll settle and have kids with based on some trend and what's popping instead of long term goals such acquiring assets, raising successful kids, and passing down wealth. Not saying you don't have to be attracted or proud of your mate but what some of us base that on is so corrupted by media and social trends it's hard for a lot of us to even know what really want from each other. I commend @ultraflexed for making the right move but just watch how some dudes would try to clown you cause your girl had a child that's not yours based on some new trend that a man raising another man child is a simp even though y'all did good for yourself.