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OP, have you considered acquiring 808s? Disregarding heartbreak?
By that I mean get creative. Interpret how you wish.
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OP, have you considered acquiring 808s? Disregarding heartbreak?
By that I mean get creative. Interpret how you wish.
Good luck. As a man you shouldn't dwell where you have no respect. I'm older than you. You are still consumed by this woman. All she needs is one missed payment to replace you again. Learn from the past or live thru the same situation again. You are projecting what you feel about her, you are useful to her as a provider until you aren't not her lover, this is what she shows you already.
Regardless the issue here is she treated you like you were expendable when you share a child. Raise your kid not your hopes for love and reconciliation. She done it once she will do it again. You can chose to relive that cycle or learn from the one time.
I in no way mean to make light of the situation bro.
This sounds like a voodoo issue to me though.
Make sure you not tied to her.
This sounds like a voodoo issue to me though.
Make sure you not tied to her.
Bolded is facts and basically what this thread was really about from jump.
Feels like both don't know how to properly communicate with each other so they just keep doing random shyt that pisses the other one off. This whole slow it down approach is prolly what they needed before he left and that other nikka moved in. Almost kinda too late for that now, but if they make it work more power to em.
This thread and its saga went on long enough.
murksiderock
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I didn't ask for specifics because that shyt gets in the way for me emotionally. Like, so much noise has crowded my thoughts with this situation for months and it affected me...
Now, I can give a guess, because again I know her, and though I didn't ask for specifics, there have been clues dropped whether said or implied. So I think it was a mutual parting of ways, and I believe she told him she still love me. He also came out his own situation and I think that was part of the conversation. I think it's obvious they like each other, but I think there was a mutual understanding that both of them are still into their exes to get too attached to other people...
Also, he soon-to-be 35 with no children abd she has 3, so while he likes her and was down with the situation, I think there was apprehension on getting heavy with a woman who has kids...
Again I didn't ask her directly, "who left who", nor did she say; this is an educated guess based on a series of statements over the past few weeks. She said she was done with him, isn't involved with him in any capacity, he's moved out...
I guess I always knew I could have her back. And I always wanted her back. And again, we aren't together currently, we're still single, treating this as a "separated but feeling each other out" type situation. She's acknowledged that she's still in love with me, the way I am with her. We aren't together though and we've been really vocal so far on the issues we've had with each other...
I'm definitely being cautious, because if I find out he or anyone else is still involved, it's an easy dub for me. I'm not going balls to the wall yet, I'm feeling her out too. There's been alot to consider from not just the last 4 months, but in our relationship prior. So I'm protecting myself and much of that is due to advice I got from brothers in here! nikkas don't see that because they want me on some "fukk that bytch" shyt and this ain't that, but I'm protecting myself, trust!
You're a woman so you know women, and we know all women aren't the sane the same way all men aren't. You can place two random men in the same exact scenario and they approach it differently, same thing for women. I'm saying that to say, she hasn't said this verbatim but again it's an educated opinion based off the person I know her to be;
I think she's regretful for messing with dude and she wants me more and is grateful I'm willing to look past it. Not forget it. But I'm willing to look over it. She's less than 4 months from 29, three kids, and though she has many positive qualities, she has some drawbacks too on top of those things. She knows she's not easy to deal with and there are many men (in this thread
) who would shyt on her for how she's been...That's not me, though I've been very clear that she fukked up too, this and some things in our relationship prior. And I think my behavior, my approach or countenance or whatever you wanna call it, it makes her want me more. Because she know she fukked up...
And I stress again, I know I fukked up in a number of ways too. So we in a period where we are looking to heal but also keeping single...
Alota dudes couldn't do it, and to be 100% clear, I'm not doing it or going thru a situation like this again with her or anyone else. But I'm forgiving the shyt she's done, and looking to move forward. I'm not dwelling on the past, we have to rebuild trust and I'm setting that example by not hammering her over the head on fukking with fam. She knows how I feel about it, she says it's over so it's over, unless something otherwise comes up, but I'm not in here expecting the worst...
bro what are you doing? Everything everyone said in here came true.She will break your heart again. Cut her off.
@murksiderock be careful bro
murksiderock
Superstar
Again this is cool but you're speaking from a "women in general" perspective and I'm talking about this specific woman that I know. One way you're already wrong is I intentionally missed sending her some money twice in the last 2½ weeks to feel her out, and her response has been better than it would've been prior...
Good luck. As a man you shouldn't dwell where you have no respect. I'm older than you. You are still consumed by this woman. All she needs is one missed payment to replace you again. Learn from the past or live thru the same situation again. You are projecting what you feel about her, you are useful to her as a provider until you aren't not her lover, this is what she shows you already.
Regardless the issue here is she treated you like you were expendable when you share a child. Raise your kid not your hopes for love and reconciliation. She done it once she will do it again. You can chose to relive that cycle or learn from the one time.
So I'm setting her up for some big gifts tomorrow (cash delivery) and Friday (non-cash gifts delivered) for Mother's Day weekend...
So look my nikka, it's not that i don't find your advice sound or valuable, all these nuggets help. It's helped me to protect myself. She could shyt on me again, but I could apply that pessimistic view to literally anything in life. My kids, my car, my home, my career, my family, my friends, anything. I'm not taking that approach, I'm sorry that doesn't please you nikkas
...Bit I'm confident if shyt fell apart again for reasons of the past ill respond appropriately!
RaspberryFitted
Boyz In Motion Member
Again this is cool but you're speaking from a "women in general" perspective and I'm talking about this specific woman that I know. One way you're already wrong is I intentionally missed sending her some money twice in the last 2½ weeks to feel her out, and her response has been better than it would've been prior...
So I'm setting her up for some big gifts tomorrow (cash delivery) and Friday (non-cash gifts delivered) for Mother's Day weekend...
So look my nikka, it's not that i don't find your advice sound or valuable, all these nuggets help. It's helped me to protect myself. She could shyt on me again, but I could apply that pessimistic view to literally anything in life. My kids, my car, my home, my career, my family, my friends, anything. I'm not taking that approach, I'm sorry that doesn't please you nikkas
Bit I'm confident if shyt fell apart again for reasons of the past ill respond appropriately!
Mods should shut this shyt down.
You ignored damn near every bit of advice brehs offered and that’s perfectly fine. You have to live with this decision and what follows. And from you have shared, that encompasses a alot.
Godspeed black man
You ignored damn near every bit of advice brehs offered and that’s perfectly fine. You have to live with this decision and what follows. And from you have shared, that encompasses a alot.
Godspeed black man
murksiderock
Superstar
No, I didn't ignore every piece of advice in here...
I ain't been the nikka bumping this thread but keep it active, there's waaaayyyyyy Wacker threads on this silly forum that don't get shut down weekly. Keep it active because it's a poster sharing a real life thing I'm experiencing...
I'll make sure to bump it when I marry her down the line...
YaThreadFloppedB!
The Patron Saint of Threads
God showed you that guh you want back ain’t no good when you ran into ol dude that moved in with her.
And deep down you know she was talking to him while you and her were still together
you get what you deserve.
Sauce and Footwork
Superstar
Bro I swear I am not saying this in a a$$hole way.. I’m typing it, so it’s gonna sound like it lol, but it seems like you are still not comfortable with the decision you made, because everybody is telling you the same thing at this point that we disagree with you, but you keep responding trying to rationalize it and explain how you feel. No we wouldn’t do it. But if that’s cool with you. Hey fukk it. Just go live your life bro. Don’t worry about our opinions if you not adhere to them. We not changing our minds and you not changing yours. Best of luck tho. I really really hope it works out for you. Most of the time it does not. But there are some exceptions. Maybe it can be y’all. But everybody here who has given you advice has been sincere. Nobody been a hater. Everybody just speaking they mind off experience. Best of luck my dog. See you in another thread lolI didn't ask for specifics because that shyt gets in the way for me emotionally. Like, so much noise has crowded my thoughts with this situation for months and it affected me...
Now, I can give a guess, because again I know her, and though I didn't ask for specifics, there have been clues dropped whether said or implied. So I think it was a mutual parting of ways, and I believe she told him she still love me. He also came out his own situation and I think that was part of the conversation. I think it's obvious they like each other, but I think there was a mutual understanding that both of them are still into their exes to get too attached to other people...
Also, he soon-to-be 35 with no children abd she has 3, so while he likes her and was down with the situation, I think there was apprehension on getting heavy with a woman who has kids...
Again I didn't ask her directly, "who left who", nor did she say; this is an educated guess based on a series of statements over the past few weeks. She said she was done with him, isn't involved with him in any capacity, he's moved out...
I guess I always knew I could have her back. And I always wanted her back. And again, we aren't together currently, we're still single, treating this as a "separated but feeling each other out" type situation. She's acknowledged that she's still in love with me, the way I am with her. We aren't together though and we've been really vocal so far on the issues we've had with each other...
I'm definitely being cautious, because if I find out he or anyone else is still involved, it's an easy dub for me. I'm not going balls to the wall yet, I'm feeling her out too. There's been alot to consider from not just the last 4 months, but in our relationship prior. So I'm protecting myself and much of that is due to advice I got from brothers in here! nikkas don't see that because they want me on some "fukk that bytch" shyt and this ain't that, but I'm protecting myself, trust!
You're a woman so you know women, and we know all women aren't the sane the same way all men aren't. You can place two random men in the same exact scenario and they approach it differently, same thing for women. I'm saying that to say, she hasn't said this verbatim but again it's an educated opinion based off the person I know her to be;
I think she's regretful for messing with dude and she wants me more and is grateful I'm willing to look past it. Not forget it. But I'm willing to look over it. She's less than 4 months from 29, three kids, and though she has many positive qualities, she has some drawbacks too on top of those things. She knows she's not easy to deal with and there are many men (in this thread
That's not me, though I've been very clear that she fukked up too, this and some things in our relationship prior. And I think my behavior, my approach or countenance or whatever you wanna call it, it makes her want me more. Because she know she fukked up...
And I stress again, I know I fukked up in a number of ways too. So we in a period where we are looking to heal but also keeping single...
Alota dudes couldn't do it, and to be 100% clear, I'm not doing it or going thru a situation like this again with her or anyone else. But I'm forgiving the shyt she's done, and looking to move forward. I'm not dwelling on the past, we have to rebuild trust and I'm setting that example by not hammering her over the head on fukking with fam. She knows how I feel about it, she says it's over so it's over, unless something otherwise comes up, but I'm not in here expecting the worst...
ORDER_66
I dont care anymore 2025
I swear no one car be this stupid when it comes to women.... but i hope he's trolling me with this simpin shyt...
watch him in a year or two man she was cheating on me again i thought i could trust her!!!
Me: simp dumbass... we warned you... she cheated and moved another man in you think she wont cheat again??? fukking retard...
watch him in a year or two man she was cheating on me again i thought i could trust her!!!Me:
simp dumbass... we warned you... she cheated and moved another man in you think she wont cheat again??? fukking retard...