So fellas, the ladies wondering why ya'll aren't settling down for them. -Essence Mag
Security and protection. Women are still women at the end of the day. That's basic human behavior.I never understood the height requirement thing:
You know what else has height requirements? Carnival rides.
You ever found a carnival ride you would take seriously in a relationship?
Didn't think so.
Go to any downtown, you will see WAY more black women in corporate America than black males. They're usually viewed as less threatening and also generally are usually qualified/overqualified on top of meeting the race quota. Black women are also the most stable employees you'll find, they tend to not move around too much if they're happy where they're at
Larry Lambo
Superstar
by the way I clicked in the link in the OP's post, the sh*t is totally misleading, those women look nothing like the women who are on the blind dates, it all makes senses now.
Yeah, same here.
If you check out the 20/20 special they did a few years back the girls did look better, but they also were getting mad play. They just had crazy requirements and didn't have the looks/personality to snag an elite dude.
Go to any downtown, you will see WAY more black women in corporate America than black males. They're usually viewed as less threatening and also generally are usually qualified/overqualified on top of meeting the race quota. Black women are also the most stable employees you'll find, they tend to not move around too much if they're happy where they're at
Yeah but black men still earn more because of the types of jobs. (ie down here in houston oil field work...just an example) and the degrees earn by women are often in the arts. Not stem fields. That makes a HUGE difference in salaries earned.
I see this too though... I work in accounting/finance.....but I tell you the black women who work at my company are not the higher earners at all. Except for the stragglers in marketing and IT. But that few an far between.
Look this up... its true based on the stats. Also consider white females are attending college at much higher rates than white males as well. MUCH higher.
Larry Lambo
Superstar
Somewhat. But a lot of women would pick a tall beanpole with no hands versus a short swole Navy Seal.
Saying that women choose tall men because of protection is like saying men choose women with T&A because they are more fertile.
That may have been the biological root, but sometimes you gotta just say that is what looks good to you. Chicks with fat asses look better to me. I don't give a sh*t about her fertility.
Crayola Coyote
Superstar
Magazine named "essence" does not need a explanation on something they already know the answer to.
YupI'm pretty sure with my mindset, im probably gonna piss a lot of ladies off down the line. I'm getting my money and balling out. Living a 2nd childhood, better than the first,
and condensing my "Had my fun" twenties into my early 30's. THEN probably end up dating younger. I got a decade and a half of fukkery ahead of me so I understand some of their
frustration, but this "no good black men" shyt is false.
Likely a ton of a good black men who don't make enough money to qualify as "good". Then again, the odds are kinda against them.
I ain't settling. My appeal went up in my 30ths and I been on a roll. These old thots begging a nikka to settle down
Nope
The men around me with wives married women that have been by their side for years not reformed thots
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It's not that complex, it's for their child. This is more of an America thing. In other countries, it's not like here in other cultures. We as Blacks see oursleves through white viewpoints. In where I am from, they like thick women because it's like a sign that she has money and she has child bearing body. Not thick like what we see here on instagram and not obese like Americans can get but thick. Women look at men for their ability to provide like everywhere.
agnosticlady
AL loves da kids : )
I need to go re-read this thread 
I wanna call bullshyt on black women spouting this rhetoric but I cant. My own sister says this shyt EVERY TIME we get together as a family.
She's a doctor, tall and in-shape , and by no means ugly.
This is more or less the convo we had at Thanksgiving:
She's doing her usual "men ain't shyt" routine
So I say to her, "what's the most important thing to you in finding a man?"
She goes, "Lots of things are important, I can't single out a few."
She's being difficult, so I ask, "Do you have any dealbreakers?"
She immediately responds, "Gotta be 6'2 at least and make as much/more money than me"
I remind her, "I get the height requirement, you're tall, but you do realize you are a doctor with your own clinic right? How many men do you know are making roughly a quatermill a year?"
She gets defensive and says, "I worked hard as hell to get where I am (which, to her cresdit, s absolutely true). So what do I want with a man who didn't do the same?. I don't have time for a failure, I need a good man."
Instead of arguing salary ceilings for different preofessions, I hit her the KO truth. "You know what?. By your own salary restrictions and coerlating that with if a man is good or not, do you realize that not one of us (her 5 brothers) would qualify as a good man in your eyes?
. Even ________ who makes more than the rest of us, still doesn't make as much as you. If you weren't in this family, you would look at every man in here as a non-viable partner even though we all pass the height requirement
."
Brehs you could hear a pin drop. She laughed it off like, "Well of course there are some exceptions, I would have to get to know them."
I didn't bring up the fact that she dated a 5'7-5'8 cac who made 50k a year training dogs. I showed mercy, it was a holiday
But we are getting together for new years and watch her rehash the same shyt again like our convo never happened.
Brehs I love my sister to death but I pray for her everyday. She lawst and swirling her way down to bedwenchdom
@Anwulika
I thought you said i was lying bout naija girls tho
Larry Lambo
Superstar
30 pages over the same sh*t. This is f*ckin' simple:
The section of the country that has one of the highest if not the highest college attendance rates: black women
The section of the country that has one of the lowest if not the lowest college attendance rates: black men
In 2015 the odds are 3:1 that a black male on average earns less than his female counterpart. A successful black woman is gonna have to settle for someone beneath her level on average. There's only 10,000 or so professional black athletes, and a handful of black ceos, probably less than 10,000 midsize companies owned/ran by black males, so there's MILLIONS of educated black women out there who are kind of f*cked
I'd like to see the source where it shows 3:1 odds of a male earning less than his counterpart. That would mean that in a group of 400 people (200 male, 200 female), that 150 of the women would make more than the man, and it would be the opposite for 50 couples. Seems a little off considering that black men on average make more than black women.
Regardless, men and women value different things. A highly successful black woman with average looks will have problems pulling a highly successful black man, regardless of his looks. Similar to a very attractive broke man will have problems pulling very attractive broke women. Making 6 figs doesn't entitle you to a man making six figs. That's not how it works.
I'm not going to bash these women. I would look like a hypocrite if I do. I can't say one has too high standards when I do it myself. 
No bachelor's degree
Only a bachelor's degree
Can't speak a foreign language
Can't cook
No professional career
Under 5'5
So I can't hate on these women.
No bachelor's degree
Only a bachelor's degree
Can't speak a foreign language
Can't cook
No professional career
Under 5'5
So I can't hate on these women.
Art Barr
INVADING SOHH CHAMPION
Night game been dead....
Night life is a boring ass corporate feeling Xmas party at the sckrip club, now.
Art Barr
Art Barr
INVADING SOHH CHAMPION
Dawg,....black men are not more employed and not paid better than black women.
That is a bonafide lie,...black women are jn the economic pole position in America on purpose.
So, this country can gain access to a matriarch based economy and spending they perpetrated to use as a economic buffer and stimulus.
All this black guys make more than black women shyt is old ass baby boomer numbers.
nikkaz not even going to college like that a d then trying to say we do is a lie, too.
Not to mention, we going to college and then getting employed with great salaries....they need to stop lying.
Art Barr