So Yall Really not gon get Married?

[Aceofspades404]

"Hey single man making an above-average income and living a lifestyle he thinks is fulfilling, you know what you ought to do? Get married. Now I know there are a lot of risks involved, because we grown women basically stop maturing at sixteen and thus don't really know what we want day-to-day, but I've come up with a right proper solution - spend your time you could be doing the things you find already fulfilling learning how to protect yourself!"

It must hurt to "think" how you "think."

Let's revisit a comment a few posts above yours.



What's hard about this, ma'am?

Women take on zero risk in marriage. Men take on all the risk.
And no. It's not "risk" when make up in your head that Michael B. Jordan might have come knocking at your door if hadn't gotten married.

When you ask someone else to form a legal bond with you, where they will be taking on the entire risk burden, YOU need to be the one to convince said someone of outcome is substantially beneficial and YOU need to be the one who ensure you're not the reason the bond is broken. As it stands, the reason (black) men are avoidant of marriage is because (black) women don't want to be married and the black community, which has been matrifocal for three generations now, has suffered immensely for it. In this thread, even most of the guys who are against marriage are only against it due to the legal power women have to bring nothing, yet take away everything. (Black) women, especially in Western societies, have an established track record of not being fit for marriage AND the attitude that (black) men better just put up it. What is it that makes you all believe anyone is pining to deal with that?

I realize you think (black) men are big, dumb wallet-penises who are going to fall for your shyt, but there's a reason why you're middle-aged, used up and have no ring on your own finger, ma'am.

Women fare worse financially after divorce then men do. This isn’t an opinion, it is a fact. Now given this fact, also consider that most marriages are dual income meaning the woman has to work in order to provide also the fact that women take on the boat load of child rearing and domestic duties. Also, don’t forget that it’s way harder for a divorced woman with children to marry than it is for a man. So no, women take on the most risk in a marriage.

 

[JT-Money]

No im not gonna get married
Thats just me though, do what yall want

I foresee the majority of the couples in this article not making it. Once these chicks get bored and the house is paid off the husband will get his walking papers. She'll walk away with most of the assets and just find another sucker to subsidize her lifestyle.



Women Who Settled For A Partner Who Wasn't "The One" Are Sharing Their Stories, And It's A Perspective You Don't Often Hear

 

[Gold]

Imagine a group of men finding it too hard to run a family, then scratching their heads on why black folks have a hard time running a business, let alone a nation.

Y’all nikkas tell on yourselves every time.

I think you're misrepresenting the GMB argument. They aint saying its too hard to run a family, they are saying that they do not want to get married, fullstop.

No sharing of wealth
No chance at divorce
No sharing of assets
etc.

They dont want legality attached to their relationships.


And to that I say... good, dont ever get married.

As a married man, I can say with full honesty that the majority of people should have never gotten married. So many people have no idea what marriage is and what its for and how to move through it. And they they wanna get married? Nah fukk that, 60% divorce says ya'll need to put the ring back in your pocket and send it back to Michaels


Marriage aint for everyone. And the last thing i'm gonna do is shame men who have no intention or skillset for getting married into marriage.

 

[sosayeth]

opinion that's based on exceptions and not fact

Good luck on your search for a sucker, ma'am.

 

[the bossman]

i think american men are becoming too fragile

Men becoming more féminine and women more masculine. Whole culture is fukked up

Women take on zero risk in marriage. Men take on all the risk.

No But This ain't true breh. The laws we have in place now were implemented Because women had too much risk and if the man decided he could up and leave leaving her without a pot to piss in.

Problem is those laws were at a time when women did not have access to the economic opportunities they have now so the laws need to be adjusted. But that's another topic.

Point is its not true to say they have no skin in the game

 

[RTF]

Nonsense.

The average divorced women with kids stock plummets drastically for hopes of another marriage. Her body is deemed second-hand. Assuming she has kids, she's likely to be the main carer and that has an impact on her financial independence.

Marriage secures women status and some level of financial security but that's it. Body compromised forever. Personal dreams deferred.

 

[sosayeth]

No But This ain't true breh. The laws we have in place now were implemented Because women had too much risk and if the man decided he could up and leave leaving her without a pot to piss in.

Is there a factory that just makes this stuff up for y'all to run with? Why do y'all argue exceptions as if they're rules?

The overwhelming majority of all marriages until the 1940s ended with the husband dying either during or three or four years after retiring from his fifty-seventy hour work week doing backbreaking hard labor.

Point is its not true to say they have no skin in the game

It is true, eight of ten divorces are filed by women. It's easy to check out when you have nothing to lose.

 

[Aceofspades404]

Good luck on your search for a sucker, ma'am.

get a fleshlight and stay away from women.

 

[sosayeth]

The average divorced women with kids stock plummets drastically for hopes of another marriage. Her body is deemed second-hand.

What does this have anything to do with anything. Note the lack of question mark at the end of that sentence.

Assuming she has kids, she's likely to be the main carer and that has an impact on her financial independence.

You must be fifty or sixty. We're not talking about your generation. MOST young black women today get pregnant and have kids without even being married. The woman is often the main caretaker because the court system will do whatever they can to restrict the father's access to the children as much as possible. It's common knowledge that unless you can prove derelict or substantial substance abuse, you have very little chance of beating out a woman over custody. Regarding "financial independence," TODAY - not forty years ago - when women enter a marriage at a level of financial security, the majority of divorced women leave at that same level or higher. I shouldn't even have to say this to adults, but exceptions don't make the rule.

EDIT: Not to mention all the governmental assistance available to women with children, on top of alimony and child support. Someone should run a campaign promising to financially assist men left with nothing after a divorce. I guarantee women would shut that shyt all the way down, though.

 

[sosayeth]

get a fleshlight and stay away from women.

I'm confused. Aren't those the same thing?

 

[BaldingSoHard]

There's just nothing in it for me.

 

[JQ Legend]

I'm an adult sir. I don't live in Disneyland. Marriage is a financial vehicle. Your post speaks to the point I have been making the whole thread.

I don’t think I’ve ever met a man or woman for that matter who said they wanted to get married for business reasons

You want to get married to someone who is at present moment a total stranger and not even because you Love that person but because they will help you accumulate wealth

Like I said good luck with that one

I let it be known early I’m not getting married, I was GMB before GMB

Not sure if you were the one saying y’all can spend one income and save the other but if u were, are you cool with your income being the one spent?

 

[MaxPain]

No im not gonna get married
Thats just me though, do what yall want

 

[JQ Legend]

This isn't true breh.

There is an important financial risk for men. Women risk everything else.

like what?

 

[JQ Legend]

Women fare worse financially after divorce then men do. This isn’t an opinion, it is a fact. Now given this fact, also consider that most marriages are dual income meaning the woman has to work in order to provide also the fact that women take on the boat load of child rearing and domestic duties. Also, don’t forget that it’s way harder for a divorced woman with children to marry than it is for a man. So no, women take on the most risk in a marriage.

How could this possibly be the case when women are the main recipients of alimony and child support?

And if marriage is so much of a risk for women why are y’all the main ones pressuring marriage AND the ones filing for divorce 70+% of the time?