Social Anxiety/Phobia???
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Used to when I was younger. I slowly came out of my shell after the age of 20 and now I'm good. I'm still not a social butterfly nor do I want to be but I'm never anxious around people anymore and can be quite charming.
I'm glad I got out of it early because I know how u can get. My wife has a 34 year old brother who is pretty much a hermit. Dude no showed our wedding because large gatherings make him so uncomfortable. It's really bad to the point I been with my wife 4 years and me and this dude never said more than what's up to each other because he avoids me. Wish I could help him but he would just take it as patronizing the same way I would have. Pretty sure dude is also a Virgin too which makes me want to help him even more but idk.
I'm glad I got out of it early because I know how u can get. My wife has a 34 year old brother who is pretty much a hermit. Dude no showed our wedding because large gatherings make him so uncomfortable. It's really bad to the point I been with my wife 4 years and me and this dude never said more than what's up to each other because he avoids me. Wish I could help him but he would just take it as patronizing the same way I would have. Pretty sure dude is also a Virgin too which makes me want to help him even more but idk.
I CAN TELL U THIS, IT'S ALL IN YOUR HEAD...A HURDLE YOU CAN EASILY GET OVER WIT SOME SELF-DISCIPLINE. AND WHATEVER U DO, DON'T TAKE MEDS FOR IT, AS IT'S JUST A MASK AND WILL FUCC U UP EVEN WORSE ONCE U GET OFF EM.
Take Brazillian Jiujitstu and you'll never be p*ssy again.
SmoothOperator88
Your friendly neighborhood coli poster
I've dealt with it for most of my life. I found my own niche so to speak, so there are certain people I'm comfortable around. But the shyt's like both an anchor weighing me down and and a guillotine waiting to drop over my head on the same time.
I have Asperger's which explains a lot and has given a lot of clarity to a lot of the shyt I went through socially when I was younger and the emotional scars I have today, but on the flip-side it made me very self-conscious and fed my already existing self loathing and depression. I keep to myself a lot. I get extremely uncomfortable and scared when people I don't know very well initiate interaction with me and I push them away (including family and sadly my mother). Small talk is overwhelmingly tedious.
Low-key even posting on the coli is a challenge. I have an opinion, but don't have much to say and hard for me to say what I have to say. If that makes sense.
I've been able to come out of my shell for the most part and can seem normal on the outside. But it's a daily struggle. Been in therapy the majority of my life. It helps a bit, but it's hard for me to focus when I feel overwhelmed with my own struggles and issues. SeIf-image and self-esteem, family issues, general 20's finding your way/coming of age stuff, depression, anxiety, women and dating, fear, coping or lack of coping etc.
A lot of little shyt that most people take for granted is a challenge for me. And I've accomplished a lot and gotten much further along, relative to where I was in high school. Still, I don't feel proud of my accomplishments because all my life I've been hearing I should be this and I'm supossed to be that. To the point where even though nobody's saying it now, I'm saying it to myself constantly.
Brains suck brehs. I genuinely wish I can turn my mind off from time to time.
I have Asperger's which explains a lot and has given a lot of clarity to a lot of the shyt I went through socially when I was younger and the emotional scars I have today, but on the flip-side it made me very self-conscious and fed my already existing self loathing and depression. I keep to myself a lot. I get extremely uncomfortable and scared when people I don't know very well initiate interaction with me and I push them away (including family and sadly my mother). Small talk is overwhelmingly tedious.
Low-key even posting on the coli is a challenge. I have an opinion, but don't have much to say and hard for me to say what I have to say. If that makes sense.
I've been able to come out of my shell for the most part and can seem normal on the outside. But it's a daily struggle. Been in therapy the majority of my life. It helps a bit, but it's hard for me to focus when I feel overwhelmed with my own struggles and issues. SeIf-image and self-esteem, family issues, general 20's finding your way/coming of age stuff, depression, anxiety, women and dating, fear, coping or lack of coping etc.
A lot of little shyt that most people take for granted is a challenge for me. And I've accomplished a lot and gotten much further along, relative to where I was in high school. Still, I don't feel proud of my accomplishments because all my life I've been hearing I should be this and I'm supossed to be that. To the point where even though nobody's saying it now, I'm saying it to myself constantly.
Brains suck brehs. I genuinely wish I can turn my mind off from time to time.
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Prince Mongo
Banned
The nikka that wrote that stupid ass shyt about only cacs feel anxiety pissed me off. That's one of the black community's biggest problems imo, we act as is mental illness is a myth or can just be gotten over by smoking, drinking, drugs. Almost everybody in my family on both sides has some mental illness. One of my uncles was a schizo. I got a lot a drug addicts and alcoholics in my family too. Another one of my uncles almost killed my cousin when he was a baby because he was on heroin.
nikkas ain't smoking crack, shooting heroin, popping oxy's, drinking until they pass out, ect. for no reason. It's an escape from their own minds. The way I see it, smoking weed is enough to deal with my problems. If you have to start doing hard drugs you must have some really fukked up problems. My mama used to work at the insane asylum. Most of the folks in there were black, and when they get out they roam the streets like the rest of us.
You never know what someone has going on in their head. Think about nikkas who rob, kill, rape, do evil shyt, you don't think their mentally off? OP should make this a thread about mental illness in the black community in general, and how to cope with it and alleviate it
nikkas ain't smoking crack, shooting heroin, popping oxy's, drinking until they pass out, ect. for no reason. It's an escape from their own minds. The way I see it, smoking weed is enough to deal with my problems. If you have to start doing hard drugs you must have some really fukked up problems. My mama used to work at the insane asylum. Most of the folks in there were black, and when they get out they roam the streets like the rest of us.
You never know what someone has going on in their head. Think about nikkas who rob, kill, rape, do evil shyt, you don't think their mentally off? OP should make this a thread about mental illness in the black community in general, and how to cope with it and alleviate it
I deal with this. It sucks, ppl don't understand , I mask it very well. Since I look the way I do ppl expect me to be somebody bigger than I am.
I told my mom about it she passed it off as me just thinking to much. My sister understands tho we have deep talks about it.
Only time I can block it out is when I drink just enough to get me feeling good. Weed does not help, hell it make it worse that why I don't really do it anymore.
I want to talk with somebody but I don't have health care. So I'm stuck.
To be honest I have not been 100% carefree happy since was younger.
All in all I just suck it up, deal with it ,play my music and try to fix other pp issues around me to put my shyt out of thought. Can't be feeling sorry for yourself as a Black man in white world, they just looking to see sign of weakness to attack you.
I told my mom about it she passed it off as me just thinking to much. My sister understands tho we have deep talks about it.
Only time I can block it out is when I drink just enough to get me feeling good. Weed does not help, hell it make it worse that why I don't really do it anymore.
I want to talk with somebody but I don't have health care. So I'm stuck.
To be honest I have not been 100% carefree happy since was younger.
All in all I just suck it up, deal with it ,play my music and try to fix other pp issues around me to put my shyt out of thought. Can't be feeling sorry for yourself as a Black man in white world, they just looking to see sign of weakness to attack you.
This is such a dope post, especially the part where you emphasized that the "token" blacks that make is do so because they're not completely mentally beat down by society. There is a lot of truth in that. Hence why consciousness is so important. I like that perspective.
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If you live in the US, your local city or county government most likely offers free mental health services for residents.
Get Immediate Help | MentalHealth.gov
If not your city/county, try a local medical school or graduate school/university offering Psy.D., M.S.W. or other professional counselor training/education.
Thanks but I'll never be okay with having to sit and talk with someone to help me, plus that person will most likely be white. Just can't do it.
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Not always. I know A LOT of Black people who are L.C.S.W. (licensed clinical social workers), and they are qualified to provided clinical counseling. They take insurance and often are located in psychiatric practices and psychologists offices. Don't let the phrase "social worker" throw you off either, because many LCSWs *exclusively* do clinical counseling.
Also: you can do it on the phone.... A lot of jobs have free employee resource hotlines- even if you're part time
Social Anxiety Disorder and Social Phobia: Symptoms, Self-Help, and Treatment
Reginald Noble
Banned
nikka mowgli probably think us going back to the jungle to wrestle with them damn tigers is the cure for all that ails our community...
Back to the jungle?nikka mowgli probably think us going back to the jungle to wrestle with them damn tigers is the cure for all that ails our community...
What are you trying to say?
Yesterday was alot better.
Hell. I was on the train people were looking at me and i'm hitting them back with the
feeling like a gotdamn celebrity.
So now i know better how to handle these situations.
Keep a good attitude.
Dont focus on others too much.
And play it cool.
In the end there are things much worse that I could be dealing with.
Hell. I was on the train people were looking at me and i'm hitting them back with the
feeling like a gotdamn celebrity.So now i know better how to handle these situations.
Keep a good attitude.
Dont focus on others too much.
And play it cool.
In the end there are things much worse that I could be dealing with.