So Yall Really not gon get Married?

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

I agree with you but I do think there is value in marriage outside of children. For example, if you were to be with a woman and live off of one income and investment the other income to build wealth it would be smart to be married in order to hold each other accountable for money movement.

that's true partnership. I don't trust nobody nearly that much without kids in the middle. Plus I know my level of crazy. I'd never submit to no divorce that took me to the cleaners without going

One of my good friends got married 4 years ago. his girl convinced him to move away with her and leave his career. they were talking about having a kid and building a life. at the start of the pandemic I seen her post her first selfie and she hasn't stopped since... now she lives on vacation in tulum.

he told me they were split but she don't look like a married woman at all. even got bold enough to slide her new breh in the pics. flew back in to the country just to sell her furniture and close her lease. then went back to tulum. she said 2020 was the best year of her life. the year of her divorce

I don't even have the words to call my boy up n talk to him about this shyt because of how foul it is and he was trying to keep it low but his "wife" is out there living it up. this man left his job his city his friends to build a life with her. they were working for the same company. he even got his family into their business.

the most critical part of this mess is that they were both in their 40's when they met and she was coming off another separation and divorce. she did him the same way she did her last dude. someone wise once said a woman is gonna leave you the same way she came to you. words to think on for dudes who like taking women from other men

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

that's true partnership. I don't trust nobody nearly that much without kids in the middle. Plus I know my level of crazy. I'd never submit to no divorce that took me to the cleaners without going

One of my good friends got married 4 years ago. his girl convinced him to move away with her and leave his career. they were talking about having a kid and building a life. at the start of the pandemic I seen her post her first selfie and she hasn't stopped since... now she lives on vacation in tulum.

he told me they were split but she don't look like a married woman at all. even got bold enough to slide her new breh in the pics. flew back in to the country just to sell her furniture and close her lease. then went back to tulum. she said 2020 was the best year of her life. the year of her divorce

I don't even have the words to call my boy up n talk to him about this shyt because of how foul it is and he was trying to keep it low but his "wife" is out there living it up. this man left his job his city his friends to build a life with her. they were working for the same company. he even got his family into their business.

the most critical part of this mess is that they were both in their 40's when they met and she was coming off another separation and divorce. she did him the same way she did her last dude. someone wise once said a woman is gonna leave you the same way she came to you. words to think on for dudes who like taking women from other men

I understand but I personally won't be out here doing it all by myself and I won't be giving access to my money without legal repercussions but that's me. To each their own. I can't base my life off if the failures of others.

 

[JQ Legend]

It's simple. Rich and successful people get married and stay married. Poor uneducated people do not get married and if they do, they get divorced at higher rates.

If the majority of the people you know can't sustain a marriage or live in BM/BD land then chances are you are poor or at the very least surround yourself with poor people...which means you have their mindset ie why you don't or can't see the value in marriage.

As far as the people I know, the majority I know who are married are happily married. The majority who have been divorced have happily remarried. I hope that answers your questions.

So what you’re saying is only rich people should get married and they should only get married to other rich people?

Being that the overwhelming majority of people are not rich or even close means most people should not get married then according to your logic. Am I correct?

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

So what you’re saying is only rich people should get married and they should only get married to other rich people?

Being that the overwhelming majority of people are not rich or even close means most people should not get married then according to your logic. Am I correct?

I think one of the fastest ways to build wealth it via marriage. Poor people are the ones who should be getting married the most however they don’t because many don't understand the financial aspect of marriage. Poor people should get more education on the matter and use marriage as a way to help leverage themselves into a better financial situation for themselves and their families.

Most people get divorced because of money. If the money part was already defined from the jump then perhaps the divorce rate would decline

 

[JQ Legend]

 

[SupaDupaFresh]

The fact that youre walking into marriage with your own whimsical fantasies about how it could and should function and this lady of yours aint even with it tells me you are far from ready. Marriage in 2021 is a womans institution and a womans lifestyle, not ours. And its a lifestyle you are choosing to bear with for the next 40, 50, 60 years of your life unless you want to go through a lotta bullshyt. Any attempt to mold marriage into something you want, as a man with his own needs, is gonna fail and be miserable disaster that will leave you in ruin. Dont get married because you have some ideology you want to espouse. If you dont want children, a house, cobined income and wealth, and a binding legal union protecting all that under a family name DO NOT DO IT. Youre not gonna be the one to luck out and dodge all the conventions and live some unique married life you created. If you think any of these females love you enough to give up the power status and lifestle that marriage gives them you got another thing coming. Youre gonna get married and just end up like every other man that got married, and ve on that GMB traub real quick believe me. If you do not crave parenthood at this point in your life and dont have a desire to be another "Dad" pecked around by a woman every day with fear of divorce looming over your life, stay single, fukk, hang out. Dont make it a marriage unless its absolutely everything you want.

 

[KidJSoul]

The stats are public record and common knowledge.



Correct. There are certain professions that that have divorce rates in the single digits. Broke people are the ones failing at marriage because people with education and money take the time to learn to benefits of marriage and us it to their advantage.

If a couple making 80k each lives off of 1 income and invests the rest think of the wealth they can aquire in 10 years. Versus a couple barely getting by and building no wealth. That first couple is more likely to stick it out for the huge financial benefits and it is reflected in the stats.

Finances are apparently a big portion of what causes divorces. There are a lot of articles like this: 11 Most Common Reasons for Divorce | Survive Divorce

I feel like we can make a formula for this.

Marry someone that is attractive, that you have a great sex life with, that you have lifestyle and job compatibility with (you see eye-to-eye on things like household tasks, political views, and and what's considered fun hobbies), and that you are on the same page financially with. And make sure you have that chemistry/tingle with that person (personality type, polarity, ying/ying and masculine/feminine). All of this probably reduces chances of infidelity of a decent amount.

And get a prenup

Women take precautions all the time in relationships so you should be allowed to as well

 

[SupaDupaFresh]

You can get married and still end up here

Please let em know. These motherfukkers about to man up and learn the hard way marriage is FAR from some ticket to better living. It takes far more tremendous work to stay happily married than people really understand. Talking about how they marriage "gonna be" lmao

 

[MikelArteta]

If people don't want to get married so what
if people do so what

Just because you get married doesn't mean you'll have a happier life than someone who is not and vice versa . Marriage is hard work
Nothing in life is guaranteed not long life, great health, a great marriage etc.

At the end of the day do you and enjoy life

There are people who are married and love it
There are people who are married and hate it
there are people who are not married and love it
there are people who are not married and hate it

 

[KidJSoul]

Do you ever go to women and tell them to stop being snobby, stuck up, entitled, moody unrealistic, unaccountable, lazy, uncooperative, dismissive, untrustworthy, fat whores and bytches?

You women, black women, in particular, have created this bullshyt narrative that all men, black men in particular, don't want to get married and would rather fukk off on hoes for the rest of our lives. Yet in this thread, the mass consensus from men - black men, at that - is marriage would be great, but what's the point when you all feel like it's ok to bring along your toxic behavior, then bounce with everything we've worked for just 'cause you have a tingling in your vagina.

YOU get it together. Stop asking men to put in all the work in the relationship, all the work in the marriage AND also protect ourselves from you being spoiled brats.

welp there's two views on this point. Some think it should be equal work, others think men should lead and do the work. Ironically enough, there's women who want men to put all the work into the relationship, and then get surprised when a lot of men are chauvinistic in relationships.

It all depends on what works for you and your girl. A lot of people in this generation are realizing that despite great efforts towards equality, a lot of our attraction to each other still resembles traditional dynamics (masculine feminine, dominant submissive polarity).

So as a man, you might be better off doing the work in the relationship.

But make sure your wife acts appropriately and does what she is supposed to do as well. Make sure she is the yin to your yang.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Finances are apparently a big portion of what causes divorces. There are a lot of articles like this: 11 Most Common Reasons for Divorce | Survive Divorce

I feel like we can make a formula for this.

Marry someone that is attractive, that you have a great sex life with, that you have lifestyle and job compatibility with (you see eye-to-eye on things like household tasks, political views, and and what's considered fun hobbies), and that you are on the same page financially with. And make sure you have that chemistry/tingle with that person (personality type, polarity, ying/ying and masculine/feminine). All of this probably reduces chances of infidelity of a decent amount.

And get a prenup

Women take precautions all the time in relationships so you should be allowed to as well

I agree

 

[Killigraphy]

The problem is that anyone who's married or looking to be married, are chasing the concept. Its far too idealistic, there's high divorce rates among the rich and poor, and even then, said couples didn't need to get married.

If you're a high value male or female, you're fine, treat yourself good, make your money and find a boyfriend/girlfriend. Chasing a title will leave you broke, alone or even abused in some cases. The bright side? Sure, living happily ever after with someone is beautiful, but again, what does that have to do with finance and or a legal document?

 

[JT-Money]

Poor people should get married. If you're a guy already making well over 6 figures. Marriage isn't going to really change your financial situation for the better. You'll most likely waste more money trying to maintain a certain lifestyle keeping up with the joneses due to your wife.

 

[Apollo Creed]

The problem is that anyone who's married or looking to be married, are chasing the concept. Its far too idealistic, there's high divorce rates among the rich and poor, and even then, said couples didn't need to get married.

If you're a high value male or female, you're fine, treat yourself good, make your money and find a boyfriend/girlfriend. Chasing a title will leave you broke, alone or even abused in some cases. The bright side? Sure, living happily ever after with someone is beautiful, but again, what does that have to do with finance and or a legal document?

people (women) want weddings not marriage lol

 

[97Pac]

Most of them will eventually. They need to stop pretending like rich men problems are their problems. I know plenty divorced couples and most men aren't getting taking to the cleaners. It's usually a pretty clean break.

Even average men get fukked up. Child support, alimony if she doesn't work or make very little, forking over half your 401k. I haven't met one male that got divorced and didn't get fukked up in some type of way. A breh I work with everyday is miserable because his wife is making his life hell but he has to tolerate it because he can't afford the divorce. He is going to go from living in a 3500 sq ft to a 900 sq ft apartment and seeing his kids every other weekend while paying alimony and child support.