Solutions on dealing with heartbreak?

With all details available, is this relationship worth salvaging?

  • Yes

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • No

    Votes: 79 91.9%
  • Possibly (but give reasons)

    Votes: 7 8.1%

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CarmelBarbie

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You know her better than anyone on here. But from reading this thread and your responses, this is a clear sign of a toxic relationship. Some people are toxic with certain others and act better when they are with someone else. Why you keep trying to work out something where the area is toxic? If you had a toxic job that gave you a out, would you take it and move on unless you felt that you couldn't get another job? You both stay connected because both of you feel that no one else will want you in my opinion. Start believing that there is something better for you and just be a great co-parent with her. Nothing else :whoa:.
They have kids together and he still loves her so I think he’s willing to move pass the past to move forward and restore their family. If I told my son’s father or my last ex that I wanted to make it work, I know they would scramble to get back with me regardless of me being in a relationship right now, fukking other dudes, being a straight up bytch to them in the past etc. I also know that there’s not much I could do to make them not want me atp because that’s what they’ve proven by not getting over me and continuing to make it clear that they want me back.

The problem is it’s almost human nature that when you know you can get away with stuff because they’ll always want you can sometimes lead you to not take that person as seriously or respect the relationship. that’s why I told him to be cautious.

But who knows, her moving a man in after they broke up, and whatever happened over those 4 months might have been the reality check she needed to realize that maybe things weren’t that bad w/op.

Whatever the case, she wants him back and he wants her back regardless of the past, so she’s on her best behavior (only time will tell if it’s temporary just to get him back or if it’s her modifying her behavior to be a different kind of partner this time around ).

From what he’s shared, some of her grievances with him were warranted, so perhaps with both of them willing to put in the work now, communicate more and such, they can have a healthier relationship moving forward.

I think op just needs to be cautious and be willing to leave this time around if he notices them falling into old patterns (which is common when you get back with an ex). Otherwise—he’s going to do what he wants and he’s right that none of us know her better than him. I wish him well.
 
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You know her better than anyone on here. But from reading this thread and your responses, this is a clear sign of a toxic relationship. Some people are toxic with certain others and act better when they are with someone else. Why you keep trying to work out something where the area is toxic? If you had a toxic job that gave you a out, would you take it and move on unless you felt that you couldn't get another job? You both stay connected because both of you feel that no one else will want you in my opinion. Start believing that there is something better for you and just be a great co-parent with her. Nothing else :whoa:.
This is a fair post and my response would be, yes our relationship was toxic, but we can choose to kill off that toxicity. Look bro, everything will show in time. I'm not throwing in the towel because I choose to wait for the other shoe to drop---->it's possible there is no other shoe to drop and keeping it a hundred with me, and willing to grow from her own mistakes...

Its not that i dont think no one else wants me. I've seen this woman and our relationship at its best. The January thru April, but particularly February and March, were the worst. I love this woman and I'm committed to being a better man not just for myself, but for the relationship we had at our best, and better than that...

There's always a possibility shyt could go wrong in any relationship. I'm pushing forward based on what she's telling me abd showing me now, and who I've known her to be, at her best, in the past...
They have kids together and he still loves her so I think he’s willing to move pass the past to move forward and restore their family. If I told my son’s father or my last ex that I wanted to make it work, I know they would scramble to get back with me regardless of me being in a relationship right now, fukking other dudes, being a straight up bytch to them in the past etc. I also know that there’s not much I could do to make them not want me atp because that’s what they’ve proven by not getting over me and continuing to make it clear that they want me back.

The problem is it’s almost human nature that when you know you can get away with stuff because they’ll always want you can sometimes lead you to not take that person as seriously or respect the relationship. that’s why I told him to be cautious.

But who knows, her moving a man in after they broke up, and whatever happened over those 4 months might have been the reality check she needed to realize that maybe things weren’t that bad w/op.

Whatever the case, she wants him back and he wants her back regardless of the past, so she’s on her best behavior (only time will tell if it’s temporary just to get him back or if it’s her modifying her behavior to be a different kind of partner this time around ).

From what he’s shared, some of her grievances with him were warranted, so perhaps with both of them willing to put in the work now, communicate more and such, they can have a healthier relationship moving forward.

I think op just needs to be cautious and be willing to leave this time around if he notices them falling into old patterns (which is common when you get back with an ex). Otherwise—he’s going to do what he wants and he’s right that none of us know her better than him. I wish him well.
You get it and I appreciate you breaking it down for these guys!
 

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Workout/cardio, hang around positive friends/family, try eating healthier (high consumption of ultra-processed and fast foods are linked to depressio), delete any pics/vids of her, remove her from social media

Really just keep yourself busy so that your mind doesn’t get idle and start reminiscing about her. Time will do the rest.
 

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since i posted up in here, shorty done came off her high, realizing her fukk ups… so she proclaims, but anybody got experience on letting em back or going back down the road with ya child mother?
 

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Never jump in to a new relationship quickly. I made a mistake of rushing in to a new relationship with a woman who wasn't the right fit for me
 
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