So fellas, the ladies wondering why ya'll aren't settling down for them. -Essence Mag

[Art Barr]

I wanna call bullshyt on black women spouting this rhetoric but I cant. My own sister says this shyt EVERY TIME we get together as a family.

She's a doctor, tall and in-shape , and by no means ugly.

This is more or less the convo we had at Thanksgiving:

She's doing her usual "men ain't shyt" routine

So I say to her, "what's the most important thing to you in finding a man?"


She goes, "Lots of things are important, I can't single out a few."

She's being difficult, so I ask, "Do you have any dealbreakers?"

She immediately responds, "Gotta be 6'2 at least and make as much/more money than me"

I remind her, "I get the height requirement, you're tall, but you do realize you are a doctor with your own clinic right? How many men do you know are making roughly a quatermill a year?"

She gets defensive and says, "I worked hard as hell to get where I am (which, to her cresdit, s absolutely true). So what do I want with a man who didn't do the same?. I don't have time for a failure, I need a good man."


Instead of arguing salary ceilings for different preofessions, I hit her the KO truth. "You know what? . By your own salary restrictions and coerlating that with if a man is good or not, do you realize that not one of us (her 5 brothers) would qualify as a good man in your eyes? . Even ________ who makes more than the rest of us, still doesn't make as much as you. If you weren't in this family, you would look at every man in here as a non-viable partner even though we all pass the height requirement."


Brehs you could hear a pin drop. She laughed it off like, "Well of course there are some exceptions, I would have to get to know them."

I didn't bring up the fact that she dated a 5'7-5'8 cac who made 50k a year training dogs. I showed mercy, it was a holiday



But we are getting together for new years and watch her rehash the same shyt again like our convo never happened.


Brehs I love my sister to death but I pray for her everyday. She lawst and swirling her way down to bedwenchdom

man, you already know.

art barr

 

[↓R↑LYB]

Cutting through alot of the BS and fukkkary that's on this board. this is really the underlying issue between a lot of men and wonen today.....women truly want to run the show in their relationships its not enough to have a provider now they expect a man to submit... And as a man that was raised a certain way I can't get down with that.

I disagree 100% but I'll let y'all cook. Half these controlling ass broads will get some act right immediately when a nikka with some paper roll up. Y'all must have never seen women switch up for a nikka they really want.

 

[iBrowse]

Its still a new relationship... but i'm probably gonna marry her. She looks like exactly like Sevyn Streeter




I just gonna clean up my life a bit.

No more finessing coli brehettes in the PMs

nikka I've been so done with PMs and non-platonic texts

 

[Gold]

nikka I've been so done with PMs and non-platonic texts

I have an addiction with playing with fire breh. I tiptoe that line extra

I need to stop forreal tho

 

[The Mad Titan]

Its still a new relationship... but i'm probably gonna marry her. She looks like exactly like Sevyn Streeter




I just gonna clean up my life a bit.

No more finessing coli brehettes in the PMs

nikka I've been so done with PMs and non-platonic texts

I've noticed you moving different in these coli streetz




congrats bro

 

[MBwithadream]

So many #HOH threads on this site. If only these dudes put as much energy into, and cared as much about, their relationships with women as they do their "boys"

things would be a lot better. You have dudes still traveling in squads well into their late twenties/early thirties. Dudes still unable to make important relationship

decisions without talking to their "boys" first. shyt is fukking pathetic. You shouldn't even have friends after a certain age. Your entire focus should be on your home

life, and your work life. But these "boys" never want to man the fukk up. That Peter Pan Syndrome is real, unfortunately.

 

[Art Barr]

I can't find a good black man, any colioligist would like to help me discover what my issue is

you have seasoned hag on your log in, brehette.

trying to find someone is not a bullshyt tongue in cheek sarcastic game and i know so.
all, because you on here trying to raid the braintrust.
to figure out the equation to men.
yet, continue to defy all the actual rules that are visibily present.
plus, continue to shun.


art barr

 

[Easy-E]

It's always been a woman problem. I've had women tell me that exact same shyt. I have zero sympathy for them though, their student loan debt will keep em warm at night

U cold, breh

 

[StarGirl]

.

 

[iBrowse]

I've noticed you moving different in these coli streetz




congrats bro

shyt ain't getting scary with me

 

[iBrowse]

you have seasoned hag on your log in, brehette.

trying to find someone is not a bullshyt tongue in cheek sarcastic game and i know so.
all, because you on here trying to raid the braintrust.
to figure out the equation to men.
yet, continue to defy all the actual rules that are visibily present.
plus, continue to shun.


art barr

 

[Gold]

I don't get serious unless I see myself marrying.

Otherwise its a waste of time

 

[BaggerofTea]

I just want a darker-skinned Taylor Rooks lookalike with a PhD in chemical engineering, domestic and maternal skills and a net-worth of 10 million to fall madly in love with me and I'll hold out hope until I'm 40

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YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSSSSSSSS LAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWD

 

[Cynic]

I'm pretty sure with my mindset, im probably gonna piss a lot of ladies off down the line. I'm getting my money and balling out. Living a 2nd childhood, better than the first,
and condensing my "Had my fun" twenties into my early 30's. THEN probably end up dating younger. I got a decade and a half of fukkery ahead of me so I understand some of their
frustration, but this "no good black men" shyt is false.

Likely a ton of a good black men who don't make enough money to qualify as "good". Then again, the odds are kinda against them.

Breh you ain't the only one....

A lot of these women have serial issues that wouldn't translate well into ANY long term relationship

 

[Rarebird77]

Everybody always tries to make this discussion more complicated than it really is.

If you are a woman and you are not married yet it is because you are just not wife material. Simple.

Great wife material women don't just get passed up on. That's like saying there is a basketball player in the league that is 10x better than Michael Jordan ever was, but teams just keep passing on him for absolutely no logical reason. It doesn't happen. So all these delusional women keep blaming men for this when they refuse to look at themselves. Being classy and educated doesn't automatically equate to a good woman. My older cousin, shes a top lawyer at her firm she's educated obviously, doesn't go out too much. Isn't showing ass and isn't all over the gram, but she isn't homely at all. Can't cook well and would rather hire somebody to clean. She's just not a "Hold the fort down" kind of woman. And she wonders why a man hasn't proposed yet.

Men are expected in society to be the breadwinners and be highly educated and all that other stuff. We need somebody to fill our gaps not bring the same thing we already have.
If we have built a house and a woman comes by and says "Well look at me I built a house on my own" and another woman comes buy and says "I love your house I have all this furniture." Guess who is getting the ring?

This is the deepest shyt I've read on here.

Thanks for this.