So fellas, the ladies wondering why ya'll aren't settling down for them. -Essence Mag

[Field Marshall Bradley]

Only black women are told to marry an "about to man." Wow the poison y'all try to feed black women just so you can have a stream of ass without producing.

The logic behind this is to absurd

 

[Easy-E]

First, @ this...

ESSENCE.COM: Do Black women have realistic dating pool expectations?
GILMORE: We have clients that have a long laundry list of requirements—6 foot 4, with a Ph.D., never been married, no children, in his late 30s or early 40s—and a lot of times we then ask them, well, what are you bringing to the table? And, the answer is nowhere near all that. Why would you expect someone to have more than what you’re offering?

But, I've been fighting it, but, I'm seeing a trend in this "issue"

And its always "older," "professional," "successful," black women with the same problem of wanting a Creat-A-(Non) Player type guy that they (A) prolly ain't single (B) prolly want to play the field (C) prolly have attributes that these women shouldn't be demanding


Single and 6'4" with a PH.D.

They prolly want him to have a 9" penis and be a church going virgin

We clown women too much on thus site (so I usually dont comment) but, I'm ready to admit this is a woman issue/problem

 

[Beck.er.]

It's crazy but my cousin was a playa who looked like a Trey Songz type. The only dude who would get the chicks I usually get when I am with a group of brehs from me. He was getting his car keyed and all types of shyt. He decided it was time to find someone. Met this girl. He was working as a Pharmacy Tech. Wasn't in college and they had a child. I used to come to his apartment and give him money to pay his bills since I had some decent change at the time. He was 23 and she was 22 at the time. They got married. Had another kid.

He did sales. Did great in sales. They sent him to Mexico and she came with him. Trained them up. Then came back to Atlanta and now is a Director at the age of 29 years old. A made nikka. But when he didn't have any money and was asking me for cash, times was hard. Sometimes women don't want to go through the struggle especially when they feel they made it. It's a real issue and something that they don't want to acknowledge but as men, we know if you coming to us when we hot, we aren't as responsive as when we are down. They want a hot nikka but don't realize how us men think. My cousin realize this and got her a breh who is in school to be lawyer. Smart respectful brotha. Makes me proud brotha. He doesn't make any money but she holds him down as she's a doctor and he's holds her down. I helped her navigate with him in the beginning and he's the best man to her. He's going to be a lawyer soon and well paid as well. She helps him as she can. That's real love.

Sometimes women gotta look at the overall package and not just what is in the resume.

That first situation was one misstep away from a typical gloating thecoli cautionary tale. She got knocked up by an uneducated womanizer
If they hadn't matured together she'd be proof of how women are into looks and popularity rather than substance or potential.
Some #GMB and #HOH types would argue he deserves an "upgrade" now that he's educated and financially successful. Go for what he couldn't pull before having only a diploma and a baby mama.

Is your cousin married to this man?

Women are scolded here for wanting too much in a mate while simultaneously disparaged for not holding men to high standards and thinking they can will/love them into better people.

 

[iBrowse]

I didn't bring up the fact that she dated a 5'7-5'8 cac who made 50k a year training dogs. I showed mercy, it was a holiday

 

[AKM-95]

Good Black Men = High Earning Black Male that will submit to her wants and ATL Housewife desires.

Cutting through alot of the BS and fukkkary that's on this board. this is really the underlying issue between a lot of men and wonen today.....women truly want to run the show in their relationships its not enough to have a provider now they expect a man to submit... And as a man that was raised a certain way I can't get down with that.

 

[richaveli83]

May allah guide her to islam

 

[Gold]

See? I think it has something to do with being raised here with these extreme ideals that's the problem.

Your brother was kind of really mean about that, though, but she will most likely figure it out. After all, if all the women in the family are married, it puts pressure on her neck to get herself together.

Why isn't she meeting anyone in her field? I'm pretty sure she can find people who make as much as her there.

Yeah there are plenty of doctors with their own clinics. In fact, if you are a doctor and you don't contract work in a big hospital, you should own a small clinic. She has never once dated one of those guys tho . She says they are all married. I'm not in that field so I don't know if that's hyperbole or truth.

She's just a 1 year and a half older than me, 29, so I kinda agree with my brother. She just isn't ready for it. Even the way she talks about relationships is one sided. Everything she says starts with "He betta..." and nothing about what she feels she has to do.

She'll learn

 

[How Sway?]

African/WI women >>>>



Balck women from the deep south are good too.

But other than that sistah be on one man

 

[MalikReloaded]

I agree with just about all of this. The problem is these women can't meet the standard of the men they want. The bolded could also be used to express the women described in the article. A bunch of those females are just mad that they themselves can't live up to the standards of the men they are interested in, so they spew the "there's no good men" rhetoric which shyts on all black men, and shifts the blame for their situation to another party. It seems to me the women in the article are mad because the nikkas that are interested in them don't meet their standards, and they don't meet the standards of the nikkas they want. I think part of it is, nikkas are getting smarter now. Why would a nikka who is doing well, want a washed thot, when he can get one in her prime, with less standards/mileage/rules/expectations. On average, a successful man in his 30's -40's has exponentially more viable options he is interested in, than his female counter part(Young nikkas take note). Social media, and reality tv has fukked up a lot of people's heads.

Men and women have different peaks. Women have the most leverage when they're young (and beautiful). Men have the most leverage when they're older (and more financially stable). These women waiting until they're 35 are playing a losing strategy. You don't have any leverage anymore because there are women 10 years younger than you, and that's who the "men on your level" are checking for. Not you You should have used your leverage in your 20s to find a good hard working man instead of playing the field and finding yourself. Find a husband at 25. Not 35. As more time goes by, it becomes obvious why the older generations picked our mates for us.

 

[iBrowse]

shyt reminds me at how I was perplexed at my girl getting me a gift and some food she made...like really and she laughed at me acting so amazed at some "basic stuff" as she put it. Its like I was conditioned to not expect anything from a significant other :totheeastside:

 

[Blackout]

If a black woman is looking down on black men who make the normal amount and are only demanding that their men make a high amount compared to the average and cant find a man then the problem is her high standards.

Dont even get me started on women who only want a man who is tall with big dikk. That limits them further.

Then when you realize that some of them dont even stress personality over looks it becomes even worse for them in finding a good man.

Having high standards never benefits anybody even men.

 

[iBrowse]

I feel bad for you single brehs that just want a nice, clean woman :totheeastside:

 

[ahdsend]

Haha respect. This post is hilarious I have nothing but sisters all of them married well except one. Infact 2 of my Sister's husbands are millionaires.

the one that didn't marry well, ended up getting pregnant by some nikka with different baby mom's no degree either. I asked her what she saw in him he's tall and darkskin her ex was tall
No talk of ambition, etc...That hoe is suffering now. Lol

all my sisters have masters or PhD but don't work and are stay at home mom's but she's working 12 hr pharmacist shifts.

I have mercy on her all time. Even when she disrespects me. If i should decide to tell her about her life she will cry blood.

We need to stop coddling women. She even gets angry when I talk about single moms, single ladies who have nothing but degrees. My other sisters who have happy marriages never disagree with me in that regard.

Shes bitter and mad

 

[godliness]

Yeah there are plenty of doctors with their own clinics. In fact, if you are a doctor and you don't contract work in a big hospital, you should own a small clinic. She has never once dated one of those guys tho . She says they are all married. I'm not in that field so I don't know if that's hyperbole or truth.

She's just a 1 year and a half older than me, 29, so I kinda agree with my brother. She just isn't ready for it. Even the way she talks about relationships is one sided. Everything she says starts with "He betta..." and nothing about what she feels she has to do.

She'll learn

Ive seen women like the way you described your sister and I hate to say it but she maybe better off with a cac. I honestly can't see any self respecting black man wanting a woman like this. no disrespect

 

[Gonzo]

Nobody cares about your degrees if you look like Sherri Shepherd